Girlfriend vs. your gaming console

yes!
I can't agree more. even though i am not a gamer myself, if i were, a good balance would be great. As long as there is dinner and movies mixed in to "keep us sweet".
thanks for the response!
cheers!

As a female gamer, I can say that it is important for both people in the relationship to respect each other's hobbies.

My boyfriend and I like a lot of similar games [most of them are single player unfortunately!], but some of the games he plays get on my nerves!
To make up for that, he plays them very little to never around me.

I guess that means gaming men should balance their time with their girlfriends and their video games. If she's at your house, she's there to see you. Make her feel like you're glad she's there.
Have conversations with her while playing and most importantly make sure you take her to dinner or to a movie every once and a while to keep her sweet! Women are less likely to complain when they get what they want: attention.

real guitar. that's talent. I do know lots of people though that are excellent guitar players that also enjoy some guitar hero, though not as extensively as some that make gaming their life. The whole point is, "everything in moderation". But if you are going to spend so much time with something, why not learn the real deal? I am.

I like horror and action films too and especially zombie and vampire movies. The point is that the video games got to be his life and he couldn't bare to take a moment out of it to spend some time doing something else. Don't get me wrong, I tried to get into it myself and we were together for at least 4 months. It became completely impossible to tear him away from his virtual life.
He definitely regrets it and is now kicking himself in the ass for ever letting me escape him. lucky me

I play video games with my girlfriend all the time... but then again my girlfriend also likes horror/action movies, and zombies.

I once dated a boy who was completely obsessed with video games. He was in front of his computer more than he slept or did school work. One day a few months down the road I was trying to get him outside to do something, anything and get out of the hole in the basement of his mom's house. I kept making suggestions, lets walk to the park, lets go get some lunch. He just mumbled at all of my suggestions. I got so frustrated and started walking out as he begged to me, "But I'm almost to the next level!". And that was my breaking point. I walked out the door and that was it. over.

My ex-girlfriend never liked the fact that I gamed during our 2 year relationship. I don't consider myself an addict but I do play pretty regularly. I see gaming as an activity/hobby. If they can't respect your hobby then they're not the right person for you.

Seriously though this is the kind of thing you just need to find the right mate to be with. If they are that AGAINST you and your hobby then there is really no point in being together.

He/She should show atleast a little interest.

Its not just girls that get freaked out, or have a complex, by their signif gaming, and I've seen my fair share of guys get mad at their girlfriends. Gaming isn't just a boys club just like soap operas aren't just for girls. We girl gamers face just as many of these inane arguements as the guys. I do agree that a couple hours a night isn't an addiction and people should let their partner enjoy their hobby. I truly believe that it is a mask for more serious problems in the relationship, cause who would want to see somebody you care about bored out of their mind. Props to your GF for gaming with you. She's a def keeper. ;)

I'm lucky enough to have a girlfriend who will play video games with me, but alot of my friends have the situation mentioned. Girls have a complex that their significant other shouldn't direct his attention to anything else except them. If they were to sit around in boredom they'd be ok but because they can enjoy something it bothers them on some level. I've seen it in 3 of my warcraft buddies. Personally a couple hours a night when we get off work is no where near addiction, so they person in the relationship who is bothered by this should get over their selfish behavior and let them enjoy somethings that obviously makes them happy. No one interrupts your soap operas!

All the ladies love Rock Band. Start em off just you and her. Get her used to her instrument of choice and let her loose.

I'm a gamer and there is a point where a hobby becomes an addiction and addictions can ruin your life. When it comes to relationships. If she/he don't respect things you enjoy to do, you need to leave or they need to get a hobby. Some people don't realize they are not always entertaining.

Wow clarity_kat, your sorority sisters sounds really cool!

I don't think there's anything wrong in enjoying something that "belongs" to your significant other. It really should go both ways though.

Interesting. I used to go to LAN parties with some of my sorority sisters back in the day, but mainly stick to my Xbox/PS set up at home now days. No time to hit up the late night sessions, but geek it up on my own. :P

That's sad that she wouldn't expect her BF to return the same interest in something that was purely hers. I don't think I could be with a person if they were not willing to at least try the things I am into, because I know I would try the things they are into.

Perfect example... I love soccer. Have been playing since I was 3, and while my BF is not really into soccer or sports at all he still comes to all my games to cheer me on. He also points out Warriors highlights and other random trivial things I like. In return I take a serious interest in the things he likes. (cooking, MMA, kungfu movies)

Its a give and take with relationships.. if a girl can't give a lil and handle that your guy is at home gaming then there is usually something bigger then just gaming getting in between them.

Well put clarity_kat, my friend made a point to me earlier about girl gamers. Both of us have never known a girl gamer who is actually interested in games. The few girl gamers we do know, herself included, only like games because they love their significant others and are willing to actually share in his interests because she loves him.

She said that she could not expect the same kind of sacrifice of interests from her guy.

what do you think?

HAHA... I think I play easily 10 times more then he does. If anything, I think some people, girls and guys alike, get upset because they perceive that we enjoy our games more then we enjoy our time with them. I think the only time I could get annoyed is if we were trying to talk about something important or were already running late to go somewhere.... but I'm guilt of playing during those times so I can't really say anything. LOL

Besides... if they really don't enjoy it get them a Wii and I'm sure they will get the entertainment of it in a couple hours.

Personally I

Yep, it keeps them off the streets, but the 'honey-dos' never, ever get done.

Awesome, yeah, girls who look on the bright side of it are great.

Well look at it this way, you know that your bf spends his time at home and not somewhere else with other females around him lol

I am sure that some aspect of it lies in that the games draw our attention away from them as assumed 'most important person' in our lives. I know for myself as a gamer a lot of my girlfriends get on my nerves if I want to play my number 1 hobby but they keep harassing me about how much of a waste of time it is.

besides, there is no reason for girls to hate video games, the only reason most of them do is because they have not found the right game that gets them interested.

So, my fellow gamers, if your girlfriend or boyfriend hates video games, try to reason with them and get them to understand how important they are to you and try to find a game you can enjoy together rather than isolating yourselves from your significant other.