Why Nice Guys Finish Last

Nice guys finish last because younger women like being treated like shit. Allow me to rephrase that in a way that WOMEN can digest it:
Nice guys finish last among younger women because younger women love bad boys. Bad boys present a challenge and an air of danger and mystery that keeps the young woman's interest stimulated. The bad boy's lack of interest in the woman challenges her sense of adequacy and desirability. The core reaction is "I know I'm pretty but why doesn't this guy want me and care about me?" Its not necessarily about wanting what she cant have, its about making him want her more than any other woman thereby validating her self-esteem. Nice guys have lots of desirable quailities; caring, dependable, thoughtful, trustworthy. But if it is one characteristic that younger women cant stand its being boring. Boring represents predictability and safety; two things that bad boys lack.
However the tables turn when a woman progresses to the point in her life where she is really looking for mr.right to settle down. This is where those boring qualities or predictability, responsibility, caring, and trustworthiness suddenly become important criteria for the wannabe bride. Think about it, what normal woman wants to marry a bad boy who is always putting his own needs before hers and is irresponsible? And what kind of father would a bad boy make?

Where's the article about intelligent women finishing last? Or older women? Or overweight women? BAAAAAWWWWWWWWWWWW

what an empty pathetic existence. Can you imagine these guys after 30? It's boring nice guys that finish last. If you're confident, funny, a good listener AND nice you can still get women.

I'm a typical NG but the last girl I dated had been in several relationships with "guys in bands".

She was really happy to finally land a NG. However, she had been so emotionally damaged from these guys I couldn't take it and had to end the relationship.

Girls are definitely attracted to the bad boy. I hope that when they become women they get a little smarter and date guys who treat them right.

Otherwise they deserve to date douche bags and be miserable forever.

I have many male friend, and a fair number of them are what you can call "bad boys", and I really dont blame them, if a girl get hurt by them its not because they deceived her, is just she though it was something more than it really was, as simple as that. This "bad boys" usually dont lie to you, they are very straight foward, so you know what you are getting in to.
The real dangerous type is that guy that poses as a good guy, thats the one you need to be careful of.

He will also be the first to be HIV positive of get Herpes or Hepatitis. Don't you wish you could be him?

A Fool's Gambit - I was always tall for my age in grade school ending up at 6'2" slender, great hair, reasonably good looking, prep-school, Ivy League, grad school, smart well-read, raised in Westchester County, began playing guitar and singing folk music in the fifties, coffee house performer in the 60s/70s, in a #1 pop music band in the mid 70s, always self-employed early computer entrepreneur, lived in beautiful places AND I LOVE WOMEN!

I have slept with too many sweet ladies to remember most of their faces and almost none of their first names. Last names never mattered for a night for a weekend for a month or "forever" which usually lasted a few months or a few years.

I'm in my late sixties. I live with a sixty-one year old smart sweet financially independent skinny beautiful popular woman who looks like a woman in her forties. I must be the envy of many men when we are out and about.

But too many woman can spoil the ability for permanence. I am perhaps too use to "the conquest". For sure I am a fool over and over again trashing perfectly beautiful relationships - NEXT!. Sometimes I wish that I was someone else with a different background and different motivations.

In my case ignorance might have been bliss. Instead I am sexually the composite of all that I have been taught and given by too many sweet women who were looking for the same thing we all seek - a wonderful relationship.

I saw a man on a crutch
Who said why ask for so much?
I saw a woman in a door
Who said why not ask for more...LC

"The guy who wins women over with deceit, callousness and impulsive behavior."

I was passing back through this page, and the line above from the article caught my eye. Guys WIN WOMEN OVER with those three things? And women think GUYS are screwed up? When I was single, a woman wouldn't even get past the first one (deceit) before I would tear up her phone number, let alone callousness and impulsive behavior! I understand the ovulation thing...but can it really throw your homones so completely over the edge that you are attracted to deceitful, callous, impulsive scumbags? Surely there is SOME degree of mind over matter...

Wow this post is a waste of Current space, belongs on your MySpace profile! Who care about this crap.

Most girls only want to have sex with the bad boys especially during the high estrogen time of the month during ovulation approx. 72 hours. Bad boys may give the appearance of being more masculine, which causes a biological desire for said bad boy. The theory is that women are scouting for the perfect sperm donors, for offspring will most likely survive because they look tough.

For the rest of the month she wants the nice guy.

Really girls do you want to be with someone that has been inside 50 other chicks before you. ewww. Can you spell D-I-S-E-A-S-E

Douchebags get laid a lot. They don't really get worthwhile relationships. I suppose that's a fucked-up sort of balance, right?

If your objective is to stick your wang into as many holes as possible, then yes, nice guys will finish last.

Life is more complex than this...?

Well, that IS good news. Bad boys don't like "complex." It makes their tiny little brains hurt.

Seriously, though, when I think back on the bad boys from my youth I realize now that they had a way (in general) of self-selecting themselves out of the gene pool.

A couple went to prison (a DUI can, and does, become vehicular manslaughter in the blink of an eye), several died in various motorized vehicle accidents, and a LOT of them are total wrecks today...all that hard livin' is fine in your 20s and 30s, but it takes a terrible toll by the time you hit your mid-40s. You have heard the expression "don't drink and drive?" How about "don't drink and grow old?"

of course its posted by singrr. she definitely wants a dude in a band. all i got to say is that being the bad boy isn't the hard part. its being the nice guy.

just listen to kitteneater--guaranteed she is hottie who rejects all the duche bag 'bad boys'.

hot girls who don't fall for the 'bad boys' are where its at, and i'm convince that they are about 1-2% of the female population.

I'm a girl boys don't ignore. In yet, I don't find this type of boy attractive at all. But I don't look for sex in a relationship. I try to tell the boys at school that very thing. These "bad boy" types approach me sometimes, and I tell them I'm looking for a deep conversation, and they all end up looking like idiots. It's actually sort of funny.

Didn't I see an article here on Current a few months ago explaining why it isn't true that nice guys finish last? Let us put the cliches to bed people. Life is much more complex than this.

As my boyfriend has said: Not all the nice guys are actually nice. They just think they are. Some wanna try to manipulate a girl into having sex with him, and when the girl declines, he calls her a "slut" and tells people that nice guys finish last and girls only like bad boys.

Actually they don’t in the long run.
They don’t end up marrying the slut that slept around with all the bad guys.
They usually stay married for life.
They are more likely to be successful in life.
They live longer
They stay healthy longer
They are great fathers and husbands
They usually marry woman who become the best mothers and wife’s,

Hmmmm. In high school and college I was a "nice guy" and an "A-student." So I should still be a virgin. BUT, I also played in a band, worked four nights a week (so I had cash the other three), and liked two things about girls (aside from the obvious): making them laugh and listening to them talk.

I don't remember a weekend or a dance when I DIDN'T have a date...

Then I got old...but my wife takes pity on me...

Yeah, if you try to be the bad boy to get girls, you're never going to find a decent one. I know it's horribly cliche, but just be yourself and you will find someone that fits you like a puzzle piece. ^_^

I think I fall somewhere in the middle. I'm 18, know more or less how to get a girl interested, but I really don't like having sex with random girls. I have to have some sort of connection to someone before anything goes down. God knows that I'm not a player, but he (she?) also knows I CAN get a girl.

Because nice guys don't go to bars, don't get stupid retarded drunk, don't get into fights with other guys, don't like to watch SNL's the Best of Christopher Walken...

"But you don't know him like I do! He's only like this when he drinks ...which is all day everyday. Because he's a horrible binge drinking alcoholic dipshit."

...if the goal is simply to have more sex than yea, sure they win, hands down, no argument.

if the goal is to be happy, content, stable and in a decent relationship with a person you love these people will invariably fail and fail hard.

i was the highschool "bad boy" but rejected it because it made me fucking miserable. props to people who DON'T have to go through it.

everyone wants to be 'that guy' im 'that guy'

Speaking as a male and probably way to sensitive as a youth and a victim of my heart. I probably should have been a bad guy when I was young because those guys scored big time in comparison. So I personally don't feel sorry for women or girls that fell pray to these kind of assholes, you got what you deserved.

How cruel can your society be?

I think younger women are more attracted to "bad boys" and as they get older they understand that dudes like that are nothing but a headache. At least that was the case for me, lol