A woman admits lying about domestic violence to jail her husband for 10 months.

my ex-wife as done that same thing but woun`t amit it.It seems all you have to do is call the police and lie and file a report and the other person gos to jail and wates for the next count date in 3 to 4 mounts down the road and most likely is ya was drinking at the time you will get charged with it more and more mother are useing that excuse to get back at the other parent so that way they can put a restaining order and get full cositdy and the court dont care if it was all a lie or not on her part. lets explaine the situation...I had sared cositdy i was prental parent and the father of two boys untill one day back from there moms they have big bruses on there legs i call poilce took them to childerens med and call childrens servises well the police never put her to jail for it?I call childern serv back and they changed case workers and never returned phone call I all found out through the boys how it happen was there mom was thaking them out on crack buys going home and smoking it in the bath room told the boys to piss in a bottle they wouldnt stop buging them so they got the beltbuckle i got so up set that i went to the nabors house that was related to the stepfather and saidi was drunk and keeped the kids from me and said the little scratch on his neck was from me trying to choke and strangle my own kid the was a lie!!! well they was drove to my ex-wifes house and she filed the report i had to plee out or go to pision i took the plee right after my sentance childern servises finaly go over to her house and tested her for crack after my mom had to begg them to go have it checked out well she never went to jail or has a record for well fair frad she got caught for but my mom got tep costiody but judge ruled her full costiody thats so unfair the kids want to live with me reason court said they are entertain and not parented my kids get a`s and b`s hows that for parenting? the court dont care!!!... I think its a conflict of interesst and im filling and apeal

My wife and I were planning to get divorced, we had no history of violence. One day she got way out of hand and argued and said some terrible things in front of the kids. I recorded her on my video camera. The next day she threw it away and took my computer in case I downloaded the video. I told her to give me back my computer and phone or I would call the police. When I called the police non emergency number she called 911 and said I hit her, I never hit her. I was arrested and jailed and could not see my girls for 6 weeks. Even after that I could not see them over night for 4 months. When we went to trial I examined her on the stand. She said that I stood in front of her and she straight in front of me and that I kicked her with the fibula bone on my leg. She said this because she had no bruises. Her attorney failed to redirect and the judge agreed with me that she lied. It was a physical impossibility that I kicked her in the manner she described. There were other obvious lies in the record, but she was never even reprimanded for putting me in jail for 2 days and keeping me from my children for so long. I will be pursuing suit in civil action. It is just way to easy to put a man in jail without proof.

I had been married to my wife for several years, and I finally got tired of her mental abuse(I didn't dare say that in court because I wouldn't be taken seriously since I'm a guy), so I filed for divorce, and a couple days after she was served the divorce papers, she filed an order of protection against me claiming that I've been beating her! Because of this lie that she was encouraged to tell on me by her public attorney, I had to go nearly a month (until the hearing) before I could even see or talk to my kids! It was the most stressful four weeks of my life. My wife(yes we are back together) has apologized several times for being encouraged to lie on me about abusing her, but she said that she was told by her attorney that it would give her the upper hand in the custody case. I am sure that over half of domestic violence reports by women are false accusations, because these pathetic lawyers tell the woman to play victim. I can't wait until the day that politically correctness is overcome so that men can atleast fight back in these cases.

This is not atypical. In fact, it's quite common for women to lie about domestic violence to get a leg up on divorce proceedings. Unfortunately, the courts often turn a blind eye to the person's lies.

Awful about Vladek Filler - felony for "splashing water"? Sounds very familiar. The last refuge of the total loser. I've seen unprofessionals like the DA mentioned in this article. I should make it clear - the majority of people involved in the legal system are honest, hardworking and dedicated. People like Mrs. Filler understandably frighten others and the "fear factor" shouldn't be underestimated. After over 10 years, the one common factor was that all professionals encountering my boyfriend's ex-wife and her husband just wanted them the heck away. It's self-preservation. If I had been them, I would have done the same. The husband grossly threatened the judge, numerous attorneys, and psychologists (on the internet - his mess is still out there for all 2 visitors a year to see). The wife was such an egregious liar, constantly inventing new stories that I'm sure all could see the pattern and recognize the danger to themselves. He "rewarded" the children's attorney by praising her online after previously threatening her. Another factor in these cases is that the perpetrators always take to the internet. If I had a buck for every time the stepfather stated he would post video blogs and interviews with my boyfriend's children so they could tell the world how much they hated him, I'd be rich. Oh wait - I am. I have my friends, family, coworkers and other loved ones. I have my self-respect. As to false accusations, the couple accused both myself and my teenaged daughter of murdering my baby who died. So yeah, I know about false accusations. The one fortunate thing is that no one believed these extreme accusations when turned on me and an innocent child. Except my boyfriend's kids. Of course he was accused first and worst - when one thing doesn't work, these mentally-ill people just move on to another.

My 7 year old was kept with a mother defying court orders this Christmas, the child told her sister when we went to pick her up { I want to go but mommy says i can not } her sister does not live with the mother she choose to live with her father , most police would do was file the report and now the mother has to go in front of a judge , the mother also had my 7 yr olds tonsils taken out knowing i wanted a second opinion on it since she never told the doctors about the child being a 2 smoker home and van . I got one doctor to say smoking is doing damage but the courts didn't postpone a needless surgery , now she did this SUGGESTED surgery at Christmas time in hopes a judge will let her off of interference of custody, but the doctor himself said theres no reason if the child wants to go she should not . the other 2 children are band from the house as they in the mothers words DISRESPECTFUL , no they know the truth , before she met this looser who owes 116,373 bucks in back support for 3 kids he wont take care of in NY , she didnt even want her own kids , now that this man has his sucker he wants mom to get child support so HE dont have to work and can stay under the radar of his own child support . , mother is also hiding behind the system with lies BUT the lies are coming to an end { i hope for the children } the system is flawed and only hurts the children .

"There is no loss for a female in these United states." I'm afraid there is. Gentlemen, the sad truth is that if you leave a toxic relationship from a woman like this one, think about what that woman will do to the next, normal and decent woman you could become involved with. Think about the innocent children you might have that could include both girls and boys, from a second relationship with a non-abusive woman. Those children will be targeted by the female alienator and she will train and reward her children - your biological children - to attack and abuse them. These aren't "blended family" issues. These issues result from the system's weakness and blindness allowing evil women full rein to lie about ANYBODY, including second wives, stepchildren and even friends, acquaintances, pastors and relatives of the second wife. The "system" cannot and will not prosecute the majority of parental kidnapping cases, and even when they do, they are unable to enforce their decisions. Being a convicted felon means nothing if you already have nothing to lose. You cannot pay any restitution if you have no job, no home, no property and no prospects - and in fact, your job was trying to destroy your ex-husband's life for well over a decade. And what if your evil ex-wife marries someone who is worse and crazier than she is, and both feed off each other's craziness? If you think this is bad, think about a system that finds it equally difficult to prosecute and incarcerate child sexual predators. Think about how "efficient" those parole officers were who went to the house of Phillip Garrido in Northern California dozens of times over an 18 year period and even got calls from neighbors commenting on the children playing in the back yard. Jaycee Dugard was only 11 years old when snatched from her school bus stop by Garrido and his enabler/co-criminal wife. Think about what the parents of beautiful, wonderful young Amber Dubois and Chelsea King learned when they found out that the man who had raped and murdered both girls had been released as a "non violent" or "non dangerous" sex offender and had violated his parole dozens of times with no consequences. Some of those violations allowed him to commit both rapes and murders, a year apart. In "fighting" for women's rights, the end result is a travesty that has destroyed families, destroyed happy lives, made it almost possible for men who've gone through toxic relationships and divorces to recover - and looks the other way and pays no attention to the most violent possible predators. John Albert Gardner, the killer of both girls, was the son of a mother who enabled him to do these murders, and who alienated him from his decent father while growing up. Garrido was enabled by a woman who may well have been more evil than the criminal himself. He couldn't have kidnapped Jaycee without her, and she watched while Jaycee was raped over and over and lived in a tent in a back yard and had two babies by herself in a cold outdoor garage.

The alienator that abused my boyfriend picked a real doozy to dump him for. I don't know about these vicious criminals for no reason. Our system likes these alienator women so much that - they can get away with exactly what they want, no matter what harm it does to their own children or - as we all know the family court is not concerned - any other children whatsoever.

So what happen to this woman for doing this ? she should have been locked up as soon as she admitted this .

Wow, this sounds a lot like the issues I had. However I didn't let it come to all of this. I went and got myself a New Jersey divorce attorney and stopped her before she had a chance to carry out what she had planned for me.

"I may have said there was punching or hitting . . . but there wasn't . . . not to my recollection."

I have my own story too about this. Liars destroy so much in our world. They just keep on lying.

@Joan_Kloth_Zanard,

There are thousands of falsely accused of domestic violence or even rape but even one falsely accused is too much. It is time to bring out in open the corrupt a profitable business of incarceration of innocent.

This is so typical of high conflict divorce and people who cannot move forward with their life, instead of dwelling on what was. Sadly, this is just one of thousands of cases where false allegations are made in a divorce or separation, just to get revenge, control, and from anger. False Allegations are not only criminal but they are deliberately done to destroy another person's life. When anyone, but particularly a man is accused of abuse, especially sexual abuse, until that case is resolved, that person losses their job, their friends, their family, their life. The suicide rate is astronomical in these cases of falsely accused, especially when you add on Child Support, which the judges refuse to modify when the accused has lost their job. It does not matter if the charges have not been proven, the sole intent purpose of this fraud and defamation/slander is to make sure that the other person hurts and suffers. In cases, where children are involved and are forced to lie, it devastates these kids for life, because deep downside they know it is false. When these kids finally figure it out and own it, they feel so guilty and many become suicidal.

Until our courts and legal system catch up to this abuse and start to put strong safety nets in place to protect innocent victims from false allegations, attorney's and ex-spouses will continue to abuse the system to their benefit.

Yes, most of my relationships in life have been fine, normal, and loving and at worst civilized in the exit. But I did mistakenly and unknowingly end up dating a few 'bad apples' (a.k.a. 'bad girls') that lied their way into my life and in the most unfortunate of circumstances, traumatized the hell out of me. There are certain women out there that will falsely accuse men of violence at the drop of a hat in fits of (drug-fueled?) anger...and it's a learned, conditioned, accepted? behavior just like the way evil, twisted, and abused/abusive mindsets work in strip clubs. And the police will believe them. And some cops use their power to f*ck strippers too. And yes, as Butch pointed out, some environments and scenarios breed such mindsets, and you can't try to save or help them...or if you try to and get close, then hurt their feelings about some little thing like finding out they've been lying cheating on/to you and reject them and ask them to leave your house...they might get angry over some insane nonsense that's happened in their past and start speaking in twisted labels like 'all men are the same' and then do evil sh*t like run to the police (while high on drugs) and accuse you of things that are verifyably untrue...then later actually remotely actually understand the psychological damage their anger, abuse, and false accusations caused and even breakdown crying in apology and guilt...but in the meantime they have already told other official parties a different story in order to gain the sympathy they desired at the time...and these are the type of mindsets that are conditioned to lie as a way of life...so they can never have the two sides in the same room or they will be caught in their lies...and...

Well, needless to say I too unfortunately had a few nightmarish scenarios and the lies they told to me were one thing, but when I found out the lies they told about me it traumatized me. It literally traumatized me because my mind could not understand how I could try to help an ex-g/f (who I hadn't dated in over 3 years) as a friend and 'save' her from crystal meth only to find out she said that I hit her when she was angry and high one day? WTF? She must have gotten the men in her life confused or something, but it devastated me. I mean really. It destroyed me inside. My mind could not understand how you could put your life and well-being on the line to help someone and they could do such a thing just to get attention from others...but I've learned that's what those 'serial' types do. So just be careful. Luckily I ultimately used my video and home security cameras as protection from the lies during that period and plan to turn the entire thing into a documentary one day, but no one should have to experience such and evil catalyst behind a force as powerful and presumed to be 'good' as the police...and that's what the current stereotypes and laws do. It's a Lady Gaga/Jersey Shore-type world these days....I wish to God it were still like the 50's when my role models were growing up, but it's not, and the laws need to change to reflect that.

They need to do psychological evaluations on the parties involved not just take their word for it, because the repercussions of even being falsely accused (if not arrested) can be emotionally devastating.

This brings back some bad memories. Because not only did she lie, but she was the one who was cheating. (Several times.) She also abused both of our children and is now very behind in child support. And as my experience do not go to a 12 Step program and date any women from there. The chances are very high that you will end up with a woman like this.

This brings back bad memories of what I went threw and she was the one who cheated. Not once, but several times. The accusations hurt as well as punished me for something I didn't do while the truth be told that she was the actual abuser of both me and our children. Meanwhile the abuse still happens verbally over the phone to mostly our daughter and because she outright refuses to pay child support. But now due to other people witnessing her she is now on a very fine line with red flags with Child Protection. For you see this abuser went out and immediately got herself pregnant again. And this is somebody who is in no way a mother to any of these children.

It also seems you can find many women like her around 12 Step meetings as well as your local bar. So matbe the supermarket or a church is better off to find someone to date at. But not even chrchs are safe from what I hear.

Brotherlelo,

Thank you for sharing your story. Unfortunately your story is not uncommon, thanks to VAWA and DV laws. I also completely agree with you that today’s men are sacrificed for the profit. So next time we hear a man charged with DV or rape of the spouse/girlfriend we should wonder how much cash flow has this generated? Lawyers, prosecutors, judges, privatized prisons, psychologists, child protective services, federal grants for domestic violence victims, “victim” advocates, non-profit support groups gaining federal and state grants.

Should real victims of domestic violence faced with a dry well for supportive funds available to them?

Is it moral to prosecute innocent men to improve our economy?

Is it moral to encourage women to falsely accuse men for financial gain, legal status achievement, revenge outlet?

Thank you to men like you for speaking up!

My House was given to a woman who never kissed or slept in my room; I'm living in my garage like a rat while she enjoys my house with another man. Her brother threatened my live and I called up 911. The police came and she started crying and told the police I slopped her so her illegal brother would not be arrested. On the trial the police was even going to testify that he saw a red mark on her face and that I created the dead threat to invalidate me slopping her face. The lawyers go after the men because the men have the money. This is a trend nationwide. The courts exist to enable lawyers to extract money from their main victims, their clients. The judge's job is to keep the case going to maximize billable hours for the lawyers. Our whole society is designed to ensure that women do not have to support themselves or have any accountability in any way. Justice is carefully removed from the legal system by design because it interferes with profits. The women have nothing to lose. They create jobs for police, court, lawyers, therapist, and so on and you have to pay it all. She will get unlimited free legal help and rewarded for her acting. She will get advised how to lie to police, the court and everybody to make believe you are crazy, violent and a physical and mental abuser.

You can tape anything you want, as long as you let people know that they are being taped.

This happens all to often.

This woman is absolutely and utterly pathetic.

It is way past the time for sugar coated words and soft approaches. Woman like her are responsible in a very significant way for much of the harm that goes on in this nation's family law courts. Not only should she be fined by the court for her perjury, but she should be prosecuted to the full extent of the law. It is my understanding that in this case, as reported by Glenn Sacks of Fathers & Families, the local prosecutor chose not to press charges against her even though the judge in the civil court openly stated he should.

Depriving a child of a fit, willing, and able parent (usually the male) so that you can collect child support has nothing to do with “the best interest of the child.” This behaviour is unequivocally a strong indication of moral depravity. And allowing this woman, and any person male or female, to get away with this only serves to encourage continued abuse of the courts and does nothing to serve the child’s psychological/developmental needs.

Paul Deering

Yes, I had various video cam system and video car alarm ideas - but soon the cell lines will enable more types of recording and will their use will become more prevalent - and it may become rather normal for people record their various social encounters for this exact subject.

There would soon be tight laws defining as to exactly what can and can not be done with such video.

So, just as likely, it would become quite common and acceptable for people to inform their lovers that a device is running.

This is precisely why I don't and would never marry a woman. I will only be their friends.

Yeah, they need to have little brain sensor-devices that hangs a little light out of her head. So when she's your everyday sociopath, or just lying, the light will blink.

At least she didn't cheat on him then do that to him after he found out. Right? Those double-evil scenarios are the real bone chillers.

Well, at least she admitted it...finally. Which means at some point she might actually now be able to apologize instead or directing even more false blame even if it's not in her nature. How sad. That is certainly not the love we all dream of.

I don't know her, I don't know him, and I don't even know the story much less the detailed story much less the true detailed story...but damn it's scary to see the extent to which some people will lie and destroy others lives without second thought because they never get caught or have any repercussions due to the twisted legal system. Mortifying. I've stumbled across a handful bad people and circumstances in my life, and some of the behavior I witnessed truly traumatized me on a level that I believe it should be considered a crime...or at least have a system in place that prevents such things.

When in doubt just protect yourself with a videocamera.

I wonder how many other stories there are out there like this? And then on the other end of the spectrum you've got guys acting like Tiger Woods and actually doing damage in other ways. What a crazy sad world. Was she on drugs or anything at the time? The way people can lie in love and anger is truly disturbing. :(

I hate Dr. Phil. :)
She is a horrible person and perjured herself. She should be prosecuted for that and her husband should sue her in civil court.

Men and women should beware of potential crazy mates. Get to know people before getting in too deep and if the red lights start flashing, make your escape!

You know for some reason I really appreciate MotherForTruth......

Cameras have saved a few innocent men from prison.
Such as Hofstra student who made up gang rape story admitted that she lied only after being shown cell-phone video footage of the sexual encounter or the Taxi cab driver falsely accused of sexually molesting two women. What happened in the taxi was caught on a video camera http://www.cbc.ca/canada/edmonton/story/2009/05/15/edmonton-cab-driver-lawsuit.h...

No charges were ever filed against these women.

Maybe it's time for married men to install video camera in the bedroom for protection against their wives.

It so scary how the government has to come into our bedrooms, give it about 10 more years and there will be a law to put cameras in every spot of our homes because some use the government for payback on wrong desision making. Women need to stop blaming men for their emotional state.

Interesting how Dr. Phil exposes the abuse of this man's civil rights but pillories him by doing so. His audience is largely female so he doesn't want to step too far out of the box to curry disfavour from his base. Nothing hypocritical here folks.

This is the tip of a a very large iceberg of corrupt practices in the DV Industry and in the legal profession who counsel women to lie. They know the law won't punish the perps if found out.

My ex threatened me with that. I left her in a motel in Florida (I'm in California) for that trick. A few friends have had that happen to them, but it never came down to them going to jail, they women eventually backed off.

she looks insane...

3 days in the stocks,...for public use.

He can sue for defamation of character, wrongfully accused, wrongfully imprisoned...I'm sure there are other laws I have missed that she has committed.

do you think a 'court of law' might have been a better place for this admission than a 'talk show'?

This is disgusting. Not only did her lying imprison a man who should not have been imprisoned (or at least for what we know, should not have been for spousal abuse) but this kind of crap might have the potential to make it more difficult to convict spouses who actually abuse their husband/wives.

treewolf, this is absolutely real and happens very often. A woman's statements about abuse is almost always taken as golden regardless of evidence to the contrary. Just look at what happened recently to Charlie Sheen.....

Is this for real?

She should now be charged and he should sue her for defamation.