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Immature, insensitive, sex-mad? Not us, say men


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"Young, single men are fed up with being typecast as immature, insensitive and sex-obsessed, with a survey finding that the majority believe in having a soul mate, aren't scared of commitment, and say real men can cry.

A poll of 70,000 men with an average age of 28 debunked many of the standard stereotypes to show that the modern man is driven by a sense of values, loyalty and family.

The survey, by men's lifestyle website AskMen.com, found that 77 percent of respondents look for girlfriends with "wife potential" while 75 percent believe they have a soul mate and 69 percent would never cheat on their partner.

"These survey results will be surprising to many women, most of whom have a completely different perspective of what the average man thinks and feels," James Bassil, editor-in-chief of AskMen.com, told Reuters.

"The idea that young guys only want to be single and jump from girlfriend to girlfriend is not true at all."

The online survey, conducted over a five-week period, found that six out of 10 men were fed up with inaccurate commercial descriptions of them.

Bassil said the images of men on television and in advertisments had not changed or been challenged for decades whereas the image of women in the media was always changing as their roles in the home and the workplace altered.

"In TV sitcoms and in adverts, young men are portrayed as immature, frat boys who are always trying to get around their wives or girlfriends finding out about their bad behaviour. This is just not the case," he said."

So what's the deal guys- are you loser sex hounds or is there something more to ya? I really think it's true that commercials and sitcoms stereotype guys- and women suffer for it as well, because we're always bitchy nags who have to pull the dude into shape. Time for a change?
DeliaTheArtist

102 responses // Immature, insensitive, sex-mad? Not us, say men

  • watch this comment being used here, here and here
    Sex Crazed -yes.
    Insensitive - no way.
    Immature - sometimes.

    Great article Delia- keep breaking stereotypes.
    Bigdog_mike
    6 responses to this
  • I'm glad someone at least considered this topic worthy enough to conduct a study on. Guys often get the blunt end of the stick and immediately get stereotyped before even introducing himself to a lady. Conversely, girls can easily be viewed as nothing more than a pair of nice legs and.. Assets. Not everything is so cut and dry.
    Plarom
  • I am with Bigdog. Girls are that way too sometimes.
    Swiyyah
  • "Sex Crazed - yes.
    Insensitive - no way.
    Immature - sometimes."

    Sounds like both men and women, eh?

    Really glad to see this report, Delia - great post! All my boy friends are way more sensitive, interested in commitment and insecure than my lady mates, so it's interesting to see a study that confirms that experience - it doesn't surprise me at all.

    I hate the pic though! Why choose that one that's all about the boobs and the voyeurism? It's interesting enough for people to read without having to be enticed by a naked lady...
    LindseyIndigo
    1 response to this
  • The trouble is that the percentage that are only that way make it that much harder for those that have tried to rise above and include more to themselves than just that.

    I know I've been continually blamed for that even though I've done a lot to prove there is more to me than that.

    Stereotypes die very hard and it's even more difficult to behave better when you're going to be mistaken for it anyway. It takes a lot of the incentive out of it.
    Argon18
  • The Reuters article using words like "admitted to crying over a woman" isn't very helpful though, is it. Why make crying sound like a heinous, shameful crime to be confessed?
    LindseyIndigo
    1 response to this
  • I guess because most men won't "admit" it. My friends are more sensitive than they would let on, but certainly my guy friends make fun of each other about being a "pussy" or "fag" all the time. "Feminine" qualities are seen as insulting to a lot of men in a lot of different cultures. That having been said, I'm still sick of the same ole formula for TV shows and commercials.
    DeliaTheArtist
    4 responses to this
  • girls and i get along . well . we usually don't have time to wonder if i'm not sensitive enough .
    malathion
  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Bysx3sT-vc
    As Plarom pointed out women can also be victims of a stereotype.

    For example Marina provides a valuable service of expanding the knowledge of word origins in an entertaining manner and expanding the vocabularies of the people that watch her videos.

    But a lot of people can't get past the stereotype of the dumb blonde bimbo to be able to appreciate it. Some have explained it as "Not enough blood to run both at the same time."
    Argon18
    3 responses to this
  • With the way that media depicts women who can blame men for being the way they are. Most college guys would think that a woman would take of her clothes for a t-shirt... I'm not immature I just think that girls are for throwing rocks at ;)
    thehermit
  • that chick is super hot
    clayjj05
  • Guys act over the top because girls are attracted to confidence, girls act slutty because guys like nakedness. There is an intrinsic balancing act that no fad of emo or tight jeans will alter for more than a few years.
    drewsuf721
    1 response to this
  • I'm sick of being type-cast as a man in the same category as immature, insensitive, and sex-obsessed men.

    I hate people that say "all men are" or "all women are".

    Many people are completely different based on intelligence, culture, circumstance, and moral principle far beyond having an inny or an outy between their legs.
    damnneargenius
  • values could mean the whole "men are superior to women or are the 'protectors' of women" thing.
    FallenMorgan
  • watch this comment being used here, here, here, here, here and here
    i'm sorry but the topic pitcure itself drew me here,so yes sex-crazed a little immature, but not so insensitive....but still the picture...
    metalcookiesxy70
    1 response to this
  • I know, the picture was sort of a funny statement, I chose it on purpose. I'm thinking, stereotypes be damned, everyone knows a hotass chick when they see one, right? I'm uniting us with naked babe-ery.
    DeliaTheArtist
    2 responses to this
  • I don't want to be typecast like that. Not that I'm not like that, I just don't want to be typecast like it.
    JohnA
  • Then how come it's hard to run into them?
    SuperLayne
    1 response to this
  • http://us.movies1.yimg.com/movies.yahoo.com/images/hv/p...
    There is nothing wrong with being a "Lloyd Dobler."
    Arcade_The_Musical
  • I have a friend who seems to only be interested in asshole guys. As soon as a guy is "too nice", it turns her off completely!
    DeliaTheArtist
    2 responses to this
  • Introduce me to one of these 700 grand. That would be grand.
    Nealeigh
    1 response to this
  • Being an asshole has always been equal opportunity. So has being decent. We all just have to survive our youth. But power's another thing altogether. A life where I couldn't have a bank account, own property or vote would certainly affect how I interacted with the opposite sex. We're hardly 100 years out from pretty severe restrictions on women. I also think it's pretty easy to see women now eagerly assuming that young man stereotype.
    24French
  • Great article, glad you posted it.

    I get real tired of hearing that same trivial crap over and over again. The stereotypes get annoying.
    Saladin
  • Now let's see if the media follows suit in their TV shows and advertisements. My sad guess is they probably won't.
    DeliaTheArtist
  • saying it and doing it? two totally different things.
    Nuevarine
  • Dont get this twisted but the only type of guy who I seem to attract are the ones who are only looking to get something out of me.I would love a change and I know that there are many cheating, sex~crazed men along side the true, honest men out there!
    Azucena
  • I like BEEWBS. Oh, sorry, is that insensitive of I?
    brad62
  • This post would have gotten half as many hits if it weren't for the picture. That says something right there.
    RudyRudell
    1 response to this
  • Well the way that I see it is that I am not the stereotyped male that you all are making reference to. In fact, while I do know a few that are, I would say that most aren't.

    Furthermore, the way that I feel about the subject is that if a woman is intelligent enough and can keep up with me, then she will figure out that I am not this sex-crazed male. I personally do not apologize for how I act or the jokes that I make which may lead some woman to think twice about me.

    Which sorta' leads into my next point, yes I would say that most guys while do in fact put on a "show" for other guys, I would say that most of them do it out of commedic value as opposed to what they actually think and feel. This goes on both ends of the spectrum, those putting on the "show" and those making fun.

    So really for the most for what most guys will say and do, in my opinion, just comes down to the simple fact that they do it b/c it's funny; not a true reflection of who they are inside.
    HighT3chR3dn3ck
  • Exactly. And the hits this got because of the picture got it on TV and knocked another real story out of contention.
    JanforGore
    6 responses to this
  • However, why does the media hypocritically & continually push skin-sationally sexy advertising on both young men and women?
    tomofnorthcal
    1 response to this
  • I don't know, JanforGore, I'm pretty sure the TV picks depend on people's voting, but I'm not sure.

    Also, the picture matter is funny to me in this case, because it's almost like it adds a new layer on this whole issue. If you clicked on this story because I found a smokin hot babe for the pic, does that say something about your psyche or sex drive? Or does it just say that even on Current, SEX SELLS? I post stories like a fiend and the two that got to television today were about sex!

    However, this got a lot of responses and I doubt that is only because of the pic- if you ONLY came to scope the chick, you probably didn't post a response or vote on it.
    DeliaTheArtist
    1 response to this
  • I'm hyper sensitive after that picture...
    Owwmykneecap
    1 response to this
  • thats just what a sex crazed immature guy would say.
    haleyann
  • You have to wonder about the cross-section of society that you're getting your stats from though. I'm guessing the type of man who reads what is essentially a men's magazine is also prone to bouts of oestrogen-related mood swings and unnecessary flapping of limbs. I think the women's opinion was right: Testosterone=senseless humping. And while there is a lot to be said about the fatuousness of farting on or around your significant other, I think that over-sensitivity and 'metrosexuality' are far more disgusting. Give me bloody steak and a stiff upper lip over moisturizing morons any day.
    drownthem
  • How is the picture relevant to the Tittle?
    petarro