Why do women stay with cheaters?

STAYING WITH A SPOUSE WHO CHEATS IS PROBABLY A HARD DECISION TO MAKE. I FOR ONE WOULD NOT STAY BECAUSE THAT HAS HAPPEN TO ME. IT WASN'T FOR ME A HARD DECISION TO MAKE. TO EVER TRUST A SPOUSE FOR ME WHO HAS CHEATED IS UNTHINKABLE BUT THEN I AM A MAN NOT A WOMAN. I HAVE NO WAY OF KNOWING HOW THEY THINK.

Thats very true

The naked lesbian scene with the title 'women do women..' was misleading

Self-respect? (sarcasm)

Money?

They are trapped?

They don't have better options?

They just don't care?

Oh crap, here we go with that sexist stereotype of "women" versus "men" again. Good people do good things and consider the consequences of their actions on others, bad people don't, and everyone has moments when they question their own choices.

I have quite a healthy ego, so I could never stay with a woman who cheated on me. And although I'm a man, anyone who tolerates people whose behavior is disrespectful and hurtful to them obviously needs to rethink things.

Every case is different I guess (just like people, duh), so I think it might be more easily attributed to personality type and circumstance more than just sex.

It all depends on the relationship and the situation...I dont think it is ever black and white. You cannot say always give a second chance just as you cannot say you have to throw someone to the curb if they cheat. Its up to each individual to evaluate their relationship and the circumstances involving the infidelity. Ive had guys cheat on me and its been the death of the relationship and Ive also had a guy cheat on me and we stayed together for a bit (relationship ended from a multitude of reasons). Each one was a unique situation so I handled them differently.

Also before someone says it, the whole 'once a cheater always a cheater' is not always true. I have known many people to slip up once and never do it again. People make all sorts of mistakes in life all the time either out of emotional irrationality or a lapse in judgment....doesnt necessarily mean they are a bad person and do it all the time (we've all done somethings in life we regret).

Now a repeat offender is another story....

the original title is WHY do women...

what's with the type-O?

I always wanted to know why Hillary stuck with Bill after all these years...

the same reason men stay with girls who cheat, we all want someone to talk to and hate being alone..

Is this seriously a man and a woman in this picture? Whatever, you stay because divorce will cost you 50% of your assets and because of the children. Sad but true. Some would rather live a lie than live alone.

I stayed with a girl after she cheated on me twice. I don't think I was doing the wrong thing by staying; I knew for a fact that the girl in question was better and smarter than this sudden high school mentality she was exhibiting. I even told her that. (Yes, I found out each time she cheated on me and confronted her on each, to which she admitted.)

I guess I wanted her to see it from my perspective of how I saw her as being smarter than this. But, alas, should couldn't (or wouldn't) see it my way so I dumped her. She always apologizes (to this day) about it all and wishes she never did anything to hurt me. Oh well..... should've thought about that when everything was happening.

And yes, I'm a firm believer in the anecdote "once a cheater, always a cheater."

I guess, they are scared of the future. I left my ex after 15 years of marriage. I was scared and distressed. But it was the best thing I did.

why would anyone want to cheat on someone?

It's too much work to break up, and you can go out and cheat your self.

As long as it was not an affair, but just a one night stand, then fine by me. That just gives me the right to go out and have a one night stand myself.

First, women are strong.

Now, women are victims.

It seems to me that the poster is highlighting some favorable woman traits and neglecting some undesired woman traits.

What about the men?

Definitely not me. Cheat and it's over, what a stupid thing to do to a girl that's a great catch! But not every person feels as strongly about it, a lot of girls I know stay with their boyfriend who has cheated because they cheat on him too. It is a form of masochism, just hurting themselves willingly.

There is no answer to this question. Every relationship and every person is different, feelings are different, emotions are different, logic is different, so how do you generalize this?

Simple, if the guy is that much of stud, anybody would want and be willing to fight for him. Usually opposite sexes fight to keep a mate and we are no exception.

it's only cheating if you're dishonest about it.

Probably because the vast majority of them are insecure about themselves (however much they want to pretend their not). They think that's as good as they can get and they stick with him because if they dump him, they have to go out and find another guy to help validate themselves and there's no guarantee that they can do that so they're scared.

Or it could be because they really do love the guy. Everyone makes mistakes. Maybe the girl is just willing to forgive him. I'm all for people who have been cheated on to stick it out.

No, I'm not saying everyone gets a "Get out of jail free" card to go sleep with whoever they want to sleep with one time. There are still consequences that have to be paid afterward, but everyone makes mistakes. Forgiveness is a big part of love (at least from the way I see it). Now, if the person cheats repeatedly, that shows no remorse and I say kick him/her to the curb. But if it was one time and they are truly sorry about it, I say give them a second chance.

I like to think of this in terms of how the immune system operates. In order for our immune system to protect us, it must correctly recognize self. This goes hand in hand with that biblical adage, love thy neighbor as thyself...you have to be capable of loving self to love your neighbor. Immune systems that don't recognize self, attack self, or fail to protect it.

Staying with a cheater I think of as a similar transaction. There is a failure to recognize and protect self when you stay with a cheater...and you become susceptible to manipulation in the same way our cells do from an invading virus...when we do not recognize self, we do not protect it. Cells that do not recognize and protect self will then begin to manufacture for the benefit of the invading virus, not self...and the result is almost always disease.

i've never cheated but have been cheated on. it's really screwed up

Divorced in America is too expensive thats why I dont want to get married .

If my wife is cheating on me with another woman , I would say to my wife lets have a three some.
menage a trois.
Thats hot, two women at the same time , move over honey .Oh yeah baby sexshy ladies
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it is all about trust. if you don't feel like you can no longer trust that person who cheated on you, then you might as well end it now. without trust, its only a matter of time until it ends itself.

i was cheated on and gave her another chance. when she swore it would never happen again, and i for the most part believed her, the trust i had for her wasn't there anymore and she was more upset about the break up than i was.

she was a floozy anyway.