Off the Agenda: Is This Gossip?
source: http://blog.buildingchurchleaders.com/2009/09/is_this_gossip.html
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A related challenge to any relationship- is confidentiality—that is, how open can you be about someone else? These nine questions can help you decide whether what you know should be shared.
1. Am I telling this to someone who can do something about the problem by helping the person or offering discipline or correction?
2. If not, am I telling this to someone who is wise enough to help me sort out my feelings and courageous enough to make me do the right thing: to confront the person or to confess where I was at fault?
3. Is this news approved for sharing?
4. Am I breaking a confidence? If so, is it only because the person is endangering someone's life, including his or her own?
5. Am I willing to say from whom I got this information so the information can be checked for accuracy?
6. When I say this, does it break my heart?
7. Have I taken time to examine my life and confess to God how I also sin like that?
8. Am I praying for the person?
9. Would I feel comfortable if someone were saying this about me?
Taken from Confidentiality
Kevin Miller is author of Surviving Information Overload (Zondervan).
So what do you think? What are your personal rules for deciding what is gossip and what is fine to talk about?
1. Am I telling this to someone who can do something about the problem by helping the person or offering discipline or correction?
2. If not, am I telling this to someone who is wise enough to help me sort out my feelings and courageous enough to make me do the right thing: to confront the person or to confess where I was at fault?
3. Is this news approved for sharing?
4. Am I breaking a confidence? If so, is it only because the person is endangering someone's life, including his or her own?
5. Am I willing to say from whom I got this information so the information can be checked for accuracy?
6. When I say this, does it break my heart?
7. Have I taken time to examine my life and confess to God how I also sin like that?
8. Am I praying for the person?
9. Would I feel comfortable if someone were saying this about me?
Taken from Confidentiality
Kevin Miller is author of Surviving Information Overload (Zondervan).
So what do you think? What are your personal rules for deciding what is gossip and what is fine to talk about?
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arcticspirit
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For me it isn't that complicated. I really don't talk about others if it is a subject that EVERYONE doesn't know about and they don't mind people talking about.
I never want to talk about something that puts someone else down, if everyone is just down on someone, I'll leave or change the subject.
If someone is going to do harm to themselves or others, one has to do something to try to prevent that action.
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