Why you're not happy

Happiness is a seed that God had planted in our heart, and we have to learn during the whole life to make it grow and flourish in a splendid flower, by learning to love each other

thinking about why you're not happy will bring more unhappiness.

feel happy and you'll be happy.

its the secret. :)

I agree 100%, mhembree09.

This is a sad story.

I don't think I agree with the solution to happiness barrier number four (staying hopeful is the solution to despair). In my experience, being hopeful only makes hitting the ground hurt more after things fall apart. I guess you can hope for the best but you also have to be realistic that there's a chance that the desired outcome won't be the actual one. I can see what they mean about it making a person happier, but that only lasts for but so long. After that plan comes together, or falls through, the happiness attained from being hopeful is going to leave.

being happy is the greatest jedi mind trick of all -

barring extraordinary circumstances, your happiness, or lack there of, is up to you.

A shrink....or a crutch?

happiness comes from external things, joy comes from within.

Its how you percieve life, and yourself in it, its not something out of our control. We've just been mislead from the sacred silence and peace.

youtube Adyashanti, he has amazing videos on this topic

As it is one of the most philosophically intriguing books of the 20th century having to do with this subject I recommend reading the book Winnie the Pooh. The old school one not some children's version. And yes I'm totally serious.

Happiness is a matter of attitude towards things, circumstances, etc. It is not a matter of "if" or "when", nor is it a matter of accumulating worldly goods. There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way.

Ha. I am happy! So I'm not even going to bother reading that.

I was thinking of coining one of the greatest phrases in modern history.

happiness/joy is inside of all of us. the more suffering a person has gone through the harder it is to pull it out. The key to happiness, in my opinion, is awareness. if you are aware to many emotions/feelings that go through you then you can analyze these times of awareness and really disect/plan how to fix the negative ones. You have to be open minded and willing to change your habits/thought processes. Try/study different advice/ways and soon something will give you a feeling of euphoria... bingo you have just transcended and thus have taken a huge step toward happiness/inner peace. you love/hate those /'s don't you?!

This is so true... if you are blue and try to help someone else who has problems that are bigger than yours, everything comes into perspective!

The more self-absorbed you are, the more your world closes in, and the less realistic you become, all of which produces a vicious circle. “You become oblivious to the needs of others, and the world shrinks still more, making you less able to see outside yourself.”

its because the world doesnt have unconditional love! the central banks screwed us over a long time ago and when you wake up! to this, your closer to find "happynest"

Some great comments here,

One to give thoguht to is that most of the world are using 'Have - Do - Be' paradigm to experience happiness

HAVE a new car - DO (drive) the car - BE happy

This leads to an endless cycle of wanting and having.

Flip it round
BE happy - DO things happily - HAVE happiness

Frank Sinatra said something similar:

"Do Be Do Be Do!"

The key to happiness is stability. Financial, emotional, or professional, stability is the key to a happy and fufilling life.

However, life often is made up of random events that create instability. Therefore, living life completely free of unhappiness is virtually impossible because at least sometime in your life the balance will shift from happiness to unhappiness.

Someone once said, if it were not for the lows in life, no one would appreicate the highs. The unhappiness that a person experiences in life make the happier times feel sweeter. The real point is not to dwell in the unhappiness you feel and instead feel blessed for all that is right in your life, even if it isn't much at all. As long as you are living, you can turn unhappiness into happiness.

i haven't had a bad day in over 6 years... i am always happy and nothing ever bothers me...

my secret... "I'm Still Alive"

That's a great article.

You are responsible for your own happiness. Not what you have. Not your spouse. YOU!

Attitude is everything.

People who say stuff like "just be happy" make me happy because I laugh at them. Happiness is not something you can turn on like a switch. I actually believe it is a base state and merely the absence of external factors that cause anxiety, stress, frustration, depression, anger... it's all about eliminating the sources of your "unhappiness".

I feel that relative happiness is a state of mind. If I look at all the positive aspects of my life I feel good about myself and my relative state - I am happy and contented.

If I concentrate on all the stressors then I am less content.

I remember reading about some Cardinal of Bishop who responded, when asked if he knew the secret of happiness on Earth - "I know if you don't ask me."