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If you were spanked as a child you probably love it as an adult


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Researchers have found that individuals who were spanked as children are more likely to partake in rough, masochistic sex as adults.

So, if you're into kinky sex, you can thank Mom and Dad.
Scott_Bromley

18 responses // If you were spanked as a child you probably love it as an adult

  • If you were spanked as a child you'll probably spank your children as well.

    Spanking is violent and not a good way to discipline your children, in my opinion.

    Is it a coincidence that "rough, masochistic sex" sounds like a nightmare to me and I've never been spanked? Maybe not, huh?
    covelogibbs
  • It seems that spanking one's kids goes well with yelling, cursing at and threatening them. But hey, maybe there's no connection. I wish the US would finally follow the lead of several other countries and outlaw spanking.
    AnemicElitist
  • I was totally unaware of the risks of "spanking", and am still a bit skeptical about it, but maybe thats because i'm one of the "lucky ones". I went to their website and found lots of anti-spanking propaganda, and even some pamphlets on how to talk to people about not spanking, but could not find anything about alternative methods of discipline. I'll look into this further, and hopefully change my outlook on how to raise my kids(when and if i have them). Because i was spanked as a child(not abused in any other way) and it helped to structure me, but like the article said, there are many others that were not so lucky, and the cycle of "violence" continues through them.
    thisisonelongname
  • That's really rather interesting. And it makes a fair amount on sense to me. I was spanked as a kid, and I like to think that I turned out ok. I was never in any way abused though; the spanking wasn't even hard enough to hurt. Just enough that, as a young kid, I knew that I had done something wrong. I can count on my hands the number of times it's ever happened, so i don't really think it should qualify as abuse. I had a single mother for many year, but we're best friends now, a rare relationship. I sure wouldn't change it!

    Granted, I suppose some people were spanked hard enough to hurt them (or hit) and I do disagree with that. I think that maybe parents should just be taught to use it to make very young kids aware that they're done something bad, but NEVER to hurt them! To me, it's the difference between discipline and abuse.
    Katamaripi
  • spanking doesn't work. it only hurts. has anyone ever heard, 'don't argue with children. they never win.' (or did i think of that? hmm)

    i got hit as a kid for shit that wasn't my fault. i knew it but i couldn't escape the belt or the slipper, if my dad decided to 'discipline' me. even worse, my foster mom did stuff like put chili pepper sauce on my lips if i didn't eat my veggies or kneel on uncooked pellets while holding bibles up on each hand, kneeling longer if it lowers. again, discipline, for misbehavior.

    (so now i like rough sex, and spicy stuff! still misbehavin')

    i have an 8 year old and spanking him once for doing something dangerous just made me feel so terrible that i realized never to do it again. for any reason. it just hurts their feelings. no one wins.
    pressrecord
  • alternative discipline? well, first stop believing that it's an unstoppable cycle. if it was learned, it can be unlearned. second, never spank in anger. only in play and with a hug.

    what seemed to work for us is talking things out and getting him to come around which he does when we talk calmly about something he's doing that worry or annoy me.

    after a while, he was able to talk to me more cleverly and can sometimes be convincing that i'm the one that needs spanking still.

    (which i still welcome).
    pressrecord
  • Personally, I have a different point of view. I was NEVER spanked as a child. All my mother had to do was say she was"dissapointed in me", that was enough punishment. BUT I love being spanked and spanking as an adult, so I don't see the correlation.

    As for disipling my kids. I didn't spank, the one time I did, it was because my son had (for the third time) gone out into the road. I think if it is to let them know that theyare doing something dangerous, and it is not so hard as to cause damage, then sometimes, it's your only recourse. My son stayed away from the road from then on and right now he is a happy, healthy adult.

    But again, this is just my life experiences and observations.

    LSD
    LadySliverDove
  • I was spanked as a child and swore I would never spank my child. But the first time my young toddler kept reaching for the tv or something else that was dangerous and my no's kept being giggled at. My hand impacted his well padded diapered bottom.

    Interesting the amount of wailing that child did for what I know he never even felt on his skin. How do I know because the brand of diapers I used was really bulky and I controlled the amount of force I used.

    OMG!!!!!!!!!! you know what the next time I said No, the child listened.

    Everyone has their opinion but if you look around those people who were spanked by a controlled hand and not an outraged or addicted hand learned that there is pain involved in life and our choices.

    Today, so many children are talked to and have few if any consequences applied to them and I must say kids today are rude and obnoxious.

    Your grounded to your room Johnny. No problem mom and off Johnny trots to watch his own tv, play on his xbox, talk on his phone, and chat on his computer.

    Oh ya they really learn consequences that way.

    I am not sure that the researchers that were quoted here wanted to really understand sex and spanking or if they just decided that hey you know what spanking can be fun to.

    Personally a good round of spanking with my Daddy makes me as happy as can be.

    For my kids though, personally I wish I would not have listened so much to what other God fearing Christ loving and non Sinners had to say. Because if I had well hell I might as well crucified myself as Jesus was crucified for being a human being for it was only by killing his human body that he could ascend unto the heavens to sit next to his Heavenly father.

    Me, I like being human I have no idea what it will be like in heaven. I wonder if they have spanking fests there for us terribly corrupted long grown up spanked children.

    litlon
    litlone
  • im in. ;-) missus fnar fnar. all goood clean fun if you want it to be. if not, well thats up to you.
    taffka
  • betwen consenting adults obviosly.
    taffka
  • Freud would love this.
    ILiveonaClock
  • I call bullshit. I got spanked enough times as a child, and it does absolutely nothing for me but render images of childhood fear.
    Varex_Sythe
  • That was my point Varex_Sythe, I called BS too. I know many people who NEVER got spanked that are into it as adults (being and giving for sexual pleasure) and many who were spanked that HATE it...So I think these people are talking out their a$$e$, so to speak.

    I think further research is needed...hmmmm perhaps I could do the research, any volunteers???

    LOL!!!

    Brightest Blessings,
    LSD
    LadySliverDove
  • Hmm, I wonder if the researchers used more then just one variable to their research and if the people they spoke to actively pursued spanking.

    One of the problems with research is that it is always biased upon what promotes the research to begin with. One of the guys who speaks for the research alone tells you the biased state of the research. Murray Straus, a spanking expert who was expected to present the findings of four studies at the American Psychological Association's Summit on Violence and Abuse in Relationships in Bethesda, Md..

    They are looking for reasons why there is violence and abuse in relationships. Not as to what causes people to enjoy a good round of spanking.

    So no matter what their conclusions are they will be biased against those who enjoy variety of sexual stimulants. I for one understand the need to discover why people abuse children but how others go about getting sexual gratification between consenting adults can not be linked to child abuse no matter what. They are two totally different perspectives and the variables are different.

    So yes, this research is biased and unfounded and only leads more fuel to the fire of an already misinformed community.

    litlone
    litlone
  • I have a few words for those reaserchers but i'll keep them to my self. As an abused child beaten from early childhood on, I will tell you that any women that even raises there hands to me in play can hit the road. bye bye cya.
    JEL_GraphicArtist
  • i was beaten as a child and i am telling you and them docs i did not like it then and i dont like it now and wair they get this crap saying people like it cause they wer hit as a child full of shit.them people saying they like it thats up to them but it is not cause of them getting the shit kicked out of them when they wer young.
    lyonz007
  • So JEL_GraphicArtist & lyonz007 just made my case for me. Thanks!!!
    LadySliverDove
  • I was never spanked during childhood (in fact back then I didn't even realise it is so widespread practice). And still I discovered a very early attraction towards spanking.
    I think it is unlikely that a spanked child ends up as an adult with a taste for spanking, quite the contrary. It might be so only if he/she didn't experience spanking as actual pain, perhaps because it was not hard and because of a particular mental disposition/sensitivity. Spanking lovers are probably (just like homosexuals) the product of genetic causality. Some people are born to be tall, or blond, some people are born to find pleasure in spanking.
    This can harm, obviously, the individual's sex life (remember JJ Rousseau). But hey, bad luck. Parents are to blame for violence itself, not for this. Search the nervous system, you'll find the wires inside.
    ango

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