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Father Who Set Up Anti-Gay-Bullying Campaign after His Child's Suicide Has Been Found Dead

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Father who set up anti-gay-bullying campaign after son's suicide found dead

Roger Crouch's 15-year-old son Dominic leapt off a roof amid rumours he was gay after apparently kissing a boy for a dare



Steven Morris
guardian.co.uk, Thursday 1 December 2011 15.43 EST


PHOTO: Roger Crouch with his son Dominic, taken from the Facebook anti-bullying website.
Photograph: SWNS.com

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A father who campaigned against homophobic bullying after his son killed himself amid rumours that he was gay has been found dead.

Earlier this month Roger Crouch, 55, who launched a Facebook campaign after 15-year-old Dominic leapt off a roof after apparently kissing a boy for a dare, was named "hero of the year" by the lesbian, gay and bisexual charity Stonewall, beating the likes of Lady Gaga and Joan Armatrading.

He was pronounced dead after Gloucestershire police went to his home in Gretton, near Cheltenham, on Monday following "concerns for the welfare of a man at the address".

A police spokesperson said on Thursday that they were not treating his death as suspicious and that the coroner had been informed.

Crouch, who was clerk of Stow-on-the-Wold town council in the Cotswolds, was also a patron for Diversity Role Models, a charity campaigning against homophobic bullying. He lobbied schools to ensure anti-bullying policies are used and argued young people should be taught coping strategies, and visited the House of Commons to tell MPs what they could do about bullying.

Crouch's wife, Paola, wrote of her and daughter Giulia's heartbreak on the Facebook group she and Crouch created. She posted: "The changes you have started for young people everywhere, the work you have done against bullying, will remain as a towering monument to you."

Dominic leapt from the roof of a six-storey building near his private school, St Edwards in Cheltenham, in May last year. The inquest into his death heard that there had been rumours he might be gay after he was said to have kissed a boy during a spin-the-bottle game.

The inquest recorded a verdict of suicide, and his son's death prompted Crouch to begin his campaign against bullying.

Crouch said at the time: "It is clear that the banter and rumours were based on Dom's alleged sexuality. Some maintain that mystery still surrounds Dominic's death. There's no real mystery around why Dom was driven to take his own life.

"He was desperate that his happiness after the residential trip was punctured by rumours and being the butt of jokes. Over a single morning he felt he went from hero to zero. The real tragedy is not just that he died. It's that his death was preventable."

After receiving the Stonewall award last month, Crouch said: "I see this as an award for Dom. By choosing us for this award you've also chosen to take a stand alongside all the young people whose lives have been ended by bullying.

"We are parents who loved our son. We stood by him in life and we stand by him in death."

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A spokesman for Stonewall said: "His tireless campaigning against bullying following the death of his son was an inspiration."

Joanne Dunning, of the Lesbian and Gay Foundation, said: "It seemed like he was only just getting the recognition he deserved for his anti-bullying work."

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14 comments // Father Who Set Up Anti-Gay-Bullying Campaign after His Child's Suicide Has Been Found Dead

  • Ambill94
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    • Where is the universal disgust and anger at the parents who promote and pass down this blind, ignorant hatred; especially those who claim to be Christian. They are repugnant to say the least and a cancer on this society.

    • 6 months ago
  • Buddha2112
  • Ambill94
  • Buddha2112
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    • Ambill94:

      The whole point was that just because a society demonizes a person or a group, doesn't mean it's a viable or right option to go the other way. Socrates faced accusation of passing down 'blind, ignorant hatred' (questioning society and their values) to the youth.

      You're accusing people who claim to be christian, while they claim it's gay people. The best thing would be not to point the finger at anyone and have healthy questioning of everyone's motives and values. Being repugnant and a cancer to society is something both sides of any social debate say, especially in this case. The whole point is that no one is a cancer on society, they are just part of society. If you have self-value, the accusations become worthless.

      In Socrates case however, he derived his value from the society itself. Poor, but noble choice. The kid in this case however, is a sad story, as the social values overtook his own, and he could not see he was not wrong or bad. No one should have to face the majority Rule... but that has to first start with the individual having their own value, though we have a document solidifying that value... It's just ignored by everyone when it's convenient.

    • 6 months ago
  • Ambill94
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    • Buddha2112:

      I think that makes for a rather self-serving rationale but it does not relate to the case in point. In a philosophical construct it may be true that an "...individual having their own value..." makes others "...accusations worthless..." however, in the real world, like in the time of Socrates when people are denied their self worth by the behavior of others, the outcomes are often catastrophic...and do not occur in a vacuum.

      When someone forces their belief on others with the power to cause people to end their lives, the philosophical arguments are nothing more than mental gymnastics...tied up in the complex nuances of virtue that the Greeks wrestled with throughout their golden age.

      To say that Socrates said or believed any particular thing is dangerous in itself. What we know of him is to a great extent what his student Plato wrote about him and what Plato's student Aristotle had to say. When you read their works you discover early on that they are replete with contradiction and differing interpretations of Socrates' ideas, if in fact they are his ideas.

      It would be nice to think that everyone was strong enough to stand tall in the their own self worth and impervious to attacks from others, but that is sadly not the case. There are those who can, but there are also some who cannot withstand the hate and bigotry they are faced with.

      To believe that most parents don't teach self worth is misleading and I would guess inaccurate...however what is not taught by some is tolerance and respect for the self worth of others.

    • 6 months ago
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  • Leen61
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      Leen61  
    • This is very sad. My guess would be the grief this father felt after his son's suicide is what caused his death. Parents can never get over the loss of a child.

    • 6 months ago
  • trut
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      trut  
    • these gay kids are going to have to get tougher, so what if people bug you.
      Life isn;t a fairy tale with all rainbows and butterflies you know.

    • 6 months ago
  • alexandrek
  • Buddha2112
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    • alexandrek:

      Defensive much? He just saying we need to teach kids to be strong on their own and stop deriving their happiness from others. Sticks and stones can break bones, but words only hurt you if you have no self worth. Could care less what sexual orientation someone is... I feel the ideas of 'straight' vs lgbt-whatever the fuck, is stupid and limiting... Humans are sexual, don't let anyone else's opinion on it or anything else be a reason to hate yourself.

    • 6 months ago
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  • EthicalVegan
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    • 6 months ago
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