Gay couple adopts drug addict children. Addict complains

I think she should be grateful that they are going to be looked after by loving caring parents who can support them.

the gay couple were judged the more responsible parents - they should be allowed to look after the kids irrespective of sexual orientation, nuff said.

If the drug addicted mum wanted to raise her children she should have put her children before drugs she made her decision.

The couple was most likely checked out and found to be qualified for taking care of the children. Alot of people willing to take kids only want one, the mom should be happy the kids are together. She should get her act together and arrange to have visits with the kids, then they'll have her in their lives. The judge should allow for grandparent visits and if the mother goes to rehab. have visits. Thank God someone wanted them and can take care of them together.

I don't see anything wrong with gay adoption, but they ARE her children, so she should have a say in the matter.

So if it was a gay man who had a drug addiction and his children were taken away only to be adopted by a straight couple and he argued saying he prefers them to continue be raised by a homosexual couple, what would you say then?

theres only one thing that can support the two kiddies to live against their very burden: love.

Uh hey guys, here's a thought.

FUCK what the mom thinks, WHAT DO THE KIDS THINK?

Man, people are reading things into the story that aren't there. For example, it doesn't say her kids were "taken away" from her. For all you know, she may have voluntarily decided to give them up. If that is the case, then yes, she has every right to state her preferences. And "no religious people have stepped up"? Where did you get that? You need to stop spinning everything to fit your agenda. And no matter how hard you try to ignore it, the truth is a hetero couple would make better parents than a gay couple, given everything else is equal. Sorry, it's just common sense - little girls pattern themselves after their mommy, and little boys after their dad. And, there is some research evidence, although studies are inconclusive, to suggest children develop differently when raised by lesbians or gays. Even on LGBT websites - http://www.apa.org/pi/lgbc/publications/lgpchildren.html

who is the bigger victim here the child or the gay couple?

This actually makes me sick - this woman gave up her right to raise her children. If she wanted them to have a mum and dad, she should have gotten on it. I think it's a gross mistake when people say kids raised by gay couples won't have role models of the opposite sex. Just because they have two dads doesn't mean they'll never interact with a grown woman.

I see nothing wrong with gay adoption. The mother in this case should be happy that her children will be placed in a safe and loving home. Sexual orentation should not dictate how well you partent your children. In this case it clearly dosent.

I see nothing wrong with gay adoption. The mother in this case should be happy that her children will be placed in a safe and loving home. Sexual orentation should not dictate how well you partent your children. In this case it clearly dosent.

because we all know that two dads are worse than a neglectful druggy mom... who really knows what's best. yeah right.

The grandparents couldn't take care of the kids, they knew that, so they gave up their rights as guardians. They're just homophobic is all. How can these people use their own prejudices to decide who should raise these children. They want to stick to some fantasy ideal that they all hold. While none of them are actually able to care for the children themselves, they think they have the right to say who can?

I fully plan on adopting a child from foster care in the next few years. I would hope that anyone who understands the length of time it takes to get your child taken away from you, there is enough time to redeem yourself and rehabilitate. If this woman had her children taken from her and they are open for adoption now, she has had a chance to right her wrongs, it can take years for a child to be put up for adoption. So at this point she has no say. Those children will be better off with gay parents than with her. If the grandparents were not allowed to take then it is most likely for viable reasons. All children deserve love in their home, mom and dad, mom and mom or dad and dad.

I knew a black kid that was adopted by white gay men and I hardly ever seen parents that good. They were so caring and accepting, and the kid is a baseball star and a complete guy's guy. It shows it dooesn't matter how what your parents sexual orientation is to have a great life.

I'm all for anyone adopting children as long they can provide a home them, SW2. Should you ever get the chance, ask the people protesting in front a family planning clinic how many children they have adopted? Out of the hundreds I have asked I have had only two respond that they have.

I don't think the addict's got a leg to stand on, as long as the kids are being loved for and looked after, that's all the biological mother should be worried about.

While I fully agree that there is no problem with gay couples adopting a child, I am dismayed by how drug addicts are viewed by people in a holier-than-thou sort of way. While drug addicts don't make suitable parents, there is no reason to dehumanize them. A lot of people become addicted to hard core drugs because their lives are crap. Once addicted, it becomes less and less their own choice to be drug addicts.

While of course it is possible to become clean, you'd have to walk in their shoes to realize how hard it must be, not only to break the physical addiction, but to deal with the emotional issues that drove them to drugs in the first place.

I don't speak from personal experience (meaning I was never addicted to narcotics), but I have been to NA meetings with my dad, who successfully got off drugs. Although I do not advocate drug-addicted parents as acceptable, in my particular case I am very glad nobody took me away when I was a kid. I don't think the children should have been taken from their grandparents.

Her only concern should be whether or not the couple adopting her kids are going to look after them and give them the best upbringing they possibly can. Beyond that, things like gender should be irrelevant.

Looks like the kids were on their way to being indoctrinated with homophobia- good thing they got out.

I forgot to add one more thing, if the mother is so concerend about having a mother figure in the lives of the children, then maybe there could be an agreement with the couple to allow her to be active and responsive in their lives as her role as their mother. She would need to get help with her addictions, and be able to maintain a stable job and home. They would need to make sure she is able to take care of herself before she can help taking care of her kids. That way its a win-win.

too bad there weren't any straight couples willing to help...

I'm pretty sure they asked the extended family. I think any supporting family is better than no family.

Gay people DO have the right to be parents. I completely agree with that. But this woman doesn't...but I still respect her decision. It still is her decision. Its her kids. I cant enforce my beliefs on her. Yes, she is a drug addict; she couldn't take care of her kids, so they were given up for adoption. But she still wants the best for them. Its not like she doesnt want them to have gay parents because she wants to be mean and cruel to her kids. She, as a mother, believes that her children should be raised by a man and woman. She feels that this is the best for her kids.

The best comparison I can give is what if a muslim family were forced to give a child for adoption and the child ends up getting adopted by a christian family. I say what the hell with religion anyway... But the muslim family has their beliefs and they believe their child should be raised by another muslim. So again, I would respect that decision. They want what they believe is best for their child.

Just like a lot of parents dont get their kids vaccinated. Its still the parents decision.

What if a gay couple had a child, either through a surrogate mother or through adoption, and they were forced to give it up for adoption. Their only request is that the child be brought up by another gay couple. Although there is a straight couple more than willing to take care of this child, the gay couple's wishes should be met.

This pisses me off, a Savage like ehr has no right to judge
Like a mom and dad parent will make them grow better? says the drug addict lol makes me laugh
like a fat man telling a skinny kid what to eat

I hope the couple gets to keep the kid and the mom should be kept far away from the kids if she's sooo worried about their welfar then a drug loser should not be arround them in their life

Drug addicts want a say in how their children should be raised after they horribly fail at it? Yeah, that's sensible.
/facetiousness

That bitch gave up her right to have a say in who raises her kids when she chose drugs over them.

Well, if if takes a gay couple to get involved for the biological mother or father to stop their drug or alcohol use, then I am for that, but if the biological parents are not fit, then a safe, loving home environment is what the child should get, regardless of the sexual orientation of the adopting couple...

Yeah when you're so addicted to drugs that you can't even take care of your children you give up the right to later make complaints about how they're being cared for. ridiculous.

sad. a drug-addict mom thinks she knows best.
and its almost hilarious what the church said. we not prejudice, we're just making a judgement call based on the couple's sexual orientation and no other information at all. might as well say you're not racist, you just don't want black people to raise the children.

I know a lesbian who fostered a boy who had a drug addict mother and a father who molested him, she does a brilliant job, and the kid has a much better life thanks to them.
When parents are unfit to make decisions for there children, what makes them think they can have a say after they have been taken away?

She gave up her rights to say anything about who does what with her children when she chose drugs over them.

I see nothing wrong with gay people having and/or raising children. These people stepped up for these children, the mums opinion in null and void.

Junkies dont have a say.

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