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Jodi Arias, who admits to murdering her ex boyfriend Travis Alexander, was emotionally abused according to an expert on domestic violence.
http://www.myfoxphoenix.com/story/21875269/2013/04/03/psychotherapistJodi Arias, who admits to murdering her ex boyfriend Travis Alexander, was emotionally... more
Chad Johnson 911 call
In addition to everything else, a typical victim is forced to continue their normal routine and tasks by covering the evidence of violent abuse. This domestic abuse activist dramatically demonstrates how to effectively cover bruises, cuts, and assorted wounds with simple cosmetics.
(note: contains dramatization of violent subject matter)
http://veracitystew.com/?p=38557In addition to everything else, a typical victim is forced to continue their normal... more
Hi my name is simon,
I was a victim of domestic violence via my ex partner and mother to my children.
it lasted for 5 years at first it was a playful slap but then when on to bumps and bruses.
she got me arrested and when the police got a doctor to look at my hand which she claimed i hit her the doctor pointed out that it was not from a hit so i told him and the police and they questioned me but also made me feel small as they could not belive a 5ft 7 woman could hurt a 6ft stocky man.
simonHi my name is simon, I was a victim of domestic violence via my ex partner and... more
I don’t know Adams. I don’t his daughter. I have no first-hand evidence whatsoever of the internal dynamics of the family, of whether or not she’s acting out of concern or spite. There’s one thing I’m pretty sure I do know, however: no, Judge, it’s worse than it looked.
I have some experience with what Hillary suffered that night, because it’s similar to what I endured growing up.I don’t know Adams. I don’t his daughter. I have no first-hand evidence... more
A controlling and jealous husband has taking the term 'feeder' to a whole new level after it was discovered that secretly fed his wife steroids so she would pile on weight and be forced to stay at home and look after their children.
Victim Jaspreet Singh Gill sprouted hair on her chin, cheeks and back because Dalwara Singh was lacing her food and drink with the drugs, Leicester Crown Court heard.
The mother of two also developed spotty, constantly itchy skin and some scalp hair fell out, but her husband of 17 years told her not to go to the doctor.
When she complained that the food he suddenly starting preparing for her tasted bitter, because of the steroids, Mr Singh made her eat it out of guilt, saying he had made it especially for her.
Their teenage daughter told her mother she heard her father grinding a pestle and mortar in the bedroom. Mrs Singh broke into a locked cupboard and found the anabolic steroids, Anapolon and Dianabol, and called the police.
Singh, a food factory production manager, of Empire Road, Leicester, admitted administering a poison or noxious substance with intent to injure, aggrieve or annoy, between November last year and January this year.
He avoided jail and was given a 12-month jail sentence, suspended for two years, with supervision, and ordered to attend a domestic abuse programme.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2056537/Dalwara-Singh-secretly-fed-wife-steroids-shed-stay-home-look-children.htmlA controlling and jealous husband has taking the term 'feeder' to a whole... more
Last month, the Shawnee County District Attorney’s office, facing a 10% budget cut, announced that the county would no longer be prosecuting misdemeanors, including domestic violence cases, at the county level. Finding those cases suddenly dumped on the city and lacking resources of their own, the Topeka City Council is now considering repealing the part of the city code that bans domestic battery.
http://veracitystew.com/2011/10/11/de-criminalizing-domestic-abuse-your-teapublican-budget-cuts-at-work/Last month, the Shawnee County District Attorney’s office, facing a 10% budget... more
Cops: Wife Pushed Husband to His Death
June 10, 2011
Josh Hilberling, a 6-foot, 5-inch, 220-pound former football player, died after he plunged 17 stories from his Oklahoma apartment building, an alleged victim of spousal abuse.
Tulsa police say Hilberling, 23, was pushed out of his 25th floor apartment window at the University Club Tower on Tuesday by his wife, Amber Michelle Hilberling, 19, who is being charged with first-degree murder.
"We taught him to never hit a woman, but what we didn't think to teach him was to get away," his mother, Jeanne Hilberling, told ABC's affiliate KTUL. "We just will never forget him. He's one of a kind."
"Anybody that knows Josh is going to miss that smile, but no one more than his proud military parents who wanted the world for son," she said.
The couple had been married only a year, according to his parents, but just last month their son went to Domestic Violence Intervention Services looking for help. It had been hard, they said, for him to admit he was a victim.
They said Josh, who was in the Air Force, didn't leave because Amber was eight months pregnant with their first child.
"Most of the time you have a homicide similar to this and typically the woman is the victim," said Officer Jason Willingham, spokesman for the Tulsa Police. "I don't recall any situation that is similar in recent history, for sure."
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But Amber Hilberling's lawyer said that she is the victim of domestic violence.
"This is a tragedy for everyone involved and what it wasn't -- was a crime," Jason Corns told local television station KRMZ.
Police received a call Tuesday afternoon from witnesses who reported a suicide at the apartment tower, according to Willingham. Hilberling had fallen from the 25th floor to an eighth- floor parking garage.
When paramedics arrived, police questioned witnesses and those who knew the couple, determining that Josh had been "pushed out the window, breaking the window and causing his death," said Willingham. "It was a heck of a fall."
At first Amber Hilberling was arrested on second-degree murder, but later police changed it to first-degree when they looked at the evidence. "It tipped the scale," he said.
So far, no charges have been filed, according to Susan Witt of the Tulsa District Attorney's office.
"Tulsa police are still investigating," said Witt. "When their investigation is complete, reports will be forwarded to the district attorney's office for review and a decision about charges."
Willingham said the couple had a history of domestic violence and there had been protective orders "on both sides."
Tulsa police said that investigators found a protective order that that Josh Hilberling requested in May because he said he wife hit him on the head with a lamp and he needed 21 stitches.
The order was dismissed when the couple did not show up in court.
"I can say we have seen absolutely no criminal evidence of wrong doing by Mrs. Hilberling," said Amber Hilberling's lawyer Corns, who said Josh was the aggressor.
An estimated 835,000 men are physically assaulted by an intimate partner annually in the United States according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in a 2000 National Violence Against Women Survey.
About 37 percent of all domestic abuse victims are men, according to Denver clinical psychologist Jeanne King, who is author of "Abused Men." She co-founded the education advocacy group, Partners in Prevention.
Battered Men Don't Report Crimes
"They are silenced because men don't speak about it," she said. "It's two-fold. One is the shame – it's greater for men than women. There are also less resources available to men…Try to think about where a center is for abused men and you scratch your head."
Researchers began looking at husband battering cases in the 1970s. One study a Boston University described scenarios where women struck out at their husbands for just talking loudly.
Others said that after being in the house with children who would "get on my nerves" all day long, they got mad and hit their spouses. One woman said she became violent just because her husband was "such a bore."
"I was trying to wake him up, you know," she was quoted as saying in the study. " He was such a rotten lover anyway. So I'd yell at him and bit him to stir him up."
Cops: Wife Pushed Husband to His Death Watch Video
Wife on Trial in Hit-Man Case Watch Video
Other studies have shown that women are more apt to throw things or kick their husbands. Violence is also associated with sexism, lack of self-control and mental illness.
As for Amber Hilberling, she was released from jail Thursday on a $250,000 bond and will appear back in Tulsa County Court on June 15.
She is required to wear an ankle monitor and surrender any passport she owns while the murder investigation continues.
As the Hilberling family plans a private funeral service, they are broken-hearted over their son's violent death.
"I want people to remember who Josh was, not how he died," said his mother. "I want them to remember the kind compassionate friend who would do anything for anybody."
Josh Hilberling's father told ABC that the day his son died, he had been trying to leave the relationship for good.
"That's the only thing people need to know is that when you're trying to leave, it's the most dangerous time," said Jeanne Hilberling.
"You bet," said psychologist King. "Abuse is fundamentally about control and violence will escalate when a person feels they have lost control. There is no greater sense of loss than to see the victim walk out the door."
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women can't always leave
It had been reported, that Christina Aguilera was the victim of domestic violence at the hands of her soon-to-be ex-husband, Jordan Bratman. That is not true; she had a fall and hurt her lip.
More: http://amygrindhouse.com/christina-aguilera-domestic-violence.htmlIt had been reported, that Christina Aguilera was the victim of domestic violence at... more
A prominent Wisconsin district attorney sent repeated text messages trying to spark an affair with a domestic abuse victim while he was prosecuting her ex-boyfriend, a police report shows.
The 26-year-old woman complained last year to police after receiving 30 texts from Calumet County District Attorney Kenneth Kratz in three days, according to the report obtained by The Associated Press.
"Are you the kind of girl that likes secret contact with an older married elected DA ... the riskier the better?" Kratz, 50, wrote in a message to Stephanie Van Groll in October 2009. In another, he wrote: "I would not expect you to be the other woman. I would want you to be so hot and treat me so well that you'd be THE woman! R U that good?"
Kratz was prosecuting Van Groll's ex-boyfriend on charges he nearly choked her to death last year. He also was veteran chair of the Wisconsin Crime Victims' Rights Board, a quasi-judicial agency that can reprimand judges, prosecutors and police officers who mistreat crime victims.
In a combative interview in his office Wednesday, Kratz did not deny sending the messages and expressed concern their publication would unfairly embarrass him personally and professionally. He said the Office of Lawyer Regulation found in March he did not violate any rules governing attorney misconduct, but refused to provide a copy of what he said was the report clearing him. That office cannot comment on investigations.
"This is a non-news story," Kratz shouted. But he added, "I'm worried about it because of my reputational interests."
Hours later, after AP reported on the messages, Kratz issued a statement acknowledging sending them and saying he "was embarrassed at this lapse of judgment." He also said he would continue serving as district attorney.
"I have never been the subject of attorney discipline during my entire 25-year career, and until today, have enjoyed a spotless reputation as a vigorous advocate for crime victims," he said.
Van Groll told police in Kaukauna, Wis., where she lived, that she felt pressured to have a relationship with Kratz or he would drop charges against her ex-boyfriend.
Kratz said he "immediately removed himself" from the prosecution after learning about the complaint, and the state Department of Justice took over. Kratz said he resigned from the crime victims board, which he helped create, after more than a decade as chair as a "self-imposed sanction." He and his wife filed for divorce last December.
Kratz has served in Chilton since 1992 and earns a $105,000 salary. Kratz, a Republican, isn't up for re-election until November 2012.
"Nothing really happened to him and I had three days of hell," Van Groll said in a phone interview with the AP. "They gave him a slap on the wrist and told him not to do it again. If it was anybody else that did something like this, they'd lose their job."
Domestic violence experts called Kratz's text messages disturbing and unethical for several reasons, including the power differential between a prosecutor and a younger abuse victim.
"If what's being alleged is true, it's sad a prosecutor would use the same sort of power and control over a woman who has already experienced that in her personal life," said Patti Seger, executive director of the Wisconsin Coalition Against Domestic Violence.
Kratz may be best known for prosecuting Steven Avery in the 2005 killing of Teresa Halbach, a 25-year-old photographer. The case won national attention because Avery had spent 18 years behind bars for a rape he did not commit in a separate case before DNA evidence implicated someone else. Kratz received glowing media attention and flirted with a run for Congress in 2008.
Last year, around the time he was texting Van Groll, Kratz was back in the spotlight for prosecuting a woman who worked with others to lure a boyfriend to a hotel room and glued his penis to his stomach as revenge for his cheating.
In the interview, Kratz said he was proud he helped achieve legislation creating the first-of-its-kind crime victims' board and that he had dedicated his career to their cause.
"I wrote the law on crime victims in Wisconsin," he said, pointing to a picture of him with former Gov. Tommy Thompson signing that law. "That's the irony here."
A spokeswoman said the board has not received a complaint about Kratz and is not investigating his conduct toward Van Groll.
Kratz cited an undisclosed conflict of interest in stepping away from the abuse case after Van Groll reported the text messages, court records show. An assistant state attorney general acted as special prosecutor and won a conviction on one felony count of strangulation against the man, Shannon Konitzer.
Van Groll said Kratz sent the first text minutes after she left his office, where he had interviewed her about the case.
He said it was nice talking and "you have such potential," signing the message "KEN (your favorite DA)." Twenty minutes later, he added, "I wish you weren't one of this office's clients. You'd be a cool person to know!" But he quickly tried to start a relationship and told her to keep quiet about the texts.
Van Groll at first was polite, saying Kratz was "a nice person" and thanking him for praise. By the second day, she responded with answers such as "dono" or "no." Kratz questioned whether her "low self-esteem" was to blame for the lack of interest.
"I'm serious! I'm the atty. I have the $350,000 house. I have the 6-figure career. You may be the tall, young, hot nymph, but I am the prize!" he texted.
Kratz told her the relationship would unfold slow enough for "Shannon's case to get done." "Remember it would have to be special enough to risk all," he wrote.
Van Groll said she went to police after the messages started becoming "kind of vulgar." She provided copies of 30 messages and her responses, which the department released in response to an AP request.
"Stephanie feels afraid that if she doesn't do what he wants Kratz will throw out her whole case," an officer who interviewed Van Groll wrote.
The department referred the complaint to the state Division of Criminal Investigation because it works with Kratz's office on prosecutions. Van Groll, a college student and part-time preschool teacher who has moved to Merrill, said she has been told Kratz won't be charged because "they didn't think he did anything criminally wrong.";_ylt=Ajyv.67JAiU2t5vnAIblOYKs0NUE;_ylu=X3oDMTQzZzc4bTRwBGFzc2V0A2FwLzIwMTAwOTE1L3VzX3d... more
Is this real or a idea for future poster advertising? It could be real becuase there was a similar clever advert in London, where by donating money the girl in the poster video would cheer up (it was for the charity group NSPCC). In this advert for Amnesty International, the poster uses eye recognition services to point out the hidden issues of domestic abuse.Is this real or a idea for future poster advertising? It could be real becuase there... more
The happy couple gets to continue on....
http://backseatcuddler.com/2010/05/13/d-a-rejects-tito-ortiz-jenna-jameson-domestic-abuse-case/The happy couple gets to continue on....... more
Gov. Bill Ritter is signing a measure that will provide animals and pets protection from domestic abusers.
The measure being signed Monday would allow judges to order suspected domestic abusers in Colorado to stay away from family
pets and livestock.
Democratic Sen. Linda Newell says domestic abusers can harm or
threaten to harm pets as well livestock to intimidate their victims. Advocates say some are afraid to leave abusive homes out of fear for the animals they may have to leave behind.
Candlelight Vigil Planned for Buddy the Dog
GRAND JUNCTION, Colo (KKCO) -- A candlelight vigil has been planned for Buddy the dog, just days before his alleged killer is expected to enter a guilty plea.
The vigil will take place on Tuesday, April 27th in front of the Buddy memorial at the Roice-Hurst Humane Society. Organizers say a short memorial ceremony will start at around 7:30pm.
Earlier this year, the German Shepard - Blue Heeler mix was stolen from his owners, then dragged to death on the Colorado National Monument.
Steven Romero -- the man arrested for Buddy's death -- had intially pleaded not guilty to charges of aggravated animal cruelty. However, the U.S. Attorney's office says he will change that plea when he appears in a federal court in Denver on April 29.
http://www.nbc11news.com/home/headlines/90639269.htmlGov. Bill Ritter is signing a measure that will provide animals and pets protection... more
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While Tiger Woods and wife Elin Nordegren are trying to get their stories straight, Florida Highway Patrol is getting tired of being played and is now trying to obtain a search warrant to get access to Tiger’s medical records, which can help them assess if his wounds are consistent with the minor ca
MORE http://bumpshack.com/2009/11/30/tiger-woods-domestic-abuse-scandal-police-seeks-search-warrant/While Tiger Woods and wife Elin Nordegren are trying to get their stories straight,... more
R&B star Chris Brown was greeted by screaming fans in what was considered his most revealing interview for BET’s ‘106 and Park’ on Thursday (November 12)
FULL VIDEO http://bumpshack.com/2009/11/13/chris-brown-bet-106-park-interview-full-video/R&B star Chris Brown was greeted by screaming fans in what was considered his most... more
Moby donates 100% of the proceeds from his California concerts to domestic violence shelters that had lost state funding.
The California State Legislative cut 50% of the state funds, and Gov. Schwartzenegger cut the other 50%, leaving absolutely no money for the shelters.
Moby's attention to this issue has helped restore funding (at least in the short term) to the shelters through an emergency legislation signed by Gov. Schwartzenegger.
More in the video at link.Moby donates 100% of the proceeds from his California concerts to domestic violence... more
With the White House zeroing in on the insurance-industry practice of discriminating against clients based on pre-existing conditions, administration allies are calling attention to how broadly insurers interpret the term to maximize profits.
It turns out that in eight states, plus the District of Columbia, getting beaten up by your spouse is a pre-existing condition.
Under the cold logic of the insurance industry, it makes perfect sense: If you are in a marriage with someone who has beaten you in the past, you're more likely to get beaten again than the average person and are therefore more expensive to insure.
In human terms, it's a second punishment for a victim of domestic violence.
In 2006, Democrats tried to end the practice. An amendment introduced by Sen. Patty Murray (D-Wash.), now a member of leadership, split the Health Education Labor & Pensions Committee 10-10. The tie meant that the measure failed.
All ten no votes were Republicans, including Sen. Mike Enzi (R-Wyoming), a member of the "Gang of Six" on the Finance Committee who are hashing out a bipartisan bill. A spokesman for Enzi didn't immediately return a call from Huffington Post.
At the time, Enzi defended his vote by saying that such regulations could increase the price of insurance and make it out of reach for more people. "If you have no insurance, it doesn't matter what services are mandated by the state," he said, according to a CQ Today item from March 15th, 2006.
more at link....With the White House zeroing in on the insurance-industry practice of discriminating... more