Will & Jada Pinkett Smith: Swingers?

Its a dog eat dog world we live in.. we play cat & mouse til a woman decides what she wants to do w/ herself.. the ideal relationship exceeds the normal mans personality. It takes to long to find the right woman. Even if we do find her.. right is a matter of timing.. nothing EVER stays the same.. so how can you commit to something that constantly changes?? Not only are we the ones that hunt but we go thru life looking and searching so long we never give up looking I guess.. woman just have to remain content a ni99a gon' b around! Beeeleedat! So at the end of the day we can only commit to the persons presence.. so if the sex get old kids gets grown body loses appeal u just get comfy.. not saying that's a bad thing but let's be honest.. ain't no pu$$y like new pu$$y.. not just the vagina but the whole idea of the new.. just like a car a house jewlery everything u loved u want to upgrade or switch up or add to it.. not necessarily giving up the old always UNLESS THERE'S NO USE OR VALUE ANYMORE!! Selfish chicks want all the attention on them want everything and more bragging rights really.. who wants to share or be 2nd?? NOBODY, SO I UNDERSTAND why a lot of woman ain't w/ the sharing. Its like when rich people buy high priced non sense cuz its 1 of a kind.. has no use but worth a fortune.. smdh!

I love discussions about monogamy and sex outside marriage. All the talk of honesty and commitment, lies and unfaithfulness, family values and the destruction of the family unit. Now that’s entertainment.

God only knows what their lives are like since they live in a completely different world from 99% of the rest of us. If they're cool with whatever and honest about it, then good for them.

The one catch might be that they are celebrities and are rich on the viewing public's dime. Since Will Smith is successful because of his squeaky clean reputation and family man image ("I don't have to curse in my records" etc.), if they believe in honesty in their relationships, it's a little twisted that they haven't been completely open with the public about it. If you've been a big Will Smith fan because you think he's one thing then find out he's something different, it's kind of like fraud to an extent. Then again, they're actors, so acting is what they do best.

I've always liked Will Smith and this is just a weird question mark. I still think he's a cool, funny guy, but I probably wouldn't cite him as the exceptional Hollywood role model to others that I have in the past if this is the reality behind the PR image. Celebrities are role models, but many don't give a shit about anyone but themselves, which is what makes those people worthless in my eyes. All that fame and power used for self gratification instead of towards the benefit of millions? Sports figures are the worst in that regard.

I don't know them or the details of the alleged swinging arrangement personally, so I'll reserve passing judgment. On the same note, I really could care less about celebrities or what they do with their lives. I concern myself with the people that I know personally, not with what some idiot's doing just because he or she is on the magic nonsense box. Just because they make a lot of money and are widely recognized because of their jobs doesn't mean they have any better ideas about life or behavior than you do.

To each their own, just treat others honestly and fairly.

It's the terms of a commitment that matter. The rules of two people are their business...

Who are we to judge the rules of two people with a mutual understanding...

So many people seem stuck in old school values, crammed in a box.

Yes, we all like how monogamy looks. BUT what about if those involved are happy?? What is more important, how it looks or if it really works for us humans...

I can't believe anyone would criticize Will and his wife and how they make it work. We should be learning from the successful ones...

maybe if more people were like them, the divorce rate would be lower ... think about it !!!!

What's the point of a contract of a one on one commitment before God if one of the ones that one is on isn't the one that one commits to?
Know what I'm sayin'?

Go ahead and profess the theorized advantages of polygamy but no culture that has lost the familial unit has survived. Regardless of how cool you want to be you still want to have 'your' parking space when you get where your going, either home or work. And if we want to keep going, you may want to be in the same office or house you expect to be in. So if these do not apply, go ahead and drive whatever car to whatever parking space and work in whatever office is left for you. Sound wacky. So does open marriage. TheCocoon, you're assuming what makes people happy. The real question is can this work. Sure, but you have to lower/change your expectations and it still a cop out. Commitment anyone?? Ehhhh, let's not.

Old school, puritanism sucks !! Oppress your self but don't push it on others .....

love is infinite and their is enough to go around...

Cheating is in the lie, the deception. If it's ok in two people's rules for each other, it is pure...

I can love my women very deeply and still want to experience and explore others. It's very expansive and it doesn't mean I love my first women any less...

Everyone is unique. What I offer as a man might be different from another man. My lover might be able to grow and be even more happy if allowed to be free to explore another person...

Monogamy in some ways, is based on possession, insecurity and sacrifice of our human desire...

It says "If you love me you will give up others for me"

A romantic idea maybe, but sucks if we really want our lovers to be the happiest !!!!

I still vote for monogamy however rare it is these days. I agree with DEDEMETAL ... a person who looks just for pleasure is rarely happy. I'm happily alone, but D&D free no thanks to my last boyfriend who (it seems) is looking to hit the HIV jackpot some day. Me, I want a certificate of health before I open up to anyone EVER again. You carry herpes around like luggage for the rest of your life. HIV is even more "forever" than that. NO THANKS! I'll stick to one partner please, and leave it at that. :-)
Peace!

Don't be so judgmental this is 2008 and I have a similiar arrangement in my marriage!! And guess what we've been happily married going on 11 years!

who in the hell would want to be with another woman when you're married to jada???

blonde_bombshelld,
You are right. How stable is a marriage that involes a consentual lack of honesty.

i think thats kind of stupid doesnt a marriage vow say somethin bout stayin true to your husband / wife .....well if they can do that and no guilt more power to them but i still feel that it porbably cuases problems

I do not think I would want to be with anyone else if I was married to Jada Pinkett-Smith. Monogamy is the best way to have sexual satisfaction. A very wise person said - "Those who live for pleasure are seldom happy."