Women 'can't have casual sex like men': Daily Mail joins the women-bashing

it makes me so happy to see someone else sees how messed up this garbage is.. i am a girl and i love to fuck. why is that so surprising? and why are so many women okay with this neanderthal idea that sex is only for the boys and women can't handle feeling good without a commitment. i have done it plenty of times and i am doing fine.

Yeah, right Daily Mail. Not in San Francisco, USA. Women here are just as ruthless as men, if not more.

Maybe this is why woman outlive most men.

I'm still neutral on this issue though given that virginity in women was prized mainly because men then knew without a doubt they were the father of their children.

If gays men have minds like woman, then how come gay men love Men's room sex?

feel bad about sex when it is bad. One-night stands are always a risk because who knows, it might just suck.

i would not want to have a girl that's been fucked by many before. so-- the cleaner the girl, the more potential she holds.
everyone you have had sex with, leaves a 'mark'.

Scientifically(sorry ladies), the oxytocin chemical (aka the attachment drug) is released in women's brains after some interpersonal activity(sex?).

But more so than that, any sort of sexual endeavour needs lots and lots of emotional intelligence and maturity. You have to know what you are doing, why you are doing it, and why your partner is doing it. Alot of people (men and women) get hurt because they expect something from the sexual partner that the sexual partner wasn't expecting to give. Don't someone to call you the next day, or talk to you if they see you in public(sorry) just because you two did it.

The bias in the paper is "ludacris" but there is science to show there is an enzyme and chemical produced in the brain that makes women more willing to have affection towards their partner to men. I have seen it myself.

I understand what the Daily mail is trying to get at it is a enzyme released during sex that men don't have...this keeps women attached while men don't get attached. I am Latino I know.

i don't agree with this one. many friends of mine are all about the casual sex. i must admit i've been there done that, as long as both parties can agree before the sex to not go all ga-ga after the sex, then i think as long no feelings are hurt and you practice SAFE SEX go get yours. i'm a baby boomer and this is the way some of us feel right now.

WHERE ARE OUR MORALS WE ARE HUMEN NOT ANIMALS

Yes, yes they can.

This is too funny. Relax, it's just sex without love. Can't we all just get it on? It would cut down on the masogeny in the church, work place, home and make out spots around the world.

why is it controversial whenever someone says that men and women are different? listen up, there is a helluva lot more separating men and women besides reproductive organs. emotionally men and women are different. our brains work in different ways. that is so apparent that it is just laughable when people try to deny it.

and women shouldnt work - we'er suppose to raise kids right?!
please!
one nighters are needed - women use and abuse just like any male is capable of!

When a women has casual sex with a man and she is not enjoying herself fully and wholly then it is like a piece of her is stripped away...Every women is different I guess...Some femmes have been trained properly in the ways of lovemaking but most have not been instructed in the art of love.
It is sad when a man uses a women like a toilet.
It is just plain sad whether you look at this like a moral lesson or not. I would say that sexuality is more of an art lesson.
If a femme has achieved college advanced degrees and is financially stable then I suppose free sex might be more of a power trip. However, for the average poor chick on the street sex seems to take away something from our self esteem and our mind's power. I believe the energy exchange is unfair most times.

I don't think it is the type of sex that is the problem, casual or serious, i think that what it comes down to is that women and men have sex for different reasons. for women, it fills a more emotional gap, for men it is physical.

Ben Traffic and Beta_Boy, you're both on the money. I propose either a current wide ban on clipping from the Mail or only engaging with it as a dialogue on their tawdry editorial agenda (as the heading/title suggests). Bleating on about their article content is giving them too much justice.

Hello Lindsay Indigo.

What on earth is the Daily Mail trying to do! Highly irresponsible reporting.
Men everywhere will now struggle to pull as women hold back a slice of the pie for fear of heartbreak.

I have to say, whilst I am not a fan of the Daily Mail, I do think they have a point here.

Some women form strong attatchments through sex whilst some men don't and visa versa.

In my personal experience, sleeping with a woman early on in the relationship is not going to lead to a long lasting and meaningful relationship.

I try not to have one night stands or casual sex because usually the lovely lady that is the fortunate recipient of this magic touch falls head over heels, deep in love and can think of nothing else but my sweet body.

I jest.

I think its pretty simple really.

If you have a one night stand, or your having casual sex with someone, and it doesn't feel good, then don't do it anymore!

On the other hand, if your loving it, then good for you. Just love it whilst taking the necassary precautions.

I saw one persons post on here that said women are seen as slags if they sleep around.

I think this view of womens sexuality is gradually slipping away as women gain more equality.

Or maybe I just don't want women to feel bad about giving it out.

Giggidy giggidy, oww yeeah!

this is bullcrap.... I really wouldn't expect this kind of reinforcement of negative stereotypes by The Daily Mail... hmmm...

The Daily Mail is classic

sex = wrong
immigrants = wrong
Middle England = Always right!

This article is a load of nonsense. It is all a matter of libido. Those women who have a high libido will not feel bad after casual sex, they will go seeking for it if they don't have a partner, or if their partner's libido is much lower than theirs and doesn't satisfy them.

I wish I had a gaping hole for some hot straight guy to fill....HAHAHAHHA.

If women can't bring themselves to be sluts, then they have a long way to go! HAHAHA.

Unfortunately putting some degree of trust and meaning can cause you a lot of problems when you run into deceitful promiscuous types because they tend to have a completely different value system. It never hurts to err on the side of caution and respect for yourself in the long run though, especially if you're a girl.

Avoid men who you have to excuse as "all men are like that". Sex without minimal degrees of demonstrated honesty, trust, or respect can be a very dangerous and damaging thing.

Having been forced to live with a huge male ego my entire life but the desire to respect women and the value of sex to an extent, it really ruins a girl's value completely when she sleeps around or with guys who sleep with as many girls as they can. Girls that sleep around simply don't get any respect nor do they deserve it. Things that are easy have no value cause anyone can have them.

Much like drugs, sex is a short term pleasure that when handled incorrectly can lead to serious long-term problems.

Granted, the only person my mom ever slept with was my dad so I have a very idealistic view of things I guess, but although I was raised in the country in Texas, I've also had an afterhours nightclub in Hollywood so I've seen both extreme sides of the fence.

From what I've seen first hand, all in all, I'd say the "good girls" lives are much better off in the long run. Girls that sleep around just go from one dysfunctional relationship to the next and can never have a "real" relationship because their entire lives are based on lies when it comes to intimacy.

Guys that sleep around are worthless for relationships, and girls that get into relationships with them are foolish or worse then they are. If you want to have a loving relationship one day, save yourself the trouble and leave them and the HPV for the sluts.

I would say casual sex is overrated in the grand scheme of things. Sex by itself means little and isn't a big deal, but in the context of a relationship, it suddenly becomes a key way of expressing importance. That can cause serious emotional contradictions if it has been used so meaninglessly in the past.

I say keep score just for the hell of it, and act as you would like to see other people act.

this is such bullshit, just like some men can't do it with out feeling bad, and some can, it's the same with women. You can't lump as into categories based on our genders, we're all human and each human is different, wether they have the same sexual organs or not.

Not ok. I love sex but I'm a lady about it. Find the finest gentleman and fuck the shit out of him.

why is sex and aggression the one thing men can't seem to shake from their basic evolutionary form? It's convenient and it feels good. Whatever. That sentence should just read "Woman can't {do anything} like men" and they will have made their point without an entire article. I am haxing sex, and I am feeling awesome about it!

bleh maybe if the world didn't make me feel like shit for even having a dirty thought, I would not feel so inclined to regret enjoying myself and my sexuality.

i'm glad that there's finally empirical evidence of culturally influenced gender roles. now i have all the argumentative powers i ever needed to convince that girl from My Boys that she isn't a real woman. i bet she isn't....

Ladies, ladies, Ladies......until you embrace the fact that MEN, be it in all our glory, are unfortunately bound by hundreds of thousands of years of DNA breeding. Even back in our ancestrial days of our cavemen brothers we were tasked with the daunting and overwhelming tasks of populating the species and our clans alike. You must admit, you just cant simply toss aside over 100,000+ years of on-the-job training just like that! come on! work with us here a little bit! How bout a little understanding! Do we say anything to YOU when you talk about BIOLOGICAL CLOCK TICKING? Well?....Do We?

If sex is considered something of value much like precious stones, then the more rare you make it the more it's worth.

I personally think that casual sex is way too overrated. Are people so hard up to bust a nut that they'll do it at any chance they get? Its like a fucking drug man, it feels good when your doing it, you forget about all of your pains and problems, but when you havnt gotten laid in a few months they're going crazy. Goddamn addicts. There is more to life than meaningless sex.
And people wonder why this generation has the highest percentage of divorces before age 30. Love is dying, and it has become "cool" to just whore oneself around whenever one's genitals are flaming.
Im not saying that i would prefer a society of abstinence only sex, but atleast kinda liking or knowing the person you are about to be intimate with would help and prevent lots of problems.
But anyway, its still gonna keep happening, so wrap it up, and be honest with your partners! ^_^

I dunno, I hate the hook-up culture as well. I think most women don't find one-night stands very satisfying. Leaving morality out of it, the fact is that one-night-stand sex isn't usually as good as the sex you have when you're really connected.

The sex is usually SO so-so, and you end up feeling kinda empty inside. Unless you were clear about it not meaning anything in the first place. Which brings us back to meaningless sex...which is kinda sad. The most intimate physical relationship two people can do to each other ought to mean something, but usually it doesn't in hookup culture.

this seems ironic since as a woman, the only sex that has ever made me feel bad and/or worthless was when i was in a monogomous commited relationship (it was a very off kilter relationship with more downs than ups) casual sex puts me in control, and tell ya what, i dont want it any other way. i gets it when i wants it, and thats it..........am i really a man in a womans body?

tell that to prostitutes.

I dont think casual sex is bad...As long as both parties are responsible and that there are no expectations, go for it...
Also, girls that feel bad about doin' it should stop...If you worry about what people are goin' to think of you, don't do it...But I think there's always a adult and responsible way to deal with such issues (after the act and once you're both sober) thus minimizing any risk and consequences...

So you mean 42% of women like one night stands? I like those odds.

These people have not been hanging around the same girls I do, I haven't been able to cook breakfast for a girl in a long time, and I like cooking breakfast.

I am a guy and I have felt things once or twice even a few times dealing with sex, I would like to think that it has more to do with the way one is treated in a situation than there sex.

I say if your ladyfriends feel bad after a casual encounter, point them toward the "Could Sex Save Your Life?" article featured on current just yesterday.

I know plenty of straight women who screw around without any guilt. If anything, they were annoyed that so many guys were bad at sex. But they definitely didn't feel guilty for trying.

Casual sex is gross, sorry.

oh yes, i must be some kind of super-freak, i've never felt like a woman is 'supposed' to feel in my entire life

guilty? me? r u kiddin?

lol :P

how does age/maturity play into this? i've met women so brave as to be liberal in their love life that they are actually empowered by having control over who they want to sleep with and when...and how.

then there are some who start out like that...but, next thing you know, they start calling and trying to hang out all the time. all of sudden, BOOM! she's got her own toothbrush in the bathroom and you're like, 'NOOOOO!!!!!'

Damn, the Daily Mail is making it that much harder for us nice guys to get lucky.

pfft, Im a guy and I still feel shitty after one-nighters. Sex just doesnt feel right with someone I dont know.

There is nothing new here.

The vampires at un-planned motherhood don't get it. They love killing babies too much.

Teenagers are fresh blood to them

So what does that say about me if I've felt bad after one night stands?

I think you run the risk of feeling guilty for ANYthing you do that's impulsive and risky (i.e. when you're wasted).

Well, women do tend to be less promiscuous. So the men that are banging a lot of chicks are probably banging the same chicks.

I'm pretty sure that there are men that are hurt by one-nighters, and there are women that rather have them instead of involved relationships.

Whatever you choose to do, just stay safe. Emotionally and physically.

I think women do sometimes feel bad after one night stands, but I KNOW there are guys that feel that way too... they just don't express it as much.

People do what they want to do. If you hook up, and feel bad about it, then don't do it again... If you're at a place where you are comfortable with it and protect yourself, go for it! But stop taking pity on women... it's their choice too!!!!

I've heard a lot of reasoning for behavior based on evolutionary bioglogy. My college science teacher taught us that the reason men like big boobs is because those women are more likely to produce better maternal milk, and large hips mean she will have a better outcome of giving birth to a healthy child. And although it may make sense, theres no reason it can't be considered REDICULOUS

"pursuit of transference of emotional states," and "accept our feelings for ourselves," "absence of emotional connectivity," "acknowledgement of immaturity"

Sounds like someone has read too much psychobabble, and may wish to jam it down our all too gullible throats.

However, digressing back to the central issue: "Let these people ... find their own way" is the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. Thanks for that important comment and it needs to be cherished.

The ... (value judgement deleted) simply means that I just can't agree that they "pitiful," Only on a learning path like all the rest of us.

I find the "hook-up" culture repugnant and it will inevitably fail due to its nature; hyper-sexualized men and women using each other as objects. Sexual objectification is the pursuit of transference of emotional states or out-right disregard of one's own or another's emotions. Only when we can accept our feelings for ourselves can we begin to cherish another and share intimacies. Sex in the absence of emotional connectivity is the cause of distress and an acknowledgment of immaturity. Yet, I digress. Let these pitiful people find their own way.

Ugh I hate it when they use evolution as some sort of an excuse like men can ran around with no shame and have sex with anyone, while girls cant.

I noticed this about society. A guy can have casual sex with women and be a lady's man or a stud or something, but a woman who has casual sex with men is a slut, whore, and many derogatory words.

Be safe. Have sex. When you want. With whomever you find is agreeable. As often as you can.

Be totally legal, too. And aware and capable of handling the consequences: emotional, medical, and of course monetary (those one-night stands that stretch out to last for 18 years and end in a messy divorce.)

As the most worthy Bill and Ted told us: "Be Excellent to each other, and Party ON, Dudes!"

Double standards ftw.

This kind of shit goes on all the time, people tried to defend eugenics back in the day in the same way. People always try to pretend that there is some scientific basis for their dumbass prejudices.

Sickening, but unfortunately typical and inevitable.

Actually the girls I was referring to are straight...

I guess this is where lesbians have an edge. I know many that, since they don't have to worry about all the things straight girls have to worry about, have lots of casual sex. They pick up each other, have sex, go home, life is good. Now I know what they mean that lesbians have brains like men.

Clearly the Daily Mail hasn't met some of the women i know..just saying