Why Nice Guys Finish Last

I think younger women are more attracted to "bad boys" and as they get older they understand that dudes like that are nothing but a headache. At least that was the case for me, lol

How cruel can your society be?

Speaking as a male and probably way to sensitive as a youth and a victim of my heart. I probably should have been a bad guy when I was young because those guys scored big time in comparison. So I personally don't feel sorry for women or girls that fell pray to these kind of assholes, you got what you deserved.

everyone wants to be 'that guy' im 'that guy'

...if the goal is simply to have more sex than yea, sure they win, hands down, no argument.

if the goal is to be happy, content, stable and in a decent relationship with a person you love these people will invariably fail and fail hard.

i was the highschool "bad boy" but rejected it because it made me fucking miserable. props to people who DON'T have to go through it.

Because nice guys don't go to bars, don't get stupid retarded drunk, don't get into fights with other guys, don't like to watch SNL's the Best of Christopher Walken...

"But you don't know him like I do! He's only like this when he drinks ...which is all day everyday. Because he's a horrible binge drinking alcoholic dipshit."

I think I fall somewhere in the middle. I'm 18, know more or less how to get a girl interested, but I really don't like having sex with random girls. I have to have some sort of connection to someone before anything goes down. God knows that I'm not a player, but he (she?) also knows I CAN get a girl.

Yeah, if you try to be the bad boy to get girls, you're never going to find a decent one. I know it's horribly cliche, but just be yourself and you will find someone that fits you like a puzzle piece. ^_^

Hmmmm. In high school and college I was a "nice guy" and an "A-student." So I should still be a virgin. BUT, I also played in a band, worked four nights a week (so I had cash the other three), and liked two things about girls (aside from the obvious): making them laugh and listening to them talk.

I don't remember a weekend or a dance when I DIDN'T have a date...

Then I got old...but my wife takes pity on me...

girls dream of the perfect man but crushed on the "bad" one,
guess it's our animal side taking the lead!

Actually they don’t in the long run.
They don’t end up marrying the slut that slept around with all the bad guys.
They usually stay married for life.
They are more likely to be successful in life.
They live longer
They stay healthy longer
They are great fathers and husbands
They usually marry woman who become the best mothers and wife’s,

As my boyfriend has said: Not all the nice guys are actually nice. They just think they are. Some wanna try to manipulate a girl into having sex with him, and when the girl declines, he calls her a "slut" and tells people that nice guys finish last and girls only like bad boys.

Didn't I see an article here on Current a few months ago explaining why it isn't true that nice guys finish last? Let us put the cliches to bed people. Life is much more complex than this.

I'm a girl boys don't ignore. In yet, I don't find this type of boy attractive at all. But I don't look for sex in a relationship. I try to tell the boys at school that very thing. These "bad boy" types approach me sometimes, and I tell them I'm looking for a deep conversation, and they all end up looking like idiots. It's actually sort of funny.

of course its posted by singrr. she definitely wants a dude in a band. all i got to say is that being the bad boy isn't the hard part. its being the nice guy.

just listen to kitteneater--guaranteed she is hottie who rejects all the duche bag 'bad boys'.

hot girls who don't fall for the 'bad boys' are where its at, and i'm convince that they are about 1-2% of the female population.

Life is more complex than this...?

Well, that IS good news. Bad boys don't like "complex." It makes their tiny little brains hurt.

Seriously, though, when I think back on the bad boys from my youth I realize now that they had a way (in general) of self-selecting themselves out of the gene pool.

A couple went to prison (a DUI can, and does, become vehicular manslaughter in the blink of an eye), several died in various motorized vehicle accidents, and a LOT of them are total wrecks today...all that hard livin' is fine in your 20s and 30s, but it takes a terrible toll by the time you hit your mid-40s. You have heard the expression "don't drink and drive?" How about "don't drink and grow old?"

If your objective is to stick your wang into as many holes as possible, then yes, nice guys will finish last.

I strongly believe that women mistake douchebaggery and *sshole-ness for masculinity - which they crave. Like that ep of fam guy. Some women constantly ensnare themselves in relationships like this seeking a man and instead being filled with some components but not enough of various ones. Jerks have what women want such as confidence, boldness, etc. Nice guys tend not to have this and be shy. If nice guys assume these masculine traits like confidence they'll be the perfect men but without the douchebagness.

Douchebags get laid a lot. They don't really get worthwhile relationships. I suppose that's a fucked-up sort of balance, right?

Most girls only want to have sex with the bad boys especially during the high estrogen time of the month during ovulation approx. 72 hours. Bad boys may give the appearance of being more masculine, which causes a biological desire for said bad boy. The theory is that women are scouting for the perfect sperm donors, for offspring will most likely survive because they look tough.

For the rest of the month she wants the nice guy.

Really girls do you want to be with someone that has been inside 50 other chicks before you. ewww. Can you spell D-I-S-E-A-S-E

Wow this post is a waste of Current space, belongs on your MySpace profile! Who care about this crap.

"The guy who wins women over with deceit, callousness and impulsive behavior."

I was passing back through this page, and the line above from the article caught my eye. Guys WIN WOMEN OVER with those three things? And women think GUYS are screwed up? When I was single, a woman wouldn't even get past the first one (deceit) before I would tear up her phone number, let alone callousness and impulsive behavior! I understand the ovulation thing...but can it really throw your homones so completely over the edge that you are attracted to deceitful, callous, impulsive scumbags? Surely there is SOME degree of mind over matter...

A Fool's Gambit - I was always tall for my age in grade school ending up at 6'2" slender, great hair, reasonably good looking, prep-school, Ivy League, grad school, smart well-read, raised in Westchester County, began playing guitar and singing folk music in the fifties, coffee house performer in the 60s/70s, in a #1 pop music band in the mid 70s, always self-employed early computer entrepreneur, lived in beautiful places AND I LOVE WOMEN!

I have slept with too many sweet ladies to remember most of their faces and almost none of their first names. Last names never mattered for a night for a weekend for a month or "forever" which usually lasted a few months or a few years.

I'm in my late sixties. I live with a sixty-one year old smart sweet financially independent skinny beautiful popular woman who looks like a woman in her forties. I must be the envy of many men when we are out and about.

But too many woman can spoil the ability for permanence. I am perhaps too use to "the conquest". For sure I am a fool over and over again trashing perfectly beautiful relationships - NEXT!. Sometimes I wish that I was someone else with a different background and different motivations.

In my case ignorance might have been bliss. Instead I am sexually the composite of all that I have been taught and given by too many sweet women who were looking for the same thing we all seek - a wonderful relationship.

I saw a man on a crutch
Who said why ask for so much?
I saw a woman in a door
Who said why not ask for more...LC