I Married The War

both my parents served in the military. my family has long served. we may not always agree with what is going on but we support each other and love this country. you cannot expect to agree all the time but if you believe in each other and have common goals. agree to disagree. respect.

great pod! really hit home for me! i had to go through my hubby's deployment while pregnant with our first child. i was in the army and he was in the marines, iwas to be deployed to afganistan for 18months, but gave up career to have our son. My hubby was deployed about 7months, and every moment of it sucked! Being a soldier is tricky thing. I think most join to serve but don't want to go to war, it just sorta happens that way. I know i never wanted to go to war, but always wanted to serve.

As a military spouse myself, I can say that a lot of spouses, as well as soldiers, sailors, airmen and marines, share the problem of being caught up in a war they do not support, and I feel it is a perspective that has been overlooked. I appreciated this story.

awwww suck it up. You had choices. We who serve place the mission first. Sorry, ya'll come second. Way of a warrior. Those who couldn't learn that rule, didn't remain warriors for long. Loyalty, duty, honor, respect, selfless service, and personal courage. Unless you're geared up outside the wire....or been there, don't even bother witha comment.

Hopefully, he'll turn against the war as well.

Bravo. This was such a poignant and intimate piece. ...a story I had never imagined.. painted tenderly and succinctly.

I have to say I have tremendous respect for their relationship that despite different mindsets and distance, they are still able to keep their relationship intact. Pretty good stuff.

My sister has compiled a short, yet poignant, visual representation and chronology of the difficulties many couples face today. Women, families, left at home with the uncertainty of a loved one's return, combined with the increasingly mottled, perhaps misguided, understanding of what the "war" truly is today. How do we come to an understanding? Where does self preservation of one's culture venture too far, resulting in the restraint another's? There are no boundaries, nothing is sacred, nothing respected... within our own society

we are the same, the same needs drive us to perform different acts - as radical as they may seem... we share far too many similarities than differences

recognize this

That is a sad thing to have a relationship so distant and beliefs that are different. I think she has a decent outlook on this. I think her outlook is helping her cope with what is going on in her life and that's good.

I disagree, though, about the war only that all war fits her description, not just this war. I think it's terribly misguided for people to single out this war, or any war for that matter, as bad when it's a fact that all war is bad. This one is not any different than any other war that was fought in this century.

I hope that he doesn't get deployed and he can return home so that when she turns around to say something to him he'll actually be sitting there.