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Dealing with social phobia... day by day... hopefully, also step by step closer to be "cured"...Dealing with social phobia... day by day... hopefully, also step by step closer to be... more
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Shy boy interviews Ruby Wax about mental health issues before his shyness and self-esteem event in Manchester. http://www.leadinglight.org.ukShy boy interviews Ruby Wax about mental health issues before his shyness and... more
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Social Networking for Shy People.
Have you seen this video on YouTube?
f you feel that shyness is taking over your life and preventing you from doing the things that you want in life, you may be suffering with social anxiety disorder.
People suffering with social anxiety may have the following thoughts.
I am so lonely I sounded so stupid
All I need is a friend I can't show the real me
I feel embarrassed and blush Why is it only me?
My mind keeps racing
I don't know what to say
No one likes me Why do I sweat so much?
I can't stop shaking and trembling
People might see I'm anxious
My heart is pounding I'm not good enough
I feel acutely self-conscious all the time
It feels like everyone is laughing at me
Why can't I speak? They think I'm boring
I need to appear more confident
I feel so tense and awkward I want to hide or run away
They must have thought I was an idiot
Research suggests that that Social Anxiety Disorder (also known as Social Phobia) is the most common anxiety disorder, so you are definitely not alone.
http://www.socialphobiatube.comSocial Networking for Shy People.
Have you seen this video on YouTube?
f you... more
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I found this video of a guy who is conducting research into the treatment of social anxiety disorder. IF you feel shy or anxious in social situations, please check it out.
This guy is being a stand of other social anxiety sufferers throughout the world.
http://www.leadinglight.org.uk/surveyI found this video of a guy who is conducting research into the treatment of social... more
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Some men find it difficult to talk to girls. Others, like the two interviewed for this article, are chronically afraid to interact with women. This is a condition termed 'love shyness' by professor Brian Gilmartin back in the 80's (though it's not widely recognized as an actual thing). The condition causes the complete inability to start or engage in any kind of romantic action.
Says one of the men interviewed:
'John describes how last Halloween some workmates invited him to a party at a pub. He knew a young waitress to whom he felt attracted would be there. He grew more and more anxious until, on the night, he found himself rooted to the spot in his living room, unable to go. Afterwards, he began to research online and came across Gilmartin’s Shyness and Love, which he read cover to cover. “It was a relief to know there was a name for what I was going through.” 'Some men find it difficult to talk to girls. Others, like the two interviewed for... more
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I've always wondered if Laughter Therapy was worth a try so I went along to the Leading Light workshop on the 22nd November 2008 and found out how refreshing it was, that life doesn't have to be "clinical" and serious all the time, fun is the key to happiness!
I felt a bit restricted at first, but then once I saw everyone else having fun, I let go and went for it!
Later on in the afternoon I tried wearing a green Lycra suit and wondered around the streets of West London, that was totally mind-blowing. Eric Mutch who runs the FUn Revolution, took us out and there was only one rule, not to talk! But we could be as self expressed as we wanted. And of course, we had to be within the law and treat others with respect.
I would highly recommend coming to a Leading Light event, I don't have social anxiety or shyness issues myself, but I had a lot of fun. :-)
Check out the website on http://www.leadinglight.org.uk
James.I've always wondered if Laughter Therapy was worth a try so I went along to the... more
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Leading psychologists and therapists are hosting a unique, one day, event that is open to anyone confronted by issues of anxiety and low self-esteem. Guests will be given the rare opportunity to spend the day sampling a range of different therapies that promote confidence, self assurance and help reverse the negative thought patterns associated with social anxiety.
Social anxiety is one of the most under recognised conditions in Britain, affecting up to 13 people in 100. Those affected typically experience feelings of dread and nervousness in the build up to a feared situation and often replay events in their minds, analysing how they could have performed better. Physical symptoms such as trembling, blushing, stammering and sweating are also common.
Steve Light, one of the event organisers and a previous sufferer, found his extreme shyness to be a debilitating trait of the disorder that would restrict him from communicating in the most common social situations. Today he is transformed and is actively promoting a way forward for other sufferers.
Life for Steve in the past was an uphill struggle, going from job to job and feeling increasingly isolated in his daily life. Finding it too difficult to talk on the phone and perform simple tasks such as shopping for food, he felt that he was stuck in a vicious cycle. After three years of hesitation, he finally took the plunge and attended a local self-help group. “It was the best decision I’ve made in regards to overcoming social anxiety. I felt relieved that there were other people like me, I felt really supported within the group and made some really good friends from it”.
TFT is one of the therapies on offer at the event, and will be the subject of a seminar by its founder, American psychologist, Roger J. Callahan. The treatment uses specialized "tapping" with the fingers at meridian points on the upper body and hands, and is most well known for it’s use by high profile Psychotherapist Paul McKenna. Ten years after its introduction in the UK an increasing numbers of senior Psychologists, Doctors and Consultants are discovering it’s remarkable ability to resolve even complex issues in a fraction of the time taken by conventional approaches.
Jennifer Wild, a leading psychologist at the London Institute of Psychiatry will also be running a workshop at the event. The institute is considered to be one of the most advanced in the world for the psychological treatment of social anxiety, and Jennifer’s work has contributed towards the development of a unique form of CBT that has been proven to be around 80% effective in eliminating the disorder.
Charlene Seal, also an event organiser, feels that it is important for sufferers to choose the therapy that is right for them. “This event will help to demystify the various treatment options, by providing reputable sources of information, and enabling guests to experience the therapies first hand. Social anxiety is such a common problem, but something can be done about it and there is no need for people to feel that they have to live with it. I personally spent many years feeling constrained and limited and was unable to talk about it because of my concern about what other people would think. I look back on this now and wish that I had have taken action sooner. What I would say to anyone in that position is that it’s ok, you’re not alone and this needn’t restrict you in your life.”
Event Details
Date / Venue
Date: Saturday 22 November 2008
Westminster Academy, Harrow Road, London
Target Audience
Open to all members of the community who are affected by, or have been affected by social anxiety as well as teachers, parents and therapists.Leading psychologists and therapists are hosting a unique, one day, event that is open... more
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Interesting Interactive sessions on you tube.
Conversation with Steve Light about his journey overcoming SA (social anxiety) and his upcoming event: Leading Light. He also answers questions that people leave for him on the video-sharing site.
SPEAKING:
Steve Light: http://www.youtube.com/breadandbuddha
Ben: http://www.youtube.com/fromben
LEADING LIGHT:
http://www.leadinglight.org.uk/ (Nov. 22nd)
NOTES:
We had some audio problems, so you will notice loud "echoes" when I speak, after Steve has been speaking. Don't let these distract you ... as the message and insights that Steve shares during the conversation are *incredibly* valuable ... and need to be heard.
LINKS:
Steve sharing more of his story:
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=odyrbi6Qb1cInteresting Interactive sessions on you tube.
Conversation with Steve Light about... more
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Many of us wish we were one of those people who walked into a room and had friends-to-be flock to them. Anyone would agree that those of us who make friends easily and are innately likable will probably have an easier and more pleasant time of things than those who are incredibly shy or find it very hard to make friends.
Little do many of us know that making a positive impression is far easier than we might think. But before I get started with that, let me let you in on a little secret:
Everyone is just as shy as you are.
Everyone
in the whole world. Some have learnt to hide it a little bit better or simply ignore it, but every one of us has the same fears and self-doubts.
Ill qualify this by saying that I am regularly told that I am good with people and that I appear very confident in social situations. I dont say this to brag, but because if you asked me I would tell you that I am very shy and insecure and overcome it by pure force of will.
This insight led me to ask some of the people I consider to be confident and very socially skilled. The uniform answer: Im shy but I work at it.
It is incredibly liberating to realize that no matter how you shy you might be, the person youre nervous to introduce yourself to is just as shy as you are. In fact, theyd be relieved if you took the first step. With this in mind, here are eight essential tips to overcoming shyness and making a good impression:Many of us wish we were one of those people who walked into a room and had... more
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