How I Became A Divorced Virgin

wow

Is it really that serious? Sex is basically a simple biological function, that feels REALLY good if you do it right. Anything the plays to our baser needs or insecurities is surrounded by shyness and mystery. It truly is just sex not the end all be all of holy matrimony or proof of perpetual love and caring.

"Just sex?"

Well, I guess I would agree that sex is not the most important thing in the world. On the other hand, during my impetuous teens and twenties, it was pretty solidly in the top 3. But I am older and wiser, now...top 5...

At the risk of sounding Clintonesque, I think it is pretty important to have a common understanding of what one means by "sex" before ranking it among one's priorities in life. I think of "sex" in terms of intimacy. Something more than a tender embrace upon waking in the morning, parting for the day's work or returning to each other at the end of that day -- but not necessarily involving penetration and/or orgasm.

Part of the fun of being a man, after all, is that with a bit of determination, a light touch, and the right vocabulary you can leave your lover in a state of rosy satisfaction without removing a single article of her clothing...So is that "sex?" You damn betcha...

"maybe this friendship is better than sex."

Maybe there are a lot of things that are better than sex?

It's just sex.

I can't imagine what it must have felt like to wake up and realize (and I mean really get it) that your husband is never going to be able to do the deed with you. How devastating for her. You have to wonder if it's just ED and if they every tried getting help for it???

"Before long, we were making out. I didn't stop him when he took his pants off, and I didn't care when he took mine off. It didn't occur to me that he wanted to have sex. Okay, maybe I'm an idiot,"

This girl is a complete idiot. It's ideal and fluffy to want to lose your virginity to somebody who means something to you, but it's not anything that's so special it needs to be put on a pedestal Higher than the clouds. It's just sex. Look at where trying to "save it for the one" got her. She turned out an almost thirty year old virgin with some serious relationship and emotional problems.

And I'm appalled that she thought she had a dysfunctional vagina. I'm almost positive that she grew up in a religious home with lessons about abstinence and little education about the mechanics of sex.

"I highly doubted that he could penetrate the wall."

Omg, I pity her. She was completely clueless. I really wish she would have gotten help from some actual people. Or talked to some non-virgins. Wonder if some decent sex-ed classes in high school would have helped her.

thats not normal at all. seek help

It's hard to believe something like that could happen. I agree with jonnyhairdont, they could have gotten other kinds of help for their sex problem. If the person is important enough, wouldn't you try EVERYTHING that you could to make it work?

Yeah, it took them way too long to figure this out. I know they're religious-y but you gotta see a sex therapist or a regular therapist or a Buddhist or something.

lol...sucks to be her.

Wow, crazy story. No sex after a five year marriage. I admire that she wanted to wait, but I would have hoped that she'd realize after a few years that she deserves good sex!

Poor Mike .

uhhhhh, she married a gay dude.....

i lost it in the backseat of a car, just throwing it out their...