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~~~~~~~~i married a pornographer , by Emily Southwood
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addresses, redresses, undresses,....whatever,.....
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[ “This is an intellectual swindle that leads women to misjudge male sexuality, which they do at their own emotional and physical peril. Male desire is not a malleable entity that can be constructed through politics, language, or media. Sexuality is not neutral. A warring dynamic based on power and subjugation has always existed between men and women, and the egalitarian view of sex, with its utopian pretensions, offers little insight into the typical male psyche. Internet porn, on the other hand, shows us an unvarnished (albeit partial) view of male sexuality as an often dark force streaked with aggression” ]
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http://imarriedapornographer.com/2011/01/10/thoughts-on-hard-core/~~~~~~~~i married a pornographer , by Emily Southwood
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Call me old-fashioned, but this kind of stuff holds a lot of sway with me, especially the point about introducing the girl to your friends. There's nothing worse than being on a date with a guy who bumps into someone he knows and doesn't introduce you. It makes you feel really uncomfortable. Mind you it's probably because he can't remember their name!
Good tip in that situation: brief the person you're with as the no name friend approaches and get them to introduce themselves first so the no name friend is forced to introduce themselves.Call me old-fashioned, but this kind of stuff holds a lot of sway with me, especially... more
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Here's ten thoroughly sound reasons why it's a bad idea to date a female videogame enthusiast...
My favs numero 9: If your girlfriend is playing video games with you, there is no one to bring you sandwiches and energy drinks.Here's ten thoroughly sound reasons why it's a bad idea to date a female... more
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All over America, there were plenty of reasons to celebrate women last month: August marked the 88th anniversary of the 19th Amendment's ratification, which gave women the right to vote. Women's Equality Day, which was on August 26, commemorated that victory. There are now more women in the U.S. Congress than ever (88) and 2008 was a year when a woman came within a hair's breadth of becoming a major ticket presidential nominee.
But this year, there's also a real threat to the voting rights of millions of low-income women, and it is in direct violation of Federal law.
Take, for instance, the story of Dionne O'Neal. Ms. O'Neal is a resident of St. Louis, Missouri, where she works part-time while pursuing her GED. Like millions of Americans, Ms. O'Neal receives Food Stamps and government health care benefits to help meet her basic needs. If anybody has a deep concern about the future of economic policy, she does. But her right to have a say in government and what it does is being thwarted because Missouri, like many other states, has long ignored federal voter registration requirements designed to reach low-income voters.
The most disadvantaged women in our society are the least likely to express their voice in the political process. Ms. O'Neal is just one of the 32.5 million women--31 percent of all eligible women--who were not registered to vote at their current address in 2006. Low-income women like Ms. O'Neal are disproportionately represented in that number. In 2006, only 63 percent of women in households making $25,000 or less were registered to vote compared to 81 percent of women in households making $75,000 or more.
There is, though, a federal law on the books to help reverse this trend.
Congress passed the National Voter Registration Act (NVRA) in 1993 to increase the number of eligible citizens registering to vote in federal elections. Recognizing that an unrepresentative electorate is one of the greatest threats to a fair democratic system, the NVRA was drafted specifically to ensure equal access to voter registration. One of the law's provisions, Section 7, requires public assistance agencies to offer voter registration services to clients.
But many people eligible to register under Section 7 don't know it, because too many states aren't properly implementing the law.
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How did Sarah Palin become a symbol of women's empowerment? And how did I, a die-hard feminist, end up terrified at the idea of a woman in the White House?
I have been dreaming about Sarah Palin. (Apparently, I'm not alone.) I wish I could say that I'd been conjuring witty, politically sophisticated nightmares in which she leads troops into Vancouver or kindergartners in the recitation of "Sinners in the Hands of an Angry God." But, alas, mine have been nonsensical, kiddie-style doozies in which she kidnaps my cats, or enjoys a meal with my girlfriends while I bang on the restaurant window. There's also a chilling one, in which a scary witch stands on a wind-swept hill and leers at me.
What troubles me most -- aside from the fact that there is suddenly a Republican candidate potent enough to so ensnare my psyche -- is my sense that these are dreams in which it matters very much that Palin is a woman.
I have been writing about feminism for more than five years; I have been covering the gender politics of the 2008 presidential election for more than two. And I am absolutely gobsmacked by the intensity of my feelings about Sarah Palin. I am stunned not only by the way in which her candidacy has changed the rules in the gender debate, or how it is twisting and garbling the fight for women's progress. But I'm also startled by how Palin herself is testing my own beliefs about how I react to women in power.
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So much of this article is very quotable! My favorite paragraph is:
Palin's femininity is one that is recognizable to most women: She's the kind of broad who speaks on behalf of other broads but appears not to like them very much. The kind of woman who, as Jessica Grose at Jezebel has eloquently noted, achieves her power by doing everything modern women believed they did not have to do: presenting herself as maternal and sexual, sucking up to men, evincing an absolute lack of native ambition, instead emphasizing her luck as the recipient of strong male support and approval. It works because these stances do not upset antiquated gender norms. So when the moment comes, when tolerance for and interest in female power have been forcibly expanded by Clinton, a woman more willing to throw elbows and defy gender expectations but who falls short of the goal, Palin is there, tapped as a supposedly perfect substitute by powerful men who appreciate her charms.
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Okay - women's intuition. Granted. Done deal.
But, okay, dig: Us hardlegs? We have our own bit of intuition as well, ladies. Granted, for some cats we're easily talking about borderline psychopathic jealousy and latent momma's boy insecurity.
Granted. Conceded. What have you.
But -- never underestimate male intuition, ladies. Not in its more sedated and controlled, non-restraining order required form. You may think we're being jealous, suspicious, insecure, yadda yadda---but a LOT of times we're just trying in that substantially imperfect way of ours to tell you that we love and adore the hell out of you and we are a bit more dialed in to the fact that we might potentially - at any given moment - lose you to someone else than you give us credit for being dialed in to.
And you may think we're just being a crazy m.f. in the process of trying to articulate this to you---but that's what being a man is all about: Knowing exactly - precisely - what you wanna say---but that isht just don't really come out like Shakespeare like we'd want it to. When we want it to.
So let us drive you crazy just long enough for us to try and get out the fact that you mean the goddamn world to us---and we're dumb asses sometimes, yeah. But 9 times out of 10 we really do try to tell you that... 'Cause we dudes sometimes gotta have our 'do I look fat in this?' or 'do you think she's pretty' moments, too.
Dig?Okay - women's intuition. Granted. Done deal.
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Personally I'll have to add this remarkable woman to my list of heroines.
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