Hollaback

This is great really being home. I know I really want to start something a organization for girls over here or something. being a repeated victim of harassment I'm kinda totally fed up. I'm totally sending in pics and stories attached.

Hi im Male 33 and i live in NYC have been for over 16 years and i've seen it all but yet i am now even more confused. I NO longer even bother saying anything to a female even if it's just a hello now and this is one of the reasons. I understand harrasment is an issue please dont misunderstand me but again it seems to me (perhaps cuz im a man) that a certain degree of assertiveness is required here. I understand that they're certain idiots that SIMPLY do not get it when someone wants to be left alone. But sometimes you have to stand up for yourself (not that this isnt) but before you go clicking away do you really say " look im not interested"? Yes the dudes "stroking it" on the subways should be arrested and once i was on a packed subway during rush hour and standing and once the doors opened the chick (yeah i know i might get grief for that one) in front of me walked out and some dude slipped his hand (ever so smoothly) up her dress i was pissed (1.) cuz with my luck she might think i was somehow connected and (2.) cuz he's the type of idiot that causes websites like this to be necessary. So when i got out i rushed to find the nearest cop and snitched (yeah regardless it was snitching but i did it) by the time we got back the doors were closed but he looked like a average joe nothing like a stalker/perv at all. But getting back to my point. It comes to a point of defense.....if you dont cry help how will people know you need help so if you dont say STOP! some of the slower ones wont get it. I compare it to a attack by a lion ....if you accept being lunch then you will be. My mom lives and works in NY and so help me i would slay the man that even dares but again there has to be some established point where they CLEARLY KNOW they are harrassing. Remember we're not dealing with the Moral capital of the world different religions different cultures etc.....in certain countries a woman in pants is considered a ....well you get my point ( i am NOT saying it's their dress) but know that our world is not a safe place and it's sad but we should as a people find a comfortable medium i dont think your site is the answer but it's a welcome wake up call you're welcome to comment etc i'm willing to listen

It doesn't matter what the location is or what the guy looks like... if the words or actions he impresses upon a female are anything his mother would reprimand him for, then it's just common sense to keep the comment to himself.

I was at a park two blocks from campus when I was in college a few years ago, wearing jeans and a T-shirt. A man approached me in broad daylight and asked if my "carpet matches the drapes." I ignored him but he began to follow me, saying things I'm too embarassed to repeat. He became hostile when I wouldn't give him my phone number and I was actually so frightened that I gave him a fake one before walking into a public building. Since then, I've been afriad to walk anywhere alone and I now become extremely offended and angry at even harmless honking as I walk down the street.

Some guys argue that certain women dress more provocatively and that they want the attention so that they should somehow "expect" or "deserve" demeaning comments. What girl doesn't love positive attention? Sure, go ahead and make a compliment, but don't be rude. I work for a school district, and when I run errands after work I am shouted at regularly despite my conservative dress.

But seriously, any guy who says the behavior I mentioned earlier is acceptable--- regardless of what a woman is wearing--- is extremely socially inept.