Ahem! I think the key thing here is the fact that the test subjects were "university students" where the average age is in the teens/low 20s. Being older and single, I don't have much patience for such drama. I don't care how "perfect" to me he may seem, if he's attached, I don't need the headache.

It also explains why alot of women are getting beat up , smacked , & Dissed , because this is Not the right to do ,
if you want to go around looking over your shoulder
for the rest of your life , Oh yeah & DON'T Have A CHILD BY HIM . Because if his wife really loves him then YOUR DEAD so to speak i know someone like that & it was not good ! So take your chances , most will LOSE !

This definitely isn't going to make jealous, suspicious girlfriends/wives even more jealous/suspicious!

Not.

I'm impervious to all this since my resplendent aesthetics makes a study of this sort superfluos.
As an extrememly handsome man I can testify that my attachment to a woman has no effect whatsoever in the desire and the passion that has been shown to me by every woman I meet regardless of their age or relationship status.
Although at times this attention gets tiring I'd like to thank every women I ever met for their kind words and offerings.

Me thinks the reason you guys seem more attractive to other women when you are attached, is that your honey doesn't want anyone to think she is with a loser, so she lies about how great you are. Sorry, that's the truth.

I thinks its funny that people think this is a flawed study, when I think almost every guy who has done a good amount of dating realizes this is true. I can't think of how many times I have been single and wondering "why can't I find a decent woman", but when I am in a relationship interested women seem to pop up every other weekend. It seems like women want to get all worked up about studies that offer up data that are sometimes less than flattering to their individual psychology, but I know a lot of my female friends will say at a drop of the hat that women can be way more shady than guys.

but I don't have a husband.

well we all know how it ends....Beyonce kicks crazy husband stealing white girl's ass. Lets all learn from this.

you know what. its true...

because all the good ones are taken. its a fact.
so we see someone with qualities we like, 90% of the time... its too late someone already snatched him up.

"college students" LOL! Lots of loyalty, there. Ask a grown up.

I'm a bit off subject, but rather posting this on facebook with the current link, I usually like to post the original URL. It just amazes me how many site and blogs I had to move through in order to get the original link. This seems and easy way to put out false information, but that has nothing to do with this post.

Its sadly true.

When you on a relationship, theres so many women that want you and so when you end it to be with other women, they are no longer interested in you...

and then you are alone.

:(

So, have a gf? keep her. Someone else flirting with you? flirt back.

hmm...

there's some truth to this, i would say.

The important detail is the women were told they were matched to their perfect mate . The choice is predetermened by giving them the "perfect choice" and if they are married they know he's capable of a relationship , now they just need to let him find the women (them) they should have married . What a cute study of obvious reactions to "moral " choices .

Oh yes. Let's do continue to do flawed studies that perpetuate negative stereotypes about women. Keep going, it's not harming anyone...

For reference--the study size of 184 is nowhere near a large enough sample. The linked blog also raises several questions around methodology, including the fact that only a single photo of each gender was used, and that there is a big difference between indicating you might be willing to go after someone and actually doing so.

I'd also question the use of university students. In college "attached" is often (though not always) a far more nebulous and less serious relationship than it is later. It's also pretty vague. If they specifically said married, rather than just involved, would that change things?

there may actually be a chemical basis to why both men and women are more attracted to those who are already in a relationship, and is has to do with things like hormones and pheromones the bodies of both genders emit when there is sex going on...so hate to disappoint all the victimized out there, but it's actually a fact of life.

OMG...can we say mysogynist?

and this is something new? females have been the sneeky ones since time began. Eve... Helen of Troy, etc...

females have been trapping males for forever... the biggest weapon the females has... sex. the strongest motivator for females... a child.

the above scene happens everyday.... everyday some poor male is trapped by some devious female... everyday............

I just recently got hitched up with a old lady and there is absolutely no doubt. in the last three weeks I've had more advances from women than in the previous year

True. For some reason, when I have a girlfriend more women try to get with me. When I'm single this never happens...

this is explains a lot.

Is really "Evil" the right word? I know another word that starts with "b" that fits better.

Marriage is sacred

I think it's an unrealistic survey. Mostly because it's colelge students... a very small segment... how about older people? You ask 10 college students about loyalty, and 10 won't show much, ... come on, for gosh sakes, it's college!!!

We all know that this is a funny article, true, but funny! My friends wives were always most attractive. However, my aversion to broken noses, prevented any adventures.

This is bullshit...I just got out of a 7 yr. relationship and a month later was accused of 'wanting' my friends broke-down, cracked-out loser boyfriend...WTF....Who in the hell would want another womens Man-Baby....

This actually makes sense. I can't count the number of my wife's "friends" that have hit on me when she wasn't looking. Other single women were suddenly interested when they saw us out together or found out that I was married. I have never been able to figure this out why, but knew it was an ongoing situation. I always figured that if those ladies would cheat with me....they'd cheat on me.

I must be not be in the right place, is this really the #1 news story right now? What has happened to you current?

Lame pseudo-science is what makes the real science look stupid. Down with Pop Psychology!

I don't know about the research but, there's so much truth to this...that's why you keep all your lady friends to the side and just talk about how much he sucks because the second you say a good word and look the other way...snag! it works like a science!!! The b*tches creep in on a clean swoop playing the i'm being a friend, mommy card..whatever they got.
I actually had a male friend who couldn't get this one girl and we set him up like this...it just worked like a charm!!! Woman are shoppers they like what shining in the window, what everybody's sweating and you just cant get or not suppose to have..men on the other hand are more into conquering new ground...having what no other guy can have....king of the mountain type thing...not something being used at the time....it wont have as much value...I definitely see this so much.

Whoever submitted this is an idiot...the blog post is blasting the article for being bad science.

To borrow a four-letter abbreviation from slashdot: RTFA!

to all my married friends: I DON'T want your husband...you complain about him all the time...

you can have what ever i leave behind.good luck on that one

I like how the article mentions that maybe the lead should have been “If your man is not super attractive, other women may need him to be pre-screened before they’d think about going after him.” LOL

I wish they'd show the data on the men.

"Desperate" men are usually single and most women despise desperation in a man. While attached men are confident because there is always a fall back position. Women are attracted to confident men. This is just my personal observation when considering the conclusions drawn by small surveys.

damn funny!

That is not a small margin. Dere's gold in them thar' statistics. Somewhere there's a sociologist rubbing his or her hands together and cackling. I smell some kind of pop psy book in the offing.

Its always "safer" to want someone you can't have than to risk your emotions with someone you can. I suspect this is what this survey is really showing.

if anyone steals my husband, she'll get what she deserves. let her gather his dirty socks and listen to "call of duty" all night long. she'd be better off adopting a child!

(not hate mail, please. i was being facetious.)

I don't know that 184 is a statistically significant sample size.

Just the same, it hints at what I have long suspected about the biological origins of humans as polygamists-- just like Gorillas and Chimps.

The females want to be with the males who are taken, because they had to fight off males and win. If they've won other females already, it means that they are a worthy mate, and there's no need to test them.

Sean Says:
August 21st, 2009 at 7:17 pm
“What the piece neglected to note was the fact that filling out a survey form indicating you might be willing to go after a dude is a far cry from actually going after that dude.”
But this is unfortunately a problem with all sorts of these kinds of studies. Yes, it is an important caveat, but it is not unique to this study and in no way qualifies it as the “worst science article of the week.”
“If your man is not super attractive, other women may need him to be pre-screened before they’d think about going after him.”
Are you joking? Since 99% of men are not “super attractive,” this hardly changes the point at all.
You seem to be criticizing this article because you do not like its conclusion, but you aren’t giving any valid reasons for criticizing it. (”Hide-your-men-crazy-zombie-mate-poachers-are-on-the-loose “—seriously!?) I am not defending it, but kneejerk politics doesn’t belong in a science blog.

Is this sexist?

The article goes on:

single women may be more drawn to attached men because they’ve already been “pre-screened” by other women and found to be satisfactory as a mate, whereas single men are more of an unknown quantity.

i have to point out "unknown quantity".................