Over-sharing with Relationship Issues
source: http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052970203739404574286101995111512.html#mod
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How much is too much information when discussing your relationship?
Wall Street journal tackles the tough issues... like why guys don't want to talk about their emotions. Hmm. Perhaps they should flip through a cosmo sometime.
From article:
"There are deep-rooted reasons why we share the way we do. Men don’t want to appear vulnerable. (Why else won’t they ask for directions when they’re lost?) They are raised to be strong, after all, not to appear sad, scared or needy. Women, by contrast, are taught it’s OK to be emotional.
“Women can go to their friends and talk and ask, ‘Does he love me? What do you think?’ ” says Charles T. Hill, a professor of psychology at Whittier College in California. “If men went to their friends and said, ‘Do you think she loves me?’ they would say to get a grip.”
Men also may clam up to protect their wives or significant others, worrying that their buddies might be insensitive, gossip or think less of their partners. They also may not want to get themselves wound up because it’s hard for them to wind down.
Or, as a male friend of mine puts it: “Men don’t talk about their feelings with themselves, let alone other men. They usually have something to feel guilty about, even if it’s just a bad thought or flirtation, so why look too closely?”
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Dude, this article is all one big duh and employs lots and lots of stereotypes about men and women. In the end, some guys share and some don't. Some women talk about their problems with everyone and some don't.
Many of us have likely been in a situation where talking about a problem too much just made it seem bigger, with two brains obsessing on it instead of one. And while we don't buy that only men are capable of a get-in-get-out approach to emotional conversation, it is sometimes helpful to have someone who tells you to quit your bitching and move on.
Wall Street journal tackles the tough issues... like why guys don't want to talk about their emotions. Hmm. Perhaps they should flip through a cosmo sometime.
From article:
"There are deep-rooted reasons why we share the way we do. Men don’t want to appear vulnerable. (Why else won’t they ask for directions when they’re lost?) They are raised to be strong, after all, not to appear sad, scared or needy. Women, by contrast, are taught it’s OK to be emotional.
“Women can go to their friends and talk and ask, ‘Does he love me? What do you think?’ ” says Charles T. Hill, a professor of psychology at Whittier College in California. “If men went to their friends and said, ‘Do you think she loves me?’ they would say to get a grip.”
Men also may clam up to protect their wives or significant others, worrying that their buddies might be insensitive, gossip or think less of their partners. They also may not want to get themselves wound up because it’s hard for them to wind down.
Or, as a male friend of mine puts it: “Men don’t talk about their feelings with themselves, let alone other men. They usually have something to feel guilty about, even if it’s just a bad thought or flirtation, so why look too closely?”
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Dude, this article is all one big duh and employs lots and lots of stereotypes about men and women. In the end, some guys share and some don't. Some women talk about their problems with everyone and some don't.
Many of us have likely been in a situation where talking about a problem too much just made it seem bigger, with two brains obsessing on it instead of one. And while we don't buy that only men are capable of a get-in-get-out approach to emotional conversation, it is sometimes helpful to have someone who tells you to quit your bitching and move on.
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