The Psychology of Hate

It's like a teeter totter, at one time men had all the rights and women none. During the 20's to the 60's they gradually met up with men in rights and the teeter totter was balanced. Today though the teeter totter is going up in favor of the women and down in the favor of men, it's a cycle of up and down we need to fix.

it seems so simple yet the masses cant grasp it
catagorizing any group of people based on whatever criteria is to discount thier value as a human being and instead places a value on them based on the arbitrary system of judgement.
no man is anything in particular
no woman is anything in particular
why is this so difficult

Quite frankly, I think psychologists are way overpaid. Earlier this past year when I broke up with my manfriend, my friends gave me the advice to see me through my pain and were much more help than therapy was. Therapy just felt like a business transaction with a non-nookie prostitute and no touching whatsoever.

the same?

could not be more grateful
to the source of life who holds
my soul on anarchistic fire
where no judgment can unfold

categories dwindle
into holes that are too small
for more than one ballistic nag
stuffed and screaming out to all

those drawn to that clamor
will not ever know the fire
nor feel the source of their own blood
pulse denial of the liar

yes and grateful for this sight
into what’s inside of me
my eye sees that you’re not the same
so your beauty must be freed

by Scally Waggon Nov 2009
published by artist al fine

Take a new born baby only a white diaper on and tell a group of people the baby is a girl: the tone of voice softens, they talk about how beautiful she is and how sweet. How she's such a good girl. How she's batting her long eyelashes...

Take the same baby and another group of people and tell them it's a boy: The voices get more gruff and talk about how handsome he is, how big and strong he is. How his long eyelashes will make the girls love him.......
It's amazing!
We have such preconceived notions depending on our culture and our current norms.
In the fight for equality we have labeled WASP men, and now, also, other white European men as "the BAD Guys". What has happened? And why?
We have wanted to emasculate the male species to become impotent and benign. What is the reason? Why would we want loud, rude and obnoxious females while we want wimpy ineffective men?
Does this really work?
No!
We can't have the tables turned so drastically, we have to come to a better middle way... to a compromise. Our culture needs correcting.

very interesting video thanks for the post

Psychology is a pseudo-science. It can be helpful or detrimental to an individual, but it is never an exact science.
Dr. Phil is a charlatan and should never be given any credibility. I feel the same way about most talk shows and reality programming. I believe the whole genre is turning most of its audience into idiots with little capacity for independent thought.

Psychology has its place for some, but has the potential for great damage. Like religious leaders, people in the psychological profession are put on a frequently undeserved pedestal for intellectual talent or healing gifts that they just do not possess.

Pitting sex against sex is as silly as pitting whites against blacks or religion against other religion. They are all artificial barriers. What we all need to do is stop being concerned about of differences and get together on a solution to making the world a better place for everyone. All men and women that do not suffer from a mental defect that prohibits empathy need to stop concerning themselves with bullshit generalities.

My simple rule of thumb is to evaluate each person that you come in contact with on an individual basis with respect to his/her actions and without preconceived notions. It is actually not as hard as it sounds once you get into the right mind set. You will find good and bad people based on your own preferences. That should be the only basis for choosing your group. Any other basis will prevent you from experiencing all of humanity and limit your life experience.

So that's why I'm sometimes called caustic, acidic or *(gasp) rude - I'm just not politically correct. . . Wow. I feel better already!

One other thing, people are so messed up psychologically because of gender roles imposed by social norms. The social norms and gender roles imposed on women, in general, have made it difficult if not impossible for me to form sexual relationships with them that aren't based on power. Even though I am bisexual and I am attracted to extremely feminine women and extremely masculine men, I find sexual relations with men to be much less complicated, and much less a power struggle. The only woman with whom I have had a sexual relationship with in which there wasn't a power struggle and in which I felt as an equal, was a sexual relationship i had with a Lesbian/bisexual woman. She told me that I was the first man that gave her an orgasm just by touching her "the right way". She was astonished, as much as I was, that she achieved that climax without intercourse or direct clitoral stimulation. We both cried when that happened, it was a beautiful moment for her as much as it was for me.

But the relationship didn't last because, she wanted to get pregnant and have a child, and I didn't; thank Ford that I had not even attempted to have a kid with her, because at the time I was HIV positive and didn't know it. Gratefully she did find someone to be her baby daddy, and she has today a 17 year old son who is a joy to her life.

Personally I think we need to all become gender neutral for us to understand that we are all essentially the same. Just because one person has a penis and the other a vagina, doesn't make us unequal or different. Sure we have different sexual organs and hormonal differences, but our psychology is only different because social norms dictate them to be so. And where did the social norms emanate from? People's minds under the influence of their dogmas.

Why do we hate? We hate because we feel victimized in our fear. We hate because we feel someone has stripped us of our dignity, our self respect, and has acted with spite and cruel intentions towards us, and we were helpless and ignorant to defend our selves from their assaults. Hate is really anger at ourselves that we have turned outward towards others. Why are we angry? Because we feel powerless and weak.

This is a very good video. I agree with much of what is being said.

Once again, I agree that feminism has caused much of our country's problems. It's too bad, because the feminist movement once was a very good thing. Women use to have no rights to anything, no say in anything, no power at all or control over their own lives. They were completely at the mercy or whims of their fathers and husbands. They were not allowed to own property and whatever they might inherit went to their husbands. They were routinely beaten, assaulted and abused mentally, emotionally and physically. They had no way out of a bad marriage, no hope for a better life.

For who knows how long, men had all the power. It's just a fact that they have always been the ones on top, making the rules and calling the shots. The feminist movement finally took women to a place where women said "we don't have to live like that anymore". It was time for a change. Sadly, like so many needed changes that come along, the movement took us from from one extreme to another. Not satisfied with equality, feminists now insist that women and men are THE SAME, when we all know how foolish it is to think so. The feminist movement is doing great harm to our men and boys. Could it be "payback" from them? I certainly hope not.

Well done vid ... communicates his point, and I don't see or hear anything that attempts to be insulting towards women.

I stand for human rights and respect for both genders. Each gender has strength and weaknesses. There is no superiority. Both genders NEED the other for balance and support.

In your fight for mens' rights, maybe you shouldn't forget your own gender.

I sometimes wonder why men need so much "firepower" from women. Can't they ever fight for their rights on their own - without getting insulting towards women?