What counts as cheating?

if u have a psychical or emotional connection with out the other party knowing is cheating plain and simple

I agree with chuck... There shouldn't be a "grey area" with defining what cheating is. If your significant other would be bothered at all your doing something wrong. Why is it so tough for people to be monogamous and faithful?

If my man has a sexual adventure with another woman, it hurts but healing comes fast. However, if he falls in love with another woman, this hurts much, much more and healing comes slow and takes a heck of a long time.

Vier we finally agree, to bad my wife doesnt.

Hmm. I have lots of "emotional connections" with my male friends, but I don't think my fiancee considers that cheating. He gets jealous about a few things (like when I shared a drink with a male friend of mine- big argument!) but I think cheating is a mainly physical thing- kissing, "hooking up", sex, etc.

what counts as cheating.... SEX, hooking up,

making out is where cheating starts

If you wouldn't do it in front of my face....its cheating

Well some time making out can start it or if you drink to much and you do something stupid...

And Meaghan1126 your so right i have been cheated on 7 times

making out can start it? to me, making out IS cheating. I'd consider it cheating if my man kissed another girl, barring kisses that are strictly friendly, like a hello/goodbye cheek kiss.

I think cheating is what you are scared to tell your partner about afterwards.

Kissing isn't cheating, performing the dirty deed in bed is cheating.

being in a situation where you know, and only you do, you shouldn't be is the start. any physical act past that is bad news, at least for my busy ass mind. if i want to cheat, i will get divorced and slut it up like i was 23, but i wouldn't cheat on my wife.

diode made a really good point; cheating ultimately comes down to with what you both are comfortable or uncomfortable with within your relationship. You need to set boundaries and talk about it with your significant other in order to know what is considered cheating between you.

To me, cheating is expressing true romantic feelings towards someone other than myself. If it's just a physical thing, it's OK as long as I know, and he's coming back to me in the morning.

I suppose you can call that skanky, but I think it makes perfect sense.

if you think it's at tiny tiny tiny bit bad. it's probably cheating.

Ultimately, I think people need to get over their control issues.

I'm pretty unique, but cheating is all about intent for me. How the person felt when they were doing the act relative to their personal character, not what they did or how often they did it.

America kind of needs to get over the monogamy complex. You're a human being, you have desires. Why act like those desires aren't real to fill a misguided sense of medieval morality?

Two people can love each other and still do things with other people.

Not saying that people should just do whatever they want, but they shouldn't force their partners to be people they're not.

Well it seems that the responses vary here, so it seems there is a grey zone. Like all things in this world I don't think there is a black and white answer.

Grey is the color we make when we mix two or more people's opinions together. That's life.

My opinion is that cheating for me is the act, not the emotions. Acts are easy to control, emotions are difficult.

if u wouldnt want them to do it u shouldnt b

Cheating is when you have sex with someone that isn't your partner and you do it because you don't give a F@$% how the other person may feel about it.

Do we really need someone to tell us what cheating is?
WTF?

It's pretty simple. If you do something your partner doesn't approve of very much, then it can be cheating. But of course, it must have included a long discussion about what is considered cheating between the two in the relationship. For instance, I've told my boyfriend that I don't care if he hugs other girls. But I'm iffy with his ex-girlfriends. ^^;; lol.We've had periods where we both agreed to see other people, just to explore outside the relationship so we're not wondering "what if.." and there are times where we both decide to just involve each other only.

Couples should discuss it though. So, yea, basically it's a big fat gray area.

This is yet another weird post. Cheating is cheating. In other words, Cheating is where YOU feel cheated. In my personal opinion, anything is really cheating, and anyone's couple cheats you once, will cheat you twice.

The relation and respect finish with the initial cheating.

I think people can have slip-ups. But when it's more than once you need to take a good look at your relationship.

Communication is key and where you feel cheated is entirely subjective. We can keep discussing this and never agree.