Is foreplay really that important?

Depends on the Lady.

It depends....there are times when I want more of a production. And then there are times I tell my guy that this is just all about the sex...LOL....either is good.

If the man's clueless and doesn't know the woman's arse from her elbow, then foreplay could probably be quite a chore, but it's a wonderful and integral part of sex when both sides are sensitive about the others' feelings and not in too much of a hurry to get it over and done with.

How to make love tantalizing for her is not necessarily a matter anyone can articulate. I do appreciate how many of you have worked in how it depends. I have always sought to make it fun to get straight to the point, and really, if you relax a bit and don't worry about the line between one and the other (the act of sexual intercourse and foreplay), your foreplay can be the simple expression in what you are doing that you just can't think about anything else but getting to it, or your foreplay can be just giving her "what she really wants" and as much as she wants until it's your turn which could also be just doing it the way that she wants for a week or so and then letting her pay you back!

A one way or another kind of thinking just only left me with a kind of indecisive and complicated form of reasoning that is not suited to making a woman happy!

And besides, I find that people shy away from norms. It doesn't mean that something's wrong with you. it's just that foreplay has become a real mess for some people and that when certain modus operandi or, rather, secrets become common place, there's usually trend(s) working and developing towards opposing directions because people need some secrecy or intimacy or spice that doesn't come from a cliche.

Anyways, just loosen up! Then forget everything that you have read here and go live your life!

C'mon everyone...... foreplay is completely situational. Like many of you have expressed throughout, there are times to make "sweet love" and offer the tender words and there are times to just dive right in. With one-night-stands or stranger sex, then yes - foreplay should not be part of the equation; just get right down to it. But, on the flip side, if you're with the person you truly love, you can have those moments of romantic lovemaking and then those quickie/raw/animalistic times to add a little spice to the relationship.

Sex without foreplay is like sushi. Some people hate it, some people love it. Its uncooked, and raw, and really not meant for mouths. Gross.

Hey kissing and such is cool, but sometimes you just wanna get it oooonnnnn like Barry White but without the song. You know it's a cool chick when she can do with a quicky when needed or wanted and other times kiss a bit, a little back rubbin' and let things go where and when they may. Some people take this stuff way too seriously. My ex had to have, no required, like a 30 minute back rub to feel like she meant something to me. That's why she's an "ex". If I did to the ex what I do to the current one she would have cried rape. The new one loves to be surprised in the closet, over the washing machine, orr.. oh, sorry, hehe.

then dont generalize "men" next time, you spoke in the context that all men do it... so, all women do to? face the facts

And? I wasn't speaking for all women or men or about them. I was expressing MY opinion. So sorry that touched so many nerves.

JanforGore: women have primal urges too... sorry

A bit off topic but...

I want to know how many private messages
Mike_Johnston received today. LOL

PERFECT!!

Yes, it is.

i never get a chance to practice foreplay . i wish girls weren't so desperate and would let me explore my softer side once in a while .

Lol....
Oh the things I just learned about my fellow commentators at Current..

going down has always helped me "get in the zone" and then from there i can last longer..and help my partner climax. 69 is a must in my book if you wanna have some good lasting sex.

Sex without foreplay is kinda impersonal...

"the deadly deed?" hmmmmm.....
Dr. Freud would be most impressed.

well.... i can't last that long, so you're gonna have to settle for the tongue ladies. sorry.

Every woman is different...... one can only test the waters and go with the flow........

If it's a one night stand, then just dive right in. If it's someone you love though - there'll be times for foreplay and intimacy, and times to be rough and straight-to-the-point. For a first time with any woman I actually love though, I would definitely go for foreplay.

its not difficult to stimulate the clit during penetration. get in the right postition, go at what speed works best for ya....

women have to learn to take control for their orgasms.

Mr_Costello: please don't confuse deep spiritual lovemaking with describing the mechanics of sex.Two totally different subjects for the most part. If someone doesn't even understand the basics the rest is a bit too deep don'tcha think?

It depends on what you consider foreplay. If you allow oral sex as foreplay then it doesn't take long for females to get warmed up (just like guys).

Just like guys, girls can have much stronger orgasms via receiving oral sex than via intercourse.

Of course a lot depends on technique and I think that is where a lot of guys come up short. Also why so many girls are going bi (cuz other girls kno how to do it).

That was part of the thought behind me previous comment about thinking of girl parts as analogous to guy parts. The clitoris is a nerve bundle like the head of a penis. The vagina has nerves as well just like the shaft of the penis but not as many. The ovaries are modified testicles.

So fellas if you concentrate on the clitoris with the oral part and use a finger or toy to stimulate the vagina at the same time it is pretty much for her like getting a good BJ is for you. Of course oral technique is very important but those details must be learned grasshopper lol

But a lot of guys get a bit squeamish thinking of it in those terms despite their accuracy lol

Problem with intercourse from a chick perspective is that it is hard to stimulate the clitoris while doin the deed in the same way the head of the penis is being stimulated so they feel like they are getting a hand job while the guy is having wonderful total organ stimulation. That is where most orgasm problems come from I think.

I personally want a little more than just feeling like an instrument just to satisfy a man's primal physical urges.There is more to making love, or should I say in the case of many 'having sex' which is different to me than just the physical aspect of it. If not, you might as well put it in a hole in the wall and get your satisfaction. I really also hate men who describe women as having "chick parts" as if we are simply here for their entertainment. It is sad to me how for so many the passion and true commitment seems to have gone out of something that should actually be a spiritual experience between two people who share the same soul.

"Women in the study may claim to prefer penetrative sex alone, but I very much doubt that their sexual encounters consisted of their man pulling out his penis and inserting it into their vagina without any kissing, touching or stroking at all."

“The likelihood is that the women in the study like the act just as much as the build-up, not instead of it.

"Publicising this kind of report sets the kind of standards that can put more pressure on couples to have the ‘right’ sex life when there is no real ‘wrong’ or ‘right' between the sheets.

Sing it sexpert!!!

True. Have no clue why that is though. It isn't rocket science. Chick parts are differently evolved but analogous to male parts. If a guy knows what feels good to him he can stimulate a girl in the same way.

Maybe guys are just too homophobic to think in those simple but accurate terms.

if the fella knows what he's doing, then yeh. the chances of that, though.....um, keep the foreplay.

Depends on the situation. With casual sex a little prep time is necessary obviously but usually both parties are just in it for the end result.

With a more romantic event foreplay is fun.

Women aren't much different than men though really, just push the right buttons and they get there just as quick as guys (ok maybe not 30 seconds lol)

I personally call this the Shock and Awe tactic.