Community | July 23, 2008 | 62 comments

Dying eight-year-old 'marries' his school sweetheart

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Given only weeks to live, Reece Fleming proposed to his 'special friend' Elleanor Purgslove at a laser tag party.

After she accepted, their parents arranged a make-believe wedding at Reece's home in Mackworth, Derby. He died the next day with his family.

Reece's mother Lorraine Fleming said he told her, "I can go now" after his wish had been granted.

The 28-year-old said: ""He was so proud of her, and we were proud of them both."

Reece was diagnosed with leukaemia in July 2004, when he was aged just four.

He fought the disease for four years until May when doctors told him he had just weeks to live.

Ms Fleming, said she and his stepfather Mick Thompson had tried to help him achieve as much as possible before his death, including marrying his sweetheart.

"When we found out that we only had a few weeks with him we tried to do absolutely everything with him that we could.

"Him and Ellie had been 'special friends' for a couple of years but then they broke up.

"We said we'd have a pirate party, and Ellie came. She went to visit Reece a few times in hospital as well.

She added: "We also had a football and laser quest party, apparently that's when he proposed to her."

The pair went out to dinner in the mayor's limousine and the families organised a 'wedding', complete with rings, a stand-in vicar and a certificate.

The ceremony was carried out on July 4 and the following day Reece died at home with his family and a Macmillan nurse.

At his funeral, mourners followed a horse-drawn hearse on foot.

Ms Fleming added: "Even on the Saturday that he died, he got out of bed and walked to the sofa.

"He always tried walking, right to the end, so we thought if he walked for us then we would walk for him."
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62 comments // Dying eight-year-old 'marries' his school sweetheart

  • danali
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      danali  
    • It was a wonderful thing that the little girl did for the dying boy. But it is kind of strange too. Eight year olds should not marry anyone, even if it is a dying wish.

    • 3 years ago
  • Tikbalang
  • Will_the_Thrill
  • hcoteen2008
    • 0
      hcoteen2008  
    • This story is very touching and I shed a few tears. It's really sad that he passed away. At least he went happy and he fulfilled all his dreams. There's a lesson that be taught here.

    • 3 years ago
  • pvl1
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      pvl1  
    • i think its awesome that he still got up and walked the day of his death. thats determination, 'specially for an 8 yr old.

    • 3 years ago
  • PoisonTheMonkey
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      PoisonTheMonkey  
    • Poor kid...at least he got what he wanted, it's wonderful that no one told him he couldn't get married.

      Though, if he wanted to marry another little boy, would they have still said yes?

    • 3 years ago
  • FreyaS
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      FreyaS  
    • What a sweet little story and what an equally sweet little boy and girl.
      Sorry to all those moaners out there...but in my (humble??) experience as a Mother of three under 12 and the Vice Chairman of a National children's charity (where many of the children are terminally ill) I've found kids of that age understand A LOT more than you guys give them credit for. I also think this will have helped the family no end...afterall you'd go to the ends of the earth to make your kids happy and these parents are no exception. I hope Reece rests in peace and that his parent's remember him as the happy little boy enjoying his "make believe" wedding.

      I frankly see nothing wrong or "weird" in this story at all - it's a sweet sweet story - plain and simple.

      www.freyasykes.com

    • 3 years ago
  • shaggy83
  • tammid23
  • onechance
  • SLindsayM1991
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      SLindsayM1991  
    • people never give kids enough credit when it comes to their intelligence and understanding of situations like this. I think it may even be easier for them to get it because they haven't been jaded by the world yet, they still believe in dreams and know that they come true.

    • 3 years ago
  • shroomfairy
  • oldsaltproductions
  • Xqu_sme
    • 0
      Xqu_sme  
    • I think this story is one of the sweetest in a long time.
      It's nice to know that even at a young age some can show and understand love in all it's glory.

    • 3 years ago
  • magadocious
  • sueathome
  • stonefree87
  • NoGodsNoMasters
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      NoGodsNoMasters  
    • Alright, I guess I'm going to be the dick.........8 year olds don't know love......they know attachment. They love their fav toy as much as they love their parents at that point. This is just the equivalent of when kids use to pretend to get married at recess. It's great he had a close friend, it sucks that he died so young but this has nothing to do with "True Love".

    • 3 years ago
  • alicynx
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      alicynx  
    • NoGodsNoMasters:

      You don't have kids, do you?
      My seven year old knows the difference between 'love' and 'attachment', and she'd certainly understand this situation. Eight year olds are still very young and learning about feelings, that's true, but they get the idea that there's a difference between loving a person and loving a toy.

    • 3 years ago
  • dwb2585
  • jadedcontemplations
  • hothair6
    • 0
      hothair6  
    • That is really the most touching story I've heard in a long time. What a brave little boy, and what wonderful parents. That is really a life lesson that little girl will always have now, how precious life is.

    • 3 years ago
  • Joe_Leo
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      Joe_Leo  
    • did the girl know he was going to pass away the day after they got 'married'?

      thats harsh on her. tho she helped him get his last wish, may he rest in peace

    • 3 years ago
  • WorldPeaceTV
    • 0
      WorldPeaceTV  
    • So sad, yet so sweet...rip kiddo, at least you got your wish and then to move on to the next level...much love and respect to the families...

    • 3 years ago
  • wolfstano
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      wolfstano  
    • This is very heartwarming. I think it does place a lot on the little girl though. However, I think she'll be able to understand and be proud of what she did for her friend once she's older.

    • 3 years ago
  • Kewara81
  • teenelizabeth
  • jennatar
    • 0
      jennatar  
    • I distinctly remember idly wondering as a child, in a "My Girl" meets "Shadowlands" sort of way, who I'd marry if I were about to die. I think this story really resonates with people because it's such a human thing to want -- nothing really 'strange' about it in the slightest.

    • 3 years ago
  • jjmaster
  • jcorzo
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      jcorzo  
    • I don't really understand this. I think loosing a son or daughter might be a very traumatising event. However, one thing is to have a playdate and pretend the kids get married while they are playing in the playroom. Another big different thing is to pretend a real wedding with 8 year old kids. I am sorry, this is not right. We all have had sweethearts at that age. The little girl does not need to know that marriage is desirable or is expected. We don't know what her interests wil be when she grows up.She for sure will remmember this day when she got married, the parents put all this together and the next day her little friend was dead. I am sure, the kids would have been happier to pretend they get married in their own terms and even to pretend they got a baby with a plastic doll in a stroller or whatever they wanted to do.
      I find this sick. However, I am who to say what is the best way for parents to raise their children.

    • 3 years ago
  • alicynx
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      alicynx  
    • jcorzo:

      My daughter is seven, and I believe she would fully understand a situation like this and participate knowing that the event was for her best friend. She talks about marriage even now, and I explain how it works (her father recently remarried and she was in the wedding) as well as why some people do it and others do not. This wasn't something foreign to the little girl, and I think she understood the reality of death and dying in a way that only a direct observer can.
      Its poignant and compassionate that this little girl was willing to go through this ceremony for her friend, to help him feel like he experienced everything he could. There's an enduring beauty to her act that she will proudly carry her entire life.

    • 3 years ago
  • JanaPokana
    • 0
      JanaPokana  
    • While I think it is a little weird to see an 8-year-old girl dressed up as a bride, children play family all the time, so there is no harm. It is amazing that she was such a great friend and stood by him to the end and if the mock ceremony was the little boy's last wish and it allowed him to die happy, it is all fair.

    • 3 years ago
  • hankgoold09
    • 0
      hankgoold09  
    • i think the girl was pushed into it.....now shes always going to have to bear with that for the rest of her life.........its a great story...but 8 years old...

    • 3 years ago
  • CTZNWES
    • 0
      CTZNWES  
    • God, this just tugs at my heart. An honest and pure heartfelt story.

      "It is love, not reason, that is stronger than death."
      - Thomas Mann-

    • 3 years ago
  • Brittanyope89
  • HighT3chR3dn3ck
    • 0
      HighT3chR3dn3ck  
    • 8 year olds getting married? That's just weird and creepy. You gotta' imagine that is going to have some psychological bearing on the little girls life.

    • 3 years ago
  • petarro
  • mattbrawn
  • squidteeth
  • mattbrawn
  • Vierotchka
  • SLindsayM1991
  • Painter_Gene
  • clayjj05
  • richjm
  • JudahEvan
  • egarlow
  • J_Jammer
    • 0
      J_Jammer [removed]  
    • "He always tried walking, right to the end, so we thought if he walked for us then we would walk for him."

      There was no better way to end that article....perfection can exist in writing/speaking---words.

      And those are the kind of people that should never die. What a great family and a great share.

    • 3 years ago
  • reallynatasha
  • Cuddlebones
  • jimenagamio
  • Chellin_OftheCross
  • PaliNadia
  • nata0204
  • ocanada
  • rekloess
    • 0
      rekloess  
    • So, what happened to the little girl he married? That seems like a heavy tragedy to go on from.. she's 8 years old and returning to school and her husband for a day has passed away?

      I get the sentiment though. That is sweet, and who is culture to say that letting them have a marriage ceremony is silly. That's so sad though.

    • 3 years ago
  • CCashman
  • Soap
    • 0
      Soap  
    • rekloess:

      "After she accepted, their parents arranged a make-believe wedding at Reece's home in Mackworth, Derby. He died the next day with his family. "

      If I could bolden the words "make-believe," I would.

    • 3 years ago
  • knightlynight200
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