Self Esteem or Competence- Which Matters Most?

Self Esteem comes first without that the rest doesn't matter! Competence in what you choose to do is next,followed by compassion,then honor! Too many Americans have no self esteem,compassion,or honor and the elite who control the government and media,as well as the corporations make sure that this situation never changes and keep feeding us the media crap which turns the mind to mush,the ability to think, to reason independently is gone for most,,and compassion for those less fortunate made to seem as if that costs too much and that greed is good! In the new politically correct world where the nanny state will take care of everything they say only competence matters! I say they are wrong! Wake up America you are being conned!

Oh,.......c'mon ! Lets fight about this ! This one has some real cultural entertainment value !

Kids should be,...uhm,....not taught, but ENCOURAGED to be "an army of one".

I do not mean by this that they shold be encouraged to join the army,....but rather that they are responsible for their own physical and mental entire personhood, competance, and autonomy

I dont want schools I ACTUALLY MONETARILY SUPPORT to be teachig "conformity" to begin with.

My thesis statement - we "teach" Esteem,.....because the "momentum of the pack" and "hiearchy in place" does NOT really want "self reliance" and "individual assessment" in and from its members,......but,....hey,.....they want everyone to be HAPPY with being a cog in the machine.

p.s. YOU CAN DO IT !

is entirely different from

YOU ARE HUNKY-DORY JUST THE WAY YOU ARE

we should start with a teacher saying ---- " FUCK WHAT I THINK, BUT,....these are my thoughts, judge them as you will,...you are your own GOD ".

now THAT, I would feel good about my tax dollars supporting.

DONT STAND IN THE WAY OF GEORGE BUSH !!!!!!
BOOOOOOOOOOOOO !!!!!

well done . +^d

yo,...........Bill,............you're greatly incompetant.

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Excellent, honest video. You brought up some thought-provoking questions quite relevant to today's society (Although to be honest, the character and topic weren't as comedic as your earlier works).Great job, my friend!

It is an interesting question. I am a manager of people, I think they best advice I've heard was from Jimmy Johnson, former Dallas Cowboy coach. Put critisisms into positive terms. Instead of saying "don't fumble the ball", say "hold on to the ball", for example. Instead of saying "stop screwing up", say "start paying more attention to this". Tell them what they should do, not what they should not do. You get your point across about what needs to be done and you haven't made them feel at fault. You are teaching them instead of berating them. It works very well.

I think any compliment can't be fake . Falseness does no good . If ya screw up , just say so , that way when you do good , it has meaning , impact . Everyone makes mistakes , has bad fortune and sometimes you cannot win . If ya ain't got the truth , you got nuthin' .

Great post Progress! Thank you for the vid!

Well Prog, brilliant as usual, and I feel what you are saying. I assume you know the details of the 32 murdered students and faculty at Virginia Tech? The back story to that dreadful incident reads uncannily similar to the story you told below. Ironically, the faculty/poet who requested that Seung-Hui Cho be removed from her class, was probably the greatest single influence on my college career. She taught me to write, not that I couldn't write before I became her student, but she taught her students the nuances of writing that made each one of us want to be a better writer, and she did it largely by demanding that we think. She engaged our minds, every time we stepped into her classroom. She made it very clear that if you couldn't think, you couldn't write, and she was adamant that people should write about what they know, whatever that might be. I remember her telling us once that writers have to be arrogant people, because without a certain degree of arrogance, you can never make the assumption that anything you have to say is worth other people's time reading. She taught us by being honest, praising wherever she could praise, and correcting wherever correction was needed, but Seung-Hui Cho was her student, and he was a very sick and very delusional young man. Being a teacher, at any level, is both rewarding and risky.

I don't doubt that you are a good one, and my answer to your question is that you be true to your own integrity and teach. To hell with evaluations, they don't mean crap. They are like credit scores, something that was created to control people. In order for credit to be real, we have to participate, and I feel the same way about evaluations. Any administration that makes its decisions based solely upon what the students have to say, without any observation of their own, well, that administration needs to be replaced, and as for the parents, sorry, but some of them need to wake up and realize that when you drop the kid off at college, what you did or didn't do is going to make all the difference, and your job is done. Not that you don't get to still pay the bills, but whatever skills and values you gave your child will be tested, and how they come through is up to them now, not you.

I can't imagine you being anything other than an extraordinary teacher Prog. You are one of the most engaging people on Current, and let's face it, people on Current can be pretty harsh in their judgments and opinions, and it never seems to faze you. You always come back brilliant and entertaining, so I say teach!

Absolutely true. Although I think it is a deeper, more sinister plot to ensure a stupid population. My ex-husband was a professor at a local college and he had an incompetent nursing student that threatened him with reporting him for sexual harrassment. He went to his administrator and they advised him to pass her. He did not. She did falsely report him of sexual harrassment and he was reprimanded and eventually her grade was changed. She is probably a working nurse now and that is a pretty scary thought.

PS.. Can you pick me some of those mushrooms and send them to me. ;)

Very well said! Keep up the good work.