Sexes split over one night stands

I'm probably that 5th guy who is unhappy with a one night stand, for me a relationship with a woman is more important then just sex, it's something that can last.

I'm cool with 'em. I'm also cool that the both the male and female version of Axl Rose impersonators finally found each other in the picture above...if only for one night.

Meaningless sex helps no one. Meaningful sex with someone you love and who loves you, however, will definitely satisfy ya.

As long as both parties are down. I mean like for reals down. But Ladies/ Men, if you are one-night-standing in hopes that he will be your baby's daddy/ mama, that probably means you are just fake down and not real down. So then don't do it. If you do, you run the risk of feeling used cuz you expected more to come out of it than what actually did. If you are cool never seeing meeting talking to that person again then by all means GET SOME!!!

Who ever said sex for one night is meaningless? It might mean a lot to someone.

I think it all depends on the individual person who commited the act or acts.

One night stands do serve a useful purpose. They allows two people who are incompatible in a long term relationship to have sex. I say this because the majority of the one night stands I’ve engaged in have been with women outside my scene who assumed for whatever reason (alcohol) that I was something that I was not (a thug).

No one should ever try to initiate a long term relationship based on one night of drunken dancing and sex. No matter how much fun we had the previous night I’m not going to be ok with listening to that same Mariah Carey song over and over and over again the next morning. I could honestly give a shit that Twista raps for a verse. I can’t stand rap.

i wonder how many people have actually had a sober one night stand....

I am torn... being single it happens once in awhile but I know guys just don't treat you the same way once it happens!

one night stands, if each party knows exactly what their getting themselves into and there are no misunderstandings, it could be fine

I've never actually had a one night stand. But if I did, I'm sure I would feel pretty empty inside.

i prefer more one night stands than sexually frustrated people being angry at the world. Because these people might be potential rapists.

In one of the Gospels, Jesus was talking about adultery and he asked if the person would want to be tied to that other person for the rest of his life....

I think regular common sense applies here...

We all know that sex is great, well gee, there must be some reasons why?

We all know that married couples are counseled to be careful to remember to have sex because it keeps you together.

There just must be something about the act that ties people together...

So wouldn't it be prudent to be more caring?

Note to Skyler,

Rapists are extrememly ill or evil folks, not guys that just haven't had sex.

One night stands for having such a simple set of words for description, can be a seriously complicated thing. I have, and although I did have quite a bit of fun, I still worried about STDs afterward. After being in a relationship for eight years and going, I don't think I could do so again; simply for the fact I have become quite comfortable and satisfied. It didn't matter so much before, and I couldn't really tell you why. I'm not saying it's a bad thing either, or that one should be in a monogamous relationship. Just that once you are and have a child or children, your opinion or feeling(s) on everything seems to change quite dramatically. I personally don't feel religion has a whole to do with it; rather the values one is raised with, taught, and decides are their own as time passes. This is just one of those things that will always bring up different opinions and views; usually opposing. I say to each his/her own: I'm not them, so there is no possible way I can understand their position of opinion or decision.

Women risk a lot more with one-night stands, considering they could get pregnant.

Also, I think that "if you are one-night-standing in hopes that he will be your baby's daddy/ mama, that probably means you are just fake down and not real down." -Swiyyah

So, I think women are more likely to have a one-nighter with the secret hope of a longer-term benefit because they had a lot more to risk. Not necessarily a serious relationship, but some sort of pay-off that would off-set the cost of taking such a risk. Even though we have condoms and such now, I think women have been naturally and cultural selected to be cautious around one-nighters. So even with contraceptives, some women might still regret oneies at a higher rate than men.

I do not feel that it is correct for any person, male or female, to use another human being as a toy. I came close one time, to sleeping with a man for whom I felt very deeply. I am thankful that I did not, for in time, it became very clear that he saw sex as just a game. Of course, at that time, I was severely hurt.

He was the type of person who has that "I'm going to do whatever feels good, live my life, and who cares who gets hurt in the process." attitude.

The thing is, he didn't carry that attitude in a spirit of pride or greed. Whenever he expressed such ideas, it was more like he was expressing how much he felt that any chance for him to have any real meaning in life was lost to him.

And here's the kicker----He did to me exactly what a woman once did to him, and he was in love with her at the time.

Since that time, I have come to the conclusion that any action I should take, I should carefully consider how that action might hurt another person.

I think most women will always beat themselves up over having one night stands, as long as the media and society continue to berate them for it.

I don't need a survey to tell you that women don't like being used. Sorry guys : /

I'm down...

what if a one night stand lasted for 3 months? can't get rid of her...ha! now i fell in love and can't shake it...damn those one night stands! btw...does anyone have a drool cup?

you needed a poll for that?
im prolly one of the 5th guys too

I don't want one night stands... they just work out that way. hahaha... wake up in the morning... "Oh, hello... what's your name again?" haha... yeah... that's always the start to a long lasting relationship.(insert sarcasm here)

haha, oh god... look at the debate up there... that's quite funny. It is so hard for believers and free thinkers to be civil on moral and civic issues. Fantastic example.
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It's not using women, its a symbiotic relationship.

Umm, double standard, anybody??

Women are likely worried about being judged, as they routinely are by puritans and bible beaters.

Most men in the sexual realm these days are less judgmental. Be proud of your one night stands, you got closer to someone and probably made their night, whether you are a man or a woman and sleeping with a man or a woman.

The act of a one night stand is similar in execution for both parties, its probably just the social (and sometimes health) consequences before and after that make people uncomfortable with them. (i.e. being judged as a whore/slut as a woman vs. being given high fives as a man)

We need free love for ourselves and our children.

Plan:

Erradicate HIV
Create a contraceptive pill that is easy to get and easy to use
DONT JUDGE PEOPLE!!!

The most successful of my relationships have always started with one night stands. Sexual purity is totally overrated, sexual comfort is totally underrated.

In addition to the reasons already stated, women are less happy after one-night stands than men because they probably don't get off as much from them.

Kristini asks a good question above, How many peeple have actually had a sober one night stand ?

Perhaps some of the empty, used feeling comes from the depression that alcohol abuse brings on.

Men are honored by their peers when they have a lot of one night stands. Some of these men think, "damn, im a pimp!" Women are considered to be whoring themselves out by their friends when they have a lot of one night stands. Some of these women thing "damn, im a slut!"

Women are some single entity, they are different....