House Wife vs Career Girl

Independence is not a bad thing at all, but too much can be a bit like an invisible wall. Why would you need a man if you are managing find without one? or atleast seem to be. I think you can work and be homely, you just have to find the right balance between two people.

Im a 25 yr old woman who has my own flat and a good job in law. I have never had the urge to have a glowing career but I am a hard worker and that has led me to where I am. I dont think women should be slaves to men but I do think we have different roles and its almost as if women are now meant to be the man and be independant and bring in a wage and look after the house and children. a lot of my friends have no choice but to go back to work after having children and I really think they should be able to stay at home to look after them. It as if now women are meant to be both male and female in the relationship. although people see me as an independant modern woman i want to be looked after by a man not because i have to but because i want to and i feel today's society makes women feel guilty for that. just because you want to keep a good house and look after your children full time does that make you old fashioned? am i the only one who thinks like this? x

Wanting a relationship and insisting on what one individual wants to do will not work. A person should have a sense of Responsibility, Selflessness, Sacrifice. All these can be acheived without having to become a slave to anyone. Responsibility is doing without wanting anything in return, Selflessness when doing a favor for someone you care for is not slavery, nor does sacrificing ones interest every now and then for the sake of the other party or for the sake of acheiving an already set goal. That is why there is a word called "Compromise". It takes two to tango as the saying goes, so this condition on a relationship does not only apply to one individual. The relationship should be run by two people who would basically have similar but not necessarily the same goal, but maybe different approach. That is acceptable. These days very many people jump into a partnership for all the superficial reasons. Finance, Security, Convenience, and most of all a misunderstanding of emotions differentiating infatuation and unconditional mature LOVE. The kind that is more willing to give than to receive. I assume that as educated, reasonable, mature and modern people, we should be able to keep the boundaries of selflessness and selfishness. It is probably a forgotten virtue, perhaps even overlooked and not taught to new generation. The word is Compromise...meet halfways, and if not, well much like driving in a small road with cars parked on each side, one just has to give in and give way, to eventually still acheive the set goal. Which for most lifeform on earth is to propagate and better our species. Meaning better Next Generation. A good analogy would be...If bacterias can adapt, then why not us humans? In our case, communication and teamwork works. Very easy to say, but might be a little hard in practice. We have to always remember that our partner is within our team. Not a competitor. Modern partners, argue and insist on prooving a point. End of the day, each individual has different techniques, but the way it worked for our relationship is the way we started everything and shared everything from scratch. Thick and Thin (as it was a pact in church). It also helps to have a set of moral standards even in todays scientific way of explaining things, because it establishes a proper character, without needing to be too self righteous in the end. We got married when we were in our teens and we pretty much have our share of tough times, I am now 37, 17 years on and we learned to understand each others approach to each of our own goals and learned to combine our efforts to meet what we both want for ourselves and for our children. We are both Nurses with children of 16, 8 and 3.