LoveLife | July 16, 2009 | 9 comments

Divorce more likely if you live together first

source: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1199990/Live-marrying-youre-likely-divorce.html

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Researchers have found that those who live together before getting married are more likely to get divorced than those who wait until after marriage to co-habitate. The reason for this appears to be that sharing a home puts pressure on couples to get married for the wrong reasons.

Overall, about 20 per cent of those who lived together before getting engaged had since suggested divorce, compared with only 12 per cent of those who moved in together after getting engaged and 10 per cent who did not cohabit before the wedding.

Psychologist Dr Galena Rhoades said: "We think some couples who move in together without a clear commitment to marriage may wind up sliding into marriage partly because they are already cohabiting."
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9 comments // Divorce more likely if you live together first

  • think_free
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      think_free  

    • Why bother getting married?
      If everything is going great, why do you need to pay for that governmental piece of paper that states you are married and then have to pay even more if you split up?

    • 2 years ago
  • unclecharlie
  • RudyRudell
  • unclecharlie
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      unclecharlie  

    • Hunter- ask any of these old geezer couples who have been married 40, 60, yes, 70 years- and not one of them shacked up before marriage. ("if nobody lived together before marriage" - these are the couples I'm talking about!- and notice how strong their marriages are!

    • 2 years ago
  • sue4e3
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      sue4e3  

    • moving in with someone first is ok .I think the key is get married with in a reasonable amount of time or move out .I moved in with my husband for 8 years and than got married .I think our marriage suffered for it.Its hard to explain though

    • 2 years ago
  • burukku16
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      burukku16  

    • I totally agree with richjm. 'Try before you buy' is the way to go - how else are you going to know if you can stand to be with the person 24/7?

      However, I also see the point the researchers are making about co-habitating people getting married for the wrong reasons. It might seem like the next logical step. And if you're comfortable (and somewhat lazy), why rock the boat when you're sharing a mortgage and love each other's dogs? Breaking up is harder than getting hitched.

    • 2 years ago
  • richjm
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      richjm  

    • There's no way I'd risk marrying somebody without living with them first only to find out they wear a wig, shave their legs in the kitchen sink, fart during meals and insist on watching Coronation Street every night.

      Makes sense to move in with somebody before you get married. Sort of like try before you buy (but with more heartbreak and some awkward DVD collection divvying up if you decide you're not buying after all).

    • 2 years ago
  • Hunter_the_Cat
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      Hunter_the_Cat  

    • given the only people who don't live together before marriage are really religious, and those people won't get divorced (no matter how unhappy they are). i bet if nobody lived together before marriage, the overall divorce rate would be through the roof.

    • 2 years ago
  • bermyWHAT
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      bermyWHAT  
    • Hunter_the_Cat:

      @Hunter_the_cat
      You're right about the religious part but the article also has a point. I mean you live with someone for years and it's not quite right so you have a baby or get married to fix the relationship or because you're not sure what's next but ultimately that doesn't work out and they end up splitting. That's why you always hear about people who dated for 10 years, got married, and then divorced 3 months later

    • 2 years ago
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