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Conquering Love Addiction


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Who knew there was scientific evidence to back up that Robert Palmer song?
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9 responses // Conquering Love Addiction

  • http://youtube.com/watch?v=C4EJkI3hN0w
    Addicted to love...
    No one is immune.
    Swiyyah
  • So rad! I love those chicks. Thanks for posting Swiyyah!
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  • i knew it.
    regina
  • http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/20...
    An Affair of the Head
    An Affair of the Head
    I'm really fascinated by the 'science' of love, and to what extent love is dictated by chemicals alone. I'm having trouble finding the exact research, but I've always been in turns fascinated and horrified by the "expiration date" on love. Many, many longterm couples break up inside of this window, because the chemicals simply stop kicking in the way they used to. When you're left with the inevitable reality of the relationship, with no fire left to stoke, will you stay or will you go?

    Again, I can't find the research the way I think I ought to be able, but here's a bit from the end of still another article about the science of love:

    "Dopamine leaves the scene of the affair, now running off into the nucleus accumbens, the insular cortex, the lateral orbitofrontal cortex, research by Fisher and others shows. Jilted lovers' brains now light up in these areas when they look at pictures of their former flames -- this brain matter is associated with taking big risks, addiction, physical pain and obsessive-compulsive disorders. This is why, researchers theorize, people become obsessed with lost love, and are driven, in extreme cases, to stalking, suicide, homicide, rubber tubing.

    "Still, [Pamela C. Regan, a professor of psychology at California State University, Los Angeles] says, passion is destined to end, whether mellowing into long-term love or blowing up on the freeway at 4 a.m. Given this, she wonders if 'we do our self a disservice by glorifying passionate love so much.'

    "'The search for eternal passion is very misguided,' she says. 'It's the search for the perfect high that keeps people discarding relationships right and left. You don't feel the same way you did; people want to break up, instead of seeing it as normal.' "
    jennatar
  • i think "robert palmer girl" is the best halloween costume ever.
    edonelan
  • http://72.52.143.94/
    12-Step Love Addict
    12-Step Love Addict
    According to the 12-Steppers, Love and Sex Addiction is a serious addiction with 12-steps devoted to breaking the love addict cycle.

    Sex and love addiction: "any sexual or emotional act, no matter what its initial impulse may be, which leads to loss of control over rate, frequency, or duration of its occurrence or recurrence, resulting in spiritual, mental, physical, emotional, and moral destruction of oneself and others."

    Maybe some of what is described above happens because people are trying to keep or restore the high that jennatar talks about in her above post. That would certainly make this type of behavior an addiction.

    Viva la vida!
    http://current.com/items/85088451_better_the_devil_you_...
    FridaKahloLives
  • "'The search for eternal passion is very misguided,' she says. 'It's the search for the perfect high that keeps people discarding relationships right and left. You don't feel the same way you did; people want to break up, instead of seeing it as normal.' "

    Great article. It's amazing that science has managed to unraveled much of the mystery of love. (I feel so manipulated by mother nature!) Not that this will stop anyone, of course. But it does help people realize that it isn't the be all and end all of their lives. Just a temporary chemical high. And hopefully when the dust settles, they will have gained a best friend.
    phoenix_fire999
  • eternal passion may well start with friendship. when passion is mixed with words like kindness, friendship, caring, nurturing, giving, the mindset shifts. As LIGHT and LOVE become as one, the passion is eternal on another level or realm.

    This might be measured as an energy force far greater than most might imagine and yet it too must be nurtured to grow.

    The true test perhaps to learn to be both the LIGHT and LOVE as one whole being. This learning process may in fact be never ending, yet a worthy goal non the less. Power found in the positive affirmation of

    so many beautiful and blissful moments both known and shared.

    Perhaps the true measure of a life worth living.

    May you find whatever love and light might wish for you to find.
    1Eco_Media
  • http://current.com/items/76373082_sex_addicts
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    Sex and Love Addiction...
    A pod I did for Current that deals with somma this.
    dobrien

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