Thoughts on “Hard Core”

I do think Southwood's response has a more tolerant,....hmmmmm,..."humanity" to it than her inspirational source material by Natasha Vargas-Cooper.

( but if you want to go to a genderrific culture war, it doesn't saber rattle nearly as well. )

what was a Habit is Now A Vice

Good Freudian slip, man ! That's vice as in the opposite of virtue.
But the squeezer is also the pleaser, as a vise is also nice. As even
Albert Einstein once said: " Your reach should always exceed your
grasp " As Madeline Kahn said in Mel Brooks: The History of the World
Part 1, " What is someone who's been baiting hooks for 20 years ? " Heh.
That's gotta be hard core.

And he was a very witty, highly intelligent man... And although he loved a few women very deeply, he was only truly happy with his male partners. ...So his insight here isn't very universal.

True, but with reservations. In those, what I believe to be, relatively rare
instances where 2 people are so star crossed that the pairing is dead on
target because they are both souls that have loved before in previous
incarnations...Where both realize therefore that the other half of their
soul exists in the other person, and both see each other as equals &
opposites, yet are both one and the same...And that they both live in
such an all pervasive dream that noone can wake them while they live..
And yet passing on only temporarily parts them because they are pre
destined to find themselves again in a future reincarnation...all bets
are off. I realize the aformentioned is such Zen, that for a male to hold
to that instead of some female writing a formulated romance novel for
money, is odd. But I still nonetheless believe it's true. When something
is so perfectly balanced that it transcends normal time, it's real magic.

As the Persian poet Kahlil Gibran once said: " True Love cannot be
developed by long & patient courtship, because True Love is the off
spring of the birth of spiritual affinity. Thus, if Love is not created in a
moment, it will never be created in many years or even many generations "

As a footnote, the ancients considered the Zodiac Constellations Libra
and Scorpio,not merely contiguous, but linked. They called Libra the
major scales, and Scorpio the lesser scales. Obviously love for mature
people involves sex, but the sex is more the physical connectivity as a
conduit to spiritual regeneration than getting high off pleasure for those
who are a perfectly married soul identity. The eyes are windows to the
soul, and give it away. Remanns posted an article once about a group
of women whose eyes were the most luminous of all. The sheer beauty
in the eyes of those women was too awesome even for me to put into
words. Not surprising. The ancients thus called it rapture to so indicate
that sex at least begins in the mind. It's pheremones that take it away.
(without removing it) Heh. More Zen. Hopefuly, I'm a core, and not a bore.

Knowledge comes to the lucky few, love comes to those with the knowledge to recognize it. But apparently, I'm not kewl yet.

Once bitten . . .

Was watching the Encore Westerns channel on Sunday, as I always do
because the Western States like Texas and Colorado are places where
I've lived and been a citizen of. Jimmy Cagney starred in a movie called:
Tribute to a Bad Man. He played a character that wasn't realy cruel or
evil in any way, merely hard because he was strong enough to have
adapted to the harsh conditions in the Old West. He said something
interesting that was typical of the 1950s color movies, and what made
them so special. " A man's heart is never broken by his 1st love...only
by his last Love " If you read between the lines you'll no doubt realize
what that entails. Confucious once said " To love something(someone)
means you want them to live " That's a hint in the event you didn't quite
understand what Jimmy Cagney's line implied. Love is a fire that burns
everyone who gets too close to it's flames. But the important thing to
learn is that as it's so special people will die for it, they should develop
the courage to live for it. No love is realy ever without benefit even to
those unhappy in it's experience for all love carries it's own rainbow.
No life would be worth living, imho, without the hope of being with True Love.

If you want to read the words of people whose observations are more
enlightened than my own on the subject of Love, Kahlil Gibran and Victor
Hugo are a good place to Google a start for research. I collect Love quotes
on my I Google home page & sidebar gadgets. But the words won't mean
anything without direct personal experience. (There's knowledge on the
basic mind level, then there's wisdom on a higher mind level.) It all depends
on direct personal experience. I can see you've had some direct personal
experience on the subject so please consider the following as some
brotherly advice: Humans are 1/2 animal & 1/2 Divine. Unless both sides
are given their expression, we're diminished. Love is a Divine force which
can burn you or warm you depending on how you & the other person handle
it. It takes 2 to tango. You shouldn't let it burn you into depriving yourself
of another chance to let it warm you with another whom you can deal with.
Philosophers have universaly held that God, aka the Divine. is MIND on the
universal level. Whether Love or Sex it all starts in the mind then progresses
from there. Thus, Love derives from virtue. It's not a matter of being cool,
Love will find you like a cruise missle if you make yourself worthy of receiving
it, because noone who receives it can fail to pass it on. Good luck from a 49er.

The second of the Four Noble Truths (Buddhism) states that the ultimate cause of all suffering is attachment and unquenchable desire. Marriage, sex, lust, animal instinct, and quite a bit of our imagined social norms, all fall under this category (hence the Oscar Wilde quote).

Not being kewl yet, doesn't mean I haven't experienced unconditional love, for I was lucky enough to produce three offspring during my short attachment. Not to sound cliché but yes, they have been the light of my life for the past twenty nine years. An awesome experience only a lucky few get to enjoy, and yes, I did have the knowledge to recognize it.

And in the end
The love you take
Is equal to the love you make.

~ McCartney

Glad to hear it. I can appreciate the 4 Noble Truths of Indian Bhuddism.
But I'm only part Bhuddist. Like the 3 Ballantine Beer rings which interlap
to form a universal center common to the elements of all 3 universal sets,
I find that it's always good to entertain alternate truths. Here's one for you
with a bit of Zen you can understand I'm sure. " We are healed of a suffering
only by fully experiencing it " Marcel Proust. Thanks for the McCartney quote.
It was my point all along. That we create and balance our own Karma.

a pornstar's place is in the home. my home. after a series of shots ( and not simply photo shoots,....but SHOTS. )

safety first p.s. +^d !

heh. +^d

Soo true!

+^d
Ditto!