Why we might never recover from puppy love

yes this is true...it does set unrealistic standards of people

First love that sets unrealistic benchmarks? Obviously, this person is a hopeless romantic. Let's get one thing straight- the majority of us meet our first love when we're teenagers. Tell me, were you thinking straight at that age? Are you still that same person now? I sure as hell wasn't, that's why my relationship started and ended in a year, because I didn't use my head and I didn't know who I was.

I kissed a lot of frogs to find my prince and I sure as hell don't compare him to my "puppy love" experiences.

Your first love will always hold a special piece of you, and you'll never forget them. It's probally the hardest relationship youll ever have to get over, and as for the second.. third.. fourth... even if they're better in every way the feelings aren't comparable to the first time you ever felt them. It's sad.

It has been my experience that you do not get over your first love. Yay!!

Why would anyone want to get over their first puppy loves? I think that most normal, well-adjusted people view them as fond memories. They don't equate them with the real life present.

First Love is the only true love. Everything else is compromise.

True love is a gift. It isn't something we do by chance, but is something we are given by divine grace. We are given one life and one true love to last a lifetime. Likewise, we have one heart, one brain and one soul, and regardless of the possible benefits, we cannot have multiples of any one at any one time. It is possible to replace a heart, but it is not without conditions and consequences.

I believe we are given one true love in a lifetime. It is up to both lovers to protect and honor this love, less it be lost. Once lost, it can never be restored or replaced. Love can be grown/cultivated/reproduced, but nothing is as pure as the original.

Much like a drug, true love is a perfect first time high. You could spend the rest of your life trying to reproduce that feeling, but you'll never quite get there.

no no no.

that first relationship ended for a reason. how am i gonna compare current or future relationships to the "bliss" that was that first relationship while keeping in mind that he clearly was not flawless? and neither would any relationship one may have be.

i believe unrealistic expectations should more likely be attributed to movies (well, and the common notion that everything should be easy and that laziness works). wouldn't it be lovely if all our "movies" had such happy endings? but i wonder, how does one make those happy *endings* last a lifetime?

I think it's probably true.

well, not having dated any guys in high school (or after for that matter) I can't really say. I have however encountered such girls in high school and college (and unfortunately after) who either had unrealistic ideas of love and expected some kind of ever-attentive Romance Novel hero who anticipates her every need and mood with ESP-like clarity; or I have encountered the scarred cynical type who suspected any romantic gesture having had a really bad first love experience.

The former type is living in a self-absorbed fairy-tale but the latter type lives in a dark world of medication, mistrust, and expensive therapy sessions. So I think bad first relationships are far worse than girls waiting for Prince Charming in a Porsche.