Sex on Campus

I understand how we must keep sex intimate but casual sex once in a while can be fun, and I don't believe it is harmful. As long as you are sensible and use protection casual sex can be a good thing, sex if fun-you should experiment and enjoy!

I think the very beginning of the video explains their take on the subject. She starts out asking if hook ups are ok, and goes on about no strings and so on.

Then her tone changes (I feel it almost sounds hopeful) and she asks “OR are they looking for something more meaningful?”

That alone is saying that someone you share your bed with is meaningless if it is only once. Which I totally disagree with. They even threw in friends with benefits in the seemingly “less meaningful” category. What? Friends have a LOT of meaning I would imagine. Just because you sleep with them then its not as meaningful as a monogamous relationship?

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Why?

How is it different? Most successful monogamous relationships claim to be best friends anyway. So you have to totally chain yourself to that person, and limit your possibilities for growth, for adventure, and for experience? You have to exclude yourself from the rest of the sexual world for what reason?

Being in a casual relationship can be very meaningful. In many ways. Its EXACTLY like any monogamous relationship. Both people need to understand what the other person expects, they need to communicate, and accept responsibility for their actions.

Honestly this series is promoting stereotypes about men, women, and sex. They are talking about men as the heartbreakers. Even in this clip(or a different clip from the same series) some women brought in as an expert because she wrote a book, and she said the hookup culture is the best thing to happen to GUYS because they don’t have to work for anything, and sleeping with various attractive women is just easy for any Joe with decent looks.

Really?

Seriously this is not a quest to see sex and relationships as they are, it is a campaign that puts monogamous relationships on a pedestal. Im sure they set out with trying to find the truth, but somewhere in the editing process and choice of “experts” that iv seen are kind of one sided on the idea of sex and relationships.

I think personally that i would want a girl who hasn't slept with many guys. i say 10 is the limit. good pod

I really like this pod because I think it's important for people to realize that "sex" in terms of its' seriousness has severely changed over time. This shows a well balanced, accurate representation of what sex on campus is like.

I have had sex with one virgin, she is the one I want to marry, but I hope she doesn't like someone 'better' than me.

Ha! All that is so true. But I think these days all of people number are much higher because sex isn't as taboo as it was before.

i think this video asks some interesting questions. the world of dating has changed, as well as the way people look at sex. I was taken aback by the expert saying about 90 percent of women ten years ago went into marriage. I'm not sure I totally believe that.

i also found it interesting that all the experts sourced were male. that seems kind of lopsided.

I wanna go back to school, know what I'm sayin?

As this pod shows, a lot of people over-idealize marriage. I recall that one girl talking about seeing her mother and father fight, and knowing they wanted to get a divorce, but not wanting them too, even though one of her parents had cheated on the other, though I can't remember which. I know it's tempting, especially when you are a young child or teen, and don't understand the dynamics of other people's relationships. But if it's over, it's over. Give it up, really. Too many people want to believe that differences can always be reconciled. They can't always be. Sometimes they shouldn't be. Like in the case of a cheating or abusing spouse.

This pod is well balanced about the issue of sex on campuses but its not a huge news flash, at least not to these ears. I remember being in high school and people were having casual sex all over since they decided they were too young to get serious. The same was with when I went to college. In fact, it was worse because you see "walks of shame" everywhere you went n the dorms.

I find women have a higher tendency to lie about being virgins since some people act so iffy about it, while men tend to brag that they're not. I also find that women tend to have at least one sexual experience before committing so that they're "prepared" at least for a serious sexual experience.

To be honest, I kind of agree with this point of view to be a little experienced in love doesn't hurt as long as you're safe about it. There's nothing worse than a so called Cassanova who doesn't even know where to put his penis.

lol---the doctor and his wife out in the middle of no-where r sorta disconnected

There was actually a poster hung up in all the dorms at my college that said "De-stress on finals week! Have safe sex!", and then went on to say where we could get free condoms.
As long as people are being safe and responsible, what does it matter how many partners they have? It's all about personal choice.

Great pod but not really seeing the news flash. People have sex and people in college have LOTS of sex. Moreover they ALL lie about it to some degree. Defining what is or isn't proper behavior or a "good" relationship is a step short of passing judgment. The same people that said they wanted a proper relationship wouldn't disparage a homosexual relationship most likely but they'd look down on a open relationship, that seems contradictory in some fashion.

This pod seemed really balanced; great interviewing. I agree with Dr. John Van Epp. Having sex before you are married gives you a lack of respect both for other people and for yourself. It is either degrading to the person your using for sex, or it lowers your own self esteem. Once you develop this view of yourself and others, it makes it difficult to commit to a marriage.

Some people actually lie about being virgins just not to sound promiscuous.

Most people I went to school (while in middle school)had five sexual partners by the time they started high school because they fill they aren't included in some special club.

or they want till they are legal, where they fill now it acceptable to have sex.

most of my friends have friends with benefits with a girlfriends(because they fill to have love is to have an open relationship)

And I'm still in high school.