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Court Awards Sole Custody to Father Due to Mother’s Parental Alienation

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Earlier this month a court in Toronto, Cananda, transfered full custody of three daughters ages 9 to 14 to their father after a long-term parental alienation campaign by their mother. She had worked for years to brainwash them to hate their father. Judge McWatt of the Superior Court of Justice found that this constituted emotional child abuse and banned the mother from all further contact with the children except for counselling programs, including a program to help the children recover from parental alienation syndrome.




Parental alienation involves the systematic and frequently repeated denigration of one parent by the other and blocking of access to the parent who is the target of denigration. This is more than the unfortunately common occasional badmouthing during or after a divorce. While any badmouthing by one parent of the other parent in front of the children is detrimental, occasional negative comments are not enough to constitute parental alienation. This is especially the case when the parents making such mistakes recognizes them as such and try to avoid repeating them, respects that the children should have involvement of both of their parents in their lives, and complies with court orders involving visitation, custody, and contact.

Parental alienation is a form of emotional, verbal, and psychological abuse against children. Courts in multiple countries, including the United States and Canada, have consistently viewed parental alienation as child abuse. The way it has been handled has varied widely, however. Some courts have wrongly sided with the alienating parent. Others have shown unending tolerance for the alienation campaign. In both scenarios, the courts are directly contributing to child abuse.
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10 comments // Court Awards Sole Custody to Father Due to Mother’s Parental Alienation

  • photochick
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      photochick  

    • Right on Mamabear!
      And how awful for these children to be transferred to Dad's care and not able to see Mom??? OK...obviously the dad wasn't the monster mom said.....but what about the mindset of these children? They must have been scared to death......and missing Mom to the point of emotional abuse on the part of the justice system!
      I have a son who divorced when his son was 2..and went through similar bad-mouthing episodes, although not as bad as this case. And, my grandson (age 13) is now living full time with my son and, as HE saw his Mom was a liar...... So I have complete sympathy for the Dad in this case......BUT
      What if the Mom had been right.....what if she really felt and believed that this Dad was a monster. What if she was really just trying very hard to protect her children? There has to be some cases out there, where the children were "rewarded" to a bad parent. And, as MamaBear said.....the children in this case still only have one parent! Such a sorry situation.

    • 3 years ago
  • talw
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      talw  
    • photochick:

      PAS is not "bad mouthing"..... many people do not understand this. PAS is a psychological disturbance "in which children are obsessed with deprecation and criticism of a parent - denigration that is unjustified and/or exaggerated". Not only does the child reject one parent as all "bad" it embraces the other as all "good". - Richard A. Gardner, "Recent Trends in Divorce and Custody Litigation"

      I did not understand this and did not think that it was possible, but speaking first hand, it is....It is very real and sad....and to be quite frank it destroys the child........ Most if not all fathers rights groups are about shared/equal parenting......the family court system is very broken. I do not believe that "it" hates men but is dysfunctional b/c of greed/money......simply put for every dollar that is collected for child support the state receives a percentage from the federal government.....statistically speaking, fathers typically earn more, and support is increased based on the time the child spends with the custodial parent.....it might seem crazy but it is the truth ...... the family court system is a big racket... lawyers, judges, therapists ect benefit from this not the children

    • 2 years ago
  • petarro
  • mammabear
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      mammabear  

    • Although I am glad that dad now has a chance to be involved in his daughter's lives, Is this the right solution? The children still only have 1 parent!
      It's still a 'winner takes all' mentality.
      I am glad to see that mom is also participating in counseling sessions....perhaps there is hope!
      Is there counseling available for dad as well? I'm sure he could use a bit of 'vent time' too!

    • 3 years ago
  • jahbini
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      jahbini  

    • This one hits too close to home for me. My Ex has totally alienated my daughter from me, and my son (24 now) only talks to me in secret so mom won't find out.

      As for legal help for me? Not a hope.

    • 3 years ago
  • justadad
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      justadad  
    • jahbini:

      when the entrusted play in the (their fantasy) land of ventriloquism unto those of no ability to speak for themselves; we find hope having been compromised.

      Likewise, when neutrality of honorable duty has been grossly undermined by pay for hate, discrimination and invigoration of ill-will; we find Liberty lacking gracious guardianship.

      Further, when self-less service to Freedom and civil community is trumped by easy money and IV-mainlining; we find civil and gracious communities being caste into a past bygone.

      Best regards, wishes and prayers for your unfortunate circumstances.

      Sadly, I suspect resources of judicial assistance may be limited, unavailable or not well understood if in your neighborhood. None the less, there may be a "sleeper" close at hand. I suspect that even a few members of judiciary may likely recognize and be open to discussing this dilemma.

    • 3 years ago
  • justadad
  • justadad
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      justadad  
    • justadad:

      slarabee expressed --> "willingness and ability of each of the parties to facilitate and encourage a close and continuing parent-child relationship between the child and the other parent or the child and the parents."

      With this, might not we ever be seeing divorce(s) to begin with?

      When will the public begin to accept loving parents as individuals?

      When will the public begin to accept the character of individuals?


      When will the public begin to accept "self-evident" truths?

      Having referenced the above, I admit to not having your experiences.

      In my particular case, I'm the poster child "db dad."

      In my view, loving fathers today within the modern enlightenment of our more compassionate communities have absolutely complete "ignorance."

      Further, we have "I'm a better man" complex.

      Add to this, our weaknesses of chilvalry, it's a wonder we have not already imploded.

      In my particular circumstances, attempts were made for exactly as describe for yourself above -- well-being of the children. Yet, to do just such (as you likely understand) implicitly involves "pointing the finger" to fuel the blame game to flames with respect to an endearing child's other parent. (any wonder???)

      Regarding the "varies state to state?"

      I'm not sure I completely understand your point here as I may be unable to completely discern; however, in my sampling and by my perspective across several different states and based on a reality of "people," I'm guessing that perhaps you either work for an agency within a state and/or have been so fortunate to have evolved within an area absent "vindictive."

      I would be interested in further dialog off-line and learning a bit more if you are able.

    • 3 years ago
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