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Gay couple turned away from B&B by Christian owners

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A gay couple were turned away from a bed and breakfast by its Christian owner who claimed it was against her convictions for two men to share a bed.

Michael Black and John Morgan from Brampton, Cambridgeshire, booked a double room at the B&B in Cookham, Berkshire, for Friday night.

When they arrived, Susanne Wilkinson and her husband Francis refused to allow them to stay. The owner said later that she had turned them away because it was against her policy to accommodate same sex couples. Black and Morgan claimed they were treated like lepers as a result of their sexuality. They reported the matter to Thames Valley police and have given a statement to police. Under the Equality Act 2006 it is illegal to discriminate against people on the grounds of sexual orientation.

The couple had been in the village, near Maidenhead, to meet some friends for dinner and to see a local play.

Black, a 62-year-old self-employed exams consultant, said: "We're two respectable middle-aged men. John is leader of the Lib Dem group on Huntingdon town council.

"This was the first time either of us had experienced homophobia at first hand, despite being aged 56 and 62. We were shocked and embarrassed.

"Mrs Wilkinson saw us both before we got out of the car and immediately acted in an unwelcoming, cold way, but my boyfriend and I were polite and friendly.

"She said if we'd told her in advance she would have told us not to come."

She apologised for turning them away and she returned their deposit and was in no way abusive, the couple said.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2010/mar/21/gay-couple-refused-hotel-room
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118 comments // Gay couple turned away from B&B by Christian owners

  • Found_Avenue
  • FlexSF
    • +1
      FlexSF  
    • Homophobic christians need to concede that some of the things published in their precious bible are incompatible with reality. Not only was this Inn keeper extremely ungracious, but she was extremely rude too. She sexualized a non-sexual situation. The two men simply wanted to stay in her inn. Her cognitive homophobia caused her to conclude sexual activities, and her religion reinforces this paleolithic attitude. We must challenge reckless homophobia, sexism, racism, transphobia, and genderphobia!

    • 2 years ago
  • ryan8566
  • corndog67
    • -1
      corndog67  
    • How many gays are Christian? How many Christians are gay? Are your religious leanings stronger than your gay feelings? Do you want to make money off of them, or do you want to let your religion speak for you? I would have just charged them twice as much. How's that for tolerance?

    • 2 years ago
  • FlexSF
  • mojojuju
  • dariusvons
  • masterzip
  • KSirys
  • My_America
  • Sherry_Howard
    • -2
      Sherry_Howard  
    • Christians have been quiet way way too long. Yes, we can love the people but we hate the sin. Jesus hated the sin that is why he destroyed sodom and gomorrah. People need to know that we won't tolerate any thing goes or just do it attitude. Jesus says to love righteousness and hate evil. It's time we stand up and are vocal about the truth of sin and not be afraid. I praise those people for standing up for righteousness and letting them know that christians won't tolerate their sinfulness in their own households. We tell them that because we love them and want them to know Jesus and be saved. If there were not standards how would they know they were doing wrong? that's the purpose of the law and the bible to show people their error and to lead them to Christ.

    • 2 years ago
  • artemis6
  • KSirys
  • unimatrix0
    • +1
      unimatrix0  
    • Sherry_Howard:

      "Jesus hated the sin that is why he destroyed sodom and gomorrah"

      If your going to be a homophobic Christian at least know your Bible. You humiliate yourself with your ignorance. Jesus is New Testament, sodom and gomorrah is Old Testament.

      Clearly you know nothing about the Bible or Jesus, apparently you are just looking for an excuse to hate.

      You bring shame to yourself and your religion with your ignorance and hatred. And you have my sympathy. There is nothing righteous about an illiterate bumbkin thumping a Bible that she has not read nor understood.

    • 2 years ago
  • FlexSF
  • sunshine1649
    • 0
      sunshine1649  
    • I guess they can't put a waiver in their ads "no gays, no fags, no dikes" because that would be financial suicide of anyone who would disagree with their opinions. They should have been good Christians and allowed it, then burned the sheets if it bothered them so much.

    • 2 years ago
  • Confucius
    • 0
      Confucius  
    • the thought of two dudes sodomizing in one of his rented beds probably is what got to the guy. is this story big on the news or something? it doesnt seem like a huge deal considering the level of intolerance that persists in american

    • 2 years ago
  • artemis6
  • midsummerman
  • FlexSF
  • karismatichick
    • 0
      karismatichick  
    • It's only hurting that business when they refuse to serve anyone. They must be doing pretty well. I'd make sure none of my friends straight and gay alike would ever go there. And I'd tell them to tell their friends too. Yes they have right to refuse service and I have a right to make sure they'd have no service to refuse. It worked back in the day when black people refused to ride the bus and it lost money.

    • 2 years ago
  • ch2o
    • 0
      ch2o  
    • Yep its their right to say no, being gay I would want to know their beliefs so I wouldn't give them my business my money and support a belief that offends me.

    • 2 years ago
  • unimatrix0
  • LiberalismLacksLogic
    • +1
      LiberalismLacksLogic  
    • ch2o:

      Thanks, its refreshing to have someone say it's their right to say "no thanks." I'm sure there are plenty of same sex or more liberal BnBs that would be happy to have them. After all this is America, we (still) have some options and a right to disagree.

    • 2 years ago
  • kilo88
  • unimatrix0
  • kilo88
  • unimatrix0
    • -1
      unimatrix0  
    • kilo88:

      I admire your optimism when it comes to human nature.

      I am afraid though that many would discriminate and abuse minorities, be they sexual, religious or ethnic, if given the chance.

      Live long and prosper

    • 2 years ago
  • kilo88
    • 0
      kilo88 [removed]  
    • unimatrix0:

      no one can legislate in kindness as they could legislate out hatred, government can't work like that

      i'd rather know the business to be homophobic so i could save my money for a company i can trust, would you be fine with your money going to a company that was homophobic but you didn't know because the law keeps it a secret?

      life is about choice,and i'd rather make mine then have someone do that for me

      "No one can guarantee
      the actions of another."
      (Day of the Dove) - Star Trek

    • 2 years ago
  • dariusvons
  • Kenny_Hughes
    • 0
      Kenny_Hughes  
    • this has nothing to do with "good business" or "bad business". Christianity has a set of beliefs and values that these owners valued higher than their business values. Not sharing their beliefs and values does not give you right to criticize them. it's ok to have tolerance for Christians. I congratulate the owners for standing up for their beliefs.

    • 2 years ago
  • unimatrix0
  • Deadgumby
  • bike10
  • montesooma
  • Reaper26
    • 0
      Reaper26  
    • i agree with some here don't like it but its their B&B so can't do much about it though i say its dumb in a business sense you take all the business you can.

    • 2 years ago
  • squidteeth
    • -1
      squidteeth  
    • It's too bad this happened, but I feel it is their right to refuse to serve people who live a lifestyle they disagree with. They weren't cruel or even rude by the sounds of it, just cold.
      I hardly see how it is a police matter, or how it can even be illegal for a person to refuse another person service at a business that you yourself own.

      Would I want to be treated that way? No, it'd make me feel kinda bad, but at the same time, if the westboro baptist church people showed up at my hotel, I'd want to send THEM packing, and I should have that right.

      I wouldn't want to stay at a hotel where I wasn't wanted anyway. *shrug*

    • 2 years ago
  • ii386
    • 0
      ii386  
    • squidteeth:

      If I own a public business in the UK, I cannot refuse business to someone based on their sexual orientation. That is called discrimination. The right to refuse service isn't the same as discrimination. Someone comes in without a shirt or shoes that is unsanitary, indecent, and could create a disturbance to other customers-- entirely different situation here.

      You saw the post below linking to the wiki page for the law. The couple was discriminated against and inconvenienced illegally.

      Take this law further then. Imagine you aren't served because you're white/black, stupid/smart, disabled, Christian/Muslim/Jewish/etc, and see how you feel. Then imagine if every place was able to do this to you and no one would serve you.

      What if grocery stores did this, would you just starve?

      And BTW, if I was harsh to GNL, it was because he is about as ignorant as they come and deserves no respect.

    • 2 years ago
  • montesooma
  • ii386
    • 0
      ii386  
    • montesooma:

      Ok, from the original text of the bill

      2)In this Part “group” means a group or class of persons who share a common attribute in respect of any of the following matters—
      (a)age,
      (b)disability,
      (c)gender,
      (d)proposed, commenced or completed reassignment of gender (within the meaning given by section 82(1) of the Sex Discrimination Act 1975 (c. 65)),
      (e)race,
      (f)religion or belief, and
      (g)sexual orientation.

      ....

      33 Equality and human rights enactments
      (1)In this Part “the equality enactments” means—
      (a)the Equal Pay Act 1970 (c. 41),
      (b)the Sex Discrimination Act 1975,
      (c)the Race Relations Act 1976,
      (d)the Disability Discrimination Act 1995,
      (e)Part 2 of this Act,
      (f)regulations under Part 3 of this Act,
      (g)the Employment Equality (Sexual Orientation) Regulations 2003 (S.I. 2003/1661), and
      (h)the Employment Equality (Religion or Belief) Regulations 2003 (S.I. 2003/1660).

      ...

      34 Unlawful
      (1)In this Part (except section 30(3)) “unlawful” means contrary to a provision of the equality enactments. [listed above]

      Okay ready for this guys? Here is the meat. Paraphrased because of length..

      46 Goods, facilities and services
      (1)It is unlawful for a person ( “A”) concerned with the provision to the public or a section of the public of goods, facilities or services to discriminate against a person ( “B”) who seeks to obtain or use those goods, facilities or services—
      (a)
      by refusing to provide B with goods, facilities or services,
      ....
      2)Subsection (1) applies, in particular, to—
      (a)access to and use of a place which the public are permitted to enter,
      (b)accommodation in a hotel, boarding house or similar establishment,

    • 2 years ago
  • ii386
    • 0
      ii386  
    • montesooma:

      Mind you that this is in the UK. The bill's text can be reached here. http://www.statutelaw.gov.uk/content.aspx?activeTextDocId=2320547

      So, my post clearly shows:
      - (section 2) what groups are protected
      -the laws passed to protect them
      -that unlawful discrimination would mean acting to the contrary of said laws.
      -and then section 46 clearly states that you cannot deny housing, hotel, or similar establishments to the public based on the criteria in section two.

      I am no lawyer (maybe cztheday could intervene?) but this seems pretty clear cut to me. IT IS DISCRIMINATION AND ILLEGAL TO DENY THEM HOUSING BASED ON SEXUAL ORIENTATION.

    • 2 years ago
  • Daniel_Bernard
    • +1
      Daniel_Bernard  
    • I guess it's different in America where we can technically still discriminate based on any grounds we want. "We reserve the right to refuse service" is seen on a good number of businesses here. But hardly anyone (save for the stray vagrant looking to buy a cup of coffee and sleep in the bathroom for the night) is EVER refused service. It's just bad business to refuse service to people willing to pay and follow the rules of the establishment.

      If gays here feel pressure from being turned away by homophobic business people, I say they should let their presence be felt in the marketplace and show homophobic businesspeople their money is the same as everyone else's.

    • 2 years ago
  • flyingkick
    • +2
      flyingkick  
    • It's only a matter of time before homosexuality is normalized and homophobia will become taboo in mainstream culture.
      The same thing happened with racism.

    • 2 years ago
  • common_sense_please
    • 0
      common_sense_please  
    • Sort of sucks--but its not totally unexpected--come on now these guys have been "out" for how long and they have never been discriminated against or experienced homophobia?? WTF??? But honestly it comes down to if you don't want to be discriminated against or embarrassed simply go to some big chain hotel where they don't really care who you stay there with.

    • 2 years ago
  • montesooma
  • flyingkick
    • 0
      flyingkick  
    • montesooma:

      If it were just their house, they'd be able to let in whoever they want.
      But they're also running a business, and it's illegal for businesses to discriminate based on sexual orientation.

    • 2 years ago
  • tylervictoria1
  • bricealanwill
  • jeffreyak
  • lizziehoffman
  • LiberalismLacksLogic
    • 0
      LiberalismLacksLogic  
    • lizziehoffman:

      So by your "logic", if an Islamic family stayed the night and the father caught the daughter having sex or kissing, they should say nothing when he buries her up to her neck and STONES her to death? I have another question, by your logic, should the BnB couple help the father dig the hole?

    • 2 years ago
  • RickLD
    • 0
      RickLD  
    • If it were here in he USA the business would have the right to refuse service to whom they choose. But, it didnt happen here.
      Yes being christians, they should "love thy neighbor." But just because they turned them away doesnt mean they dont care for them... just means they were not going to deem it ok to be gay by renting a room to them.

    • 2 years ago
  • mojojuju
  • common_sense_please
    • +2
      common_sense_please  
    • mojojuju:

      So what now every landlord in the UK and here in America should become peeping Toms?
      It would be more logical for them to charge extra and/or video tape it and then reduce the rent by the amount of money they make off internet sales.

    • 2 years ago
  • panichead
    • +1
      panichead  
    • I bet next time the go to a B & B and the sign say's "Christian Owned & Operated" they roll on by. Whenever I see a company advertised as Christian owned I become suspect. If they are telling the truth they are someone I don't have the time for and if they are lying, well they are probably an organization I don't have the time for either. Either way you get screwed!

    • 2 years ago
  • deathvoices
    • +4
      deathvoices  
    • Bigotry, as always, is alive and well.
      I don't think it matters that the B&B owner was Christian. The fact that any self-respecting human being would discriminate against a normal human being that can't help the way they are is disgusting, but you can't change some people's views I guess...

    • 2 years ago
  • CaptB
  • DRudeBoy
  • Mcellie
    • +1
      Mcellie  
    • DRudeBoy:

      Article mentioned the Equality Act 2006 for the UK. Quote from its wiki page for brief detail

      "outlawing of discrimination on goods and services on the grounds of religion and belief (subject to certain exemptions) and allows the Government to introduce regulations outlawing discrimination on the ground of sexual orientation in goods and services in both Great Britain and Northern Ireland (the Sexual Orientation Regulations 2006) and a provision relating to the creation of a public duty to promote equality on the ground of gender."

      http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Equality_Act_2006

    • 2 years ago
  • DRudeBoy
  • squidteeth
    • 0
      squidteeth  
    • DRudeBoy:

      EUgh, sue really?

      They called the police, isn't that enough? I mean, they gave them their money back and even apologized, this couple wasn't even out any money or anything! An inconvenience, and hurt feelings at the most.
      If its against the law, you have every right to press charges i guess, but there's a difference between standing up for your rights and being a pest.

    • 2 years ago
  • ii386
    • 0
      ii386  
    • squidteeth:

      So then what is right then? Is it right to stand up for your 'rights' or beliefs as a Christian and be allowed to discriminate? Is it right to stand up for your rights as an individual homosexual and not be discriminated against?

      And how are you calling anyone a PEST in this matter?

    • 2 years ago
  • DRudeBoy
    • 0
      DRudeBoy  
    • squidteeth:

      Intolerant people like that give Christianity a bad name. Ridiculous actions like that have consequences.
      I can see what you mean about suing being overkill; I guess it would depend on how the owners conducted themselves.

    • 2 years ago
  • Lucretia_Gross
    • +3
      Lucretia_Gross  
    • Come to Ashland, Oregon!!!! Plenty of cute B&B's, and the world renowned Oregon Shakespeare Festival. I guarantee there would be no sexual discrimination!! :oD

    • 2 years ago
  • bailey78
    • +1
      bailey78  
    • Why them Christian's were not very Christian like now were they? Nothing like a Christian to mess things up for such a nice couple.

    • 2 years ago
  • KSirys
  • PornographyIsArt
  • GodsnLiberals
  • PornographyIsArt
  • existentialist
    • +6
      existentialist  
    • While I think it is silly for the Bed and Breakfast owners to discriminate, it is their business and they should be able to serve who they choose.

    • 2 years ago
  • GodsnLiberals
  • existentialist
    • +3
      existentialist  
    • GodsnLiberals:

      I didn't mention anything about rights. I think that if a person has a business they ought to serve who they choose, without the government stepping in. That being said, normally it is in the best interest of a business not to discriminate because they will loose money. On the other hand, if I owned an inn called Beezlebub's Bed and Breakfast it might be in my best interest not to serve Christians because it might deflect my core customers.

    • 2 years ago
  • nursediesel
    • +1
      nursediesel  
    • existentialist:

      Reminds me of Ozzie Osborn kicking a bunch of pagans out of the hotel he was staying at in the wee hours of the morning because their chanting kept him awake. He went out into the lobby, sat in the middle of their circle and sang 'Happy Birthday' at the top of his lungs and told them to get the **** out of the building they were disturbing his sleep.

    • 2 years ago
  • timetide
    • +4
      timetide  
    • sigh, they gave up the right to discriminate when they opened a bussiness. By doing this they very rightly open themselves up to lawsuits. You have religious freedom, but your place of bussiness does not.

    • 2 years ago
  • GodsnLiberals
  • nursediesel
    • +5
      nursediesel  
    • GodsnLiberals:

      It is true, just like I think: if I owned a restaurant I should be allowed to let customers in my building have a smoke after dinner!
      We had a gay couple that rented an apt. from us. Both had AIDS. I am happy to say they were very dear to me and I was glad to have been there for them in their time of need because their families had turned their backs on them. One was a veteran so they were able to get a plot in a nearby cemetery and were both interred there. And I know God loved both of them.

    • 2 years ago
  • Chopstick
  • ii386
    • -2
      ii386  
    • GodsnLiberals:

      ...but, as the article made clear, you cannot discriminate on the basis of sexual orientation. it was right there for you, did you skip over that part or are you barely literate?

    • 2 years ago
  • nursediesel
  • squidteeth
    • 0
      squidteeth  
    • timetide:

      meh, i disagree.

      I think your business and your work is sort of an extension of yourself. I think a person should have to right to decide if they don't want to serve somebody.

    • 2 years ago
  • squidteeth
  • montesooma
  • unimatrix0
  • GodsnLiberals
  • KSirys
  • Joshua_Nyholm
  • unimatrix0
    • -2
      unimatrix0  
    • Joshua_Nyholm:

      Simply because they were polite and civil in expressing their hatred does not change that hatred. Discrimination with a smile is still discrimination.

      Can you not see that the denial of service is an act of hatred? It is an act of prejudice and bigotry that is most foul.

      You might want to reexamine your moral compass Josh. If you don't see the hate you are experiencing a major malfunction.

    • 2 years ago
  • LiberalismLacksLogic
  • Joshua_Nyholm
  • H3ADLINE
  • UrbanGypsy
  • lachupa
  • GodsnLiberals
  • Atalanda_Cameron
  • Einsam_Data_Old
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  • Kenny_Hughes
  • LiberalismLacksLogic
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