Female office workers: "Don't call us babe"

I don't mind if coworkers/etc. call me by petnames. It's actually kind of endearing, unless used in excess. But for the most part that doesn't ever happen.

'Chick' and 'babe' are the WORST

Does the annoyance with the pet names include female superiors, managers , supervisors, etc or is it just when the males do it? I'm not being argumentative just curious. I know the women hate it when another woman calls them ma'am.
I think for many men working with woman is like trying to negotiate a mine field, they're never quite sure who will take a gesture of friendship as nothing more than that...or decide that it is either an overture, or condescendence.

I don't blame them; I hate when people call me "buddy."

The ladies I work with call every one of us guys in the shop dear, sweetie, honey, whatever. It goes both ways. It's is said with love and respect. If that bothers you, you don't have too much else to worry about, do you?

is it really that big a deal? i mean, so what if someone calls you babe or whatever. so what if they don't respect you. you can't MAKE them respect you by forcing them to not call you by a pet name. respect yourself, your intrinsic worth, and others will follow.

DAMN,...that IS stupid. If someone at work said: "hey you FUKWAD,(for example) do ...x.." MY immediate response is "Hey pussy cock suck mother fraker,...want to take this outside"??? The problem isnt in the particular term itself,...but in THE RESPONSE TO IT! If its offensive, let em know,...put that hand on the sidearm (metaphorical or not),....AND DAMN WELL LET THEM KNOW! Victory and glory go to the bold,.....those with BALLS,....and OVARIES! Jobs come and go,...respect,...or the lack of it,....is a social yoke upon you,....PULL DAMN IT,...PULL!

RESPECT IS HAD UPON THE MOMENT. OR NOT. YOUR BALLS. YOUR OVARIES. YOUR HONOR IS FOR YOU!

I hate when they do that, its so wrong. I would of opened a can of whoopass!

I mean no disrespect at all when I use pet names. I just simply can't remember names. I called my wife babe for the first few years we were together simply because I thought it was better than Susan or Wanda or something like that. (Her name is Kay.) I did find out however that "bitch" really wasn't a good one to use. :(

i dont see it on the list so i guess im in the clear with "sugar tits"

I just call the girlies dude now.
Some laugh.
Some look confused.

A lot of the older gals at my work call be "hun". I never take offense to it, because they then proceed to tell me I remind them of their son/grandson/nephew. I think it is just a generational thing that feminist get the wrong idea about. Except chick and poppet. Those just sound like sexual her ass ment to me.

I've never heard a guy call a girl "mate." That's like calling a girl one of your "bro's."

Hey, just don't call me late for dinner! The rest are just words.

I like being called "dear". Granted i work in an all female group and we are all pretty close. And yeah, if you dont like it, just say with a smile that you prefer to be called by your name. And answer only to your name from then on out.

If I do not like something that someone calls me I have no problem politely ask that person to stop. I do not understand why some women get angry, offensive or feel victimized.

This is especially not cool when your boss is a cross between Al Bundy and Michael Scott. Welcome to my Hell.

What about the other way around? It's both ways. But whoever wrote this story won't admit to that. Everything has become so pc or so conservative that we can't say anything without offending someone.

is it really that big a deal? i mean, so what if someone calls you babe or whatever. so what if they don't respect you. you can't MAKE them respect you by forcing them to not call you by a pet name. respect yourself, your intrinsic worth, and others will follow.

I just want to add my experience to this conversation. I am a young man and i work in a nursing home with many female coworkers and i am regularly called dear and hun by said female coworkers and, to be honest, it doesnt bother me at all.

Wow amazing how many of you are so demeaning, it is sad that you don't see being called pet names by co workers is lame and annoying. Heina, I totally agree with you, you speak up, you get fired.. unless you have a penis .. anyways that is why women are getting educated and opening their own businesses, it's the only way to turn things around, I dare anyone to try that crap at my business man or woman!

What ever you say, Sweetie.

How about bitch, closeness is good in the workplace.Broads are screwed up,
or looking for a lawsuit.

I am so guilty.. I oftentimes say/use "dear". I only recently discovered that it may be considered "patronizing" (or defamatory?).
I learned it from a prior partner, a British woman, who used it all the time, and it not only came across as soothing to most, but really appeared to impose an air of 'ease' in any engagement. It just kind of rubbed off after a time.
And it wasn't only her, but all the British folks I met used it all the time, quite naturally.
Years later I am learning that, and I could only guess because its coming from a man, that this is unacceptable of offensive language ...huh?!
Oh well.

@Maitereya Because if we say anything, then we might be accused of being "unfriendly" and "uptight." In a competitive and frankly terrifying job market, no one wants to make a fuss lest they be fired. This is America; an employer is entitled to fire you because they so choose.

The woman in that picture is a total babe.

ok i guess its back to

sweet cheeks?

really? people still do this sort of thing?

The word "poppet" is an older spelling of puppet, from the Middle English popet, meaning a small child or doll. In British Dialect it continues to hold this meaning. Poppet is also a chiefly English term of endearment. ( In the mysterious orient it has evolved to "sweet poon-tang" which literally translates to "sweaty love puppet" with a mild connotation of familial endearment.
(glad to be of help)
Pookie the Lion; a lion puppet appearing in a large window behind Soupy (1950s), was a hipster with a rapier wit. For example: Soupy: "Do you know why my life is so miserable?" Pookie: "You got me!" Soupy: "That's why!" One of Pookie's favorite lines when greeting Soupy was, "Hey bubby... want a kiss?". In the Detroit shows, Pookie never spoke but communicated in whistles. That puppet also was used to mouth the words while pantomiming novelty records on the show.
----hence poppet/puppet/pookie=term of endearment . at this point, all equally archaic to the modern ear as familiarities.
As to Pookie=poo,........
O Poooo!
(not to be confused with "Pookie wuv U wong wong time,...big bang bang?")..........though,....hmmmmmmmmm,.... the puppet poppet pookie poon-tang connection can all relate to Poooo,,....and being an ass,........JUST BEING CHEEKY.

"Hey hows it going Kiddo?".... LOVE IT.

But seriously, I think its a subtle way of maintaining our superiority vis-a-vis our female co-workers. What can us guys do? The girls are catching up with pay and college degrees. Language is an underhanded and efficient way of achieving this and those who use it are true masters of the Dark Side...

how about "sugar tits"
and what the hell is a poppet?

I prefer bitches or ho's.

It is more current.

I prefer "weeeeeeeeeeench!" (followed by "Fetch me some grog!" and an affectionate swat on the rumpus,....er,...breaches,....lets stay PC)

Why don't women say 'don't call me that please' ? Has anyone thought of that or is bitching on the internet easier?

I fuckin' hate babe. Makes me ANGRY :whips out She-Hulk costume:

I guess "Pookie" is out, too!?