Gay Teen in Georgia Kicked Out by Parents Over Bringing Boyfriend to Prom
source: http://www.bilerico.com/2010/03/gay_teen_in_georgia_kicked_out_by_parents_over_bri.php
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A happy ending for the Bleckly County High School student, right?
Wrong. Derrick has been kicked out of his home by his parents now that his story has hit the media:
"Because of the media attention, Martin's parents have kicked him out and the teen is staying with a friend, he said."
It's appalling this is happening to a brave, bright young man who simply wanted to take his boyfriend to prom. Derrick seems to be remaining strong and is proud of the stand he took, saying:
"Maybe (other gay students) will think if Bleckley County will let them, maybe my school will."
I can only say how proud I am of Derrick Martin for the stand he is making and how angry I am at his parents for kicking him out. Instead of the unconditional love a parent should have for their child, they are doing what still happens to too many LGBT youth that come out by rejecting them. I hope that our national orgs, like PFLAG or the National Gay & Lesbian Task Force, move in to help this brave young student or set up a way for all of us to pitch in. I also hope his parents will be reached out to and educated so their family can heal.
This is what those opposing equality, that demonize us in every campaign, speech, and referendum, do: they plant seeds of bigotry and hate that tear apart families. They cultivate fear and loathing that causes a parent to kick out their child simply for wanting to go to a dance with the person he cares for. That's some definition of "Family Values"...
Stories like this are why we fight. This is why we educate, lobby, protest, take to the street, and continue to live our lives openly. We talk a lot about the strides we have made as a community. Yet we still have so far to go.
We have a new generation of young, energized activists ready to make sacrifices to stand for equality. We must do all we can to stand with them and give them the resources they need to not only continue the fight, but live their lives to the fullest and without fear.
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feefer2010
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Good for him!!!
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shizzam
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Go Derrick! You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family.
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Remy714
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Maybe this is a blessing, he may be better off without parents like that anyways!
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lionessgrrl
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i would sooner starve to death while shoving hot needles into my eyeballs than abandon one of my children simply because i was embarrassed by their behavior. and the young man exercising his civil rights is certainly nothing to be embarrassed about. but georgia is as georgia does.
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lionessgrrl:
I don't know if I would generalize about Georgia, Atlanta is home to one of the largest, most "out" GLBT communities outside of NY and San Fran. I know first hand about the South being behind on certain issues, but the school superintendent, representing the state of Georgia, approved him bringing his date unlike the girl from Mississippi the article mentions.
I agree with you in that I couldn't imagine abandoning my child
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tenletterz:
totally irrelevant and poorly made argument. better luck next time.
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tenletterz:
exactly
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lionessgrrl:
hush meow!
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What foolish parents ! They love a book more than the child they have brought in to the world . He seems a decent , healthy kid , but these people are so petty they do not realize their luck .
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zichi:
we know what today's christians/catholics would do....but they claim to follow the life and teachings of this guy named jesus....so the question.. is what would jesus do?
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ryan8566
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ruefontaine
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I'm from Georgia, and the same exact thing happened to me last week. Hang in there, kiddo!
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ruefontaine:
good luck to you!
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ruefontaine:
hang in there yourself. it's tough but it gets better
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ruefontaine:
Atlanta's better if you can get to the city.
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He's adorable!!! I really hope his parents come around and I hope he still has a great time at his prom.
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eden49
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...and now for my real post...be who you wish & love whom you wish...
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Another sad but inspiring story to spread. I hope rather than denigrating his parents, we could reach out to attempt to make them understand what their son did was not wrong. That he is still their son and always will be. That being a homosexual or heterosexual makes no difference. I know my first thought when I read that was "assholes", but being bombarded with hatred is only going to make them more defensive and unwilling to listen and understand. I don't think all parents that initially reject their gay children are incapable of changing their ways.
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imunbalanced:
The parents are supposed to be the adults in this situation,we shouldn't have to hand hold them and tell them what the right thing to do is.I see your point but it is just wrong in every sense of the word to abandon your child.
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Proverbs1824:
"He who spouts proverbs instead of adding to a conversation is worthless" just saying.
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jane44095:
Yes thats in the Bible jane i think i read that passage It was in the Book of Proverbs.
Proverbs 1900 "He who spouts proverbs instead of adding to a conversation is worthless"
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imunbalanced:
Nice Point!
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spanky07:
wtf??? dont think of it in terms of kids, but people who want equality...
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spanky07:
Could it be said that grumpy old men think they OWN the world, and that we should all bow to their value systems, no matter how corrupt or closed-minded?
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spanky07:
...can you sit down when you type, so your words can be muffled...
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spanky07:
People who disagree with you deserve to be executed? A very interesting moral system spanky07 has.....
Additionally, if I'm an anarchist, then the future is anarchy (you know, where gays can get married and all that).
Good luck fading into obscurity as my generation takes over!!!
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randallr01:
and please take me with you!
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spanky07:
what 'collective' are you speaking for? and do they know it?
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if he's still under 18 the parents should be arrested immediately for abandoning their child.
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Derrick Martin: an American Hero!
Derrick Martin's parents: an American Tragedy ...
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Wow fuck those kids parents. When your love of magical sky man and ancient book supersedes your love for your own child you deserve nothing but misery. I hope that kid finds the love he deserves.
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Sorry bible quotes dont mean a damn to me. Im a godless heathen who actually cares about people rather than some bronze age diety and promises of an eternity of bliss. Enjoy your ignorance!
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Proverbs1824:
FYI, god doesnt exist, but love does
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Proverbs1824:
...not you again...
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Proverbs1824:
Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You shut the kingdom of heaven in men’s faces. You yourselves do not enter, nor will you let those enter who are trying to.
Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You travel over land and sea to win a single convert, and when he becomes one, you make him twice as much a son of hell as you are.
Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You give a tenth of your spices—mint, dill and cummin. But you have neglected the more important matters of the law—justice, mercy and faithfulness. You should have practiced the latter, without neglecting the former.
You blind guides! You strain out a gnat but swallow a camel.
Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You clean the outside of the cup and dish, but inside they are full of greed and self-indulgence.
Blind Pharisee! First clean the inside of the cup and dish, and then the outside also will be clean.Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You are like whitewashed tombs, which look beautiful on the outside but on the inside are full of dead men’s bones and everything unclean.
In the same way, on the outside you appear to people as righteous but on the inside you are full of hypocrisy and wickedness.
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UtopianSky:
Perfect; you put it clearly in language he could understand.
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i seriously doubt that 'proverbs' could understand anything....never an original thought, only reciting from a book of fiction.
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spanky07:
or lack thereof
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spanky07:
It's not tough love; it's bad parenting. Ask the boy when he's 40 how he feels about his parents. I'd imagine he'll be waiting for them to die unless they decide to love him for who he is.
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zichi:
Yeah i know ive been trying to convince my parents to support my murdering lifestyle.
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ibrake4rappers13:
of course, murder and being gay is pretty much like the same thing
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more power to him... we need more people like this... "people with balls"
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CalgarC:
in his mouth?
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sidewayssquare:
Boobs, vaginas, balls, penises, tongues... who CARES what he puts in his mouth??
Sidewayssquare is a typical conservative – obsessed with sex & the sex of others.
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randallr01:
typical conservative?
typical generalization....
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randallr01:
i disagree...he is not a typical conservative, but a totally ignorant assshole.
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why can't parents just accept the fact that their son is gay? stupid stuff like that
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Who cares, my mom said she wold kick me out if i ever pierced my ear.
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ibrake4rappers13:
Well, your mom is also what's wrong with this country.
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ibrake4rappers13:
...I think that mighta been just an excuse...just a thought...
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Said, right? Would she actually throw you out? As in, on the streets, no shelter, fend for yourself?
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She actually did, but for a different reason.
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ibrake4rappers13:
do you think that's ok?
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God it is amazing how your followers interpenetrate you words in such a vicious way. Father forgive them they no not what they say.
The links to help and support this child of Gods is in the beginning of these comments
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i will speak with knives to those who spread evil and sin, especialy here in this church of sin called current, current agenda is more likely.
have any of you ever considered perhaps the parents told the boy not to date another boy? and perhaps they forbid him to go to the prom with the threat of kicking him out?
get real people, be happy thats all that happened here in america, in some places people still get killed for being homosexuals, or god forbid you live in africa im sure you wouldent want to be treated like that either.
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yup, i considered that. still wrong! parents are put here to love and cherish their children. if you only want to have one specific child and will reject the 'wrong kind' then dont reproduce. nature chooses not you.
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sidewayssquare:
So what if the parents told him not to date another boy?
What if the parents told him not to eat food or drink water?
ANY parent who makes unreasonable demands is abusive.
ANY parent who kicks their child out on the street for simply being who they are is abusive.And your comment about Africa is moronic- just because people in other places have it worse does not excuse the actions of these parents.
DCF should be after them.
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Proverbs1824:
You do realize no one knows what the heck you are talking about, right?
You are quoting lines of scripture out of context, and in some way you think they are relevant to this discussion- but they are not.
Find some passages about unconditional love. Find some passages about not casting stones, or judging others lest you be judged.
You know- all the stuff Jesus taught.
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sidewayssquare:
It is within his right to date whomever he chooses. Parents do not own their children.
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sidewayssquare:
...not you again...
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Wow. So we should just suck it up and be glad that people aren't getting murdered. Is that all that America has to offer?
"Come to America, at least *we* won't kill you!"
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Then show a little discretion, because you are making no sense, nor are you helping anyone.
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spanky07:
lol i was thinking the same thing.
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spanky07:
and what would that message be? worship an invisible man in the sky who gives people cancer just for the hell of it? or would the message be our way or the highway, when we say we love you, you should of read the fine print?
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spanky07:
He got the message- that his parents are abusive, bigoted morons and he is better off without them.
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spanky07:
... i hope you were talking about the school
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Yes, parents throwing their children out of their homes because of the way they were born IS unnatural.
Luckily, more and more people are being educated, and unnatural acts like those bigoted parents have done are fewer and fewer between.
Some day, everyone will be able to live their lives openly and honestly, as nature intended- gay, straight or bi.
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No message will be received, bigots of current. It is the GAY TEEN who is sending the message. After all, he's the future of this world. And the world is changing.
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What was that? Spanky07 is a repressed, self-loathing closet-case?? Is that what I read?
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ahh if only his parents were as wise.breaks my heart to read these kinds of stories,and then think of people who would give anything to have a child.
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Proverbs1824:
Here's one. Do not judge lest ye be judged. Let he who has no sin cast the first stone. Casting out a child of ones home is the opposite of the lessons taught in the prodigal son or by the life of jesus in the bible. Your sitting in a throne of judgement right now and in heaven that seat may cost you dearly.
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Proverbs1824:
So you would side with Silas against David and Jonathan? Where Silas cast out Jonathan for his love of David and his love of God above his father?
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wow the School Supt saw nothing wrong with this,but his parents did?very sad,Kudos to the School Supt.!
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I have been watching the Real World Series and Mike is a great guy. Its Mikes Boyfriend that had the problem with his Parents. I haven't heard what happened to them after the show.
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It is sad that the parents kicked him out for who he is. It saddens me that parents can do this. Maybe it will be the best thing that ever happened to him to not to deal with such hatred.
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