Having fought on opposing sides during the brutal Lebanese civil war, two men reconcile openly with their violent history to find forgiveness.
Eric Trometer has been a cinematographer for the last 8 years, he then started directing short films, music videos and founded Tarmak Films in London and been producing and directing various documentaries for independent and broadcast markets.Having fought on opposing sides during the brutal Lebanese civil war, two men... more
Are you looking for emotional freedom? Try forgiving yourself and others. When you do you release all of the pain, anger and resentment and leave yourself open to receive love, happiness and joy. Write yourself a letter today expressing forgiveness for yourself and let go of whatever it is that is emotionally holding you back from freedom and happiness. http://www.oprahpowerandi.com/letter-forgiveness-healing/Are you looking for emotional freedom? Try forgiving yourself and others. When you... more
'Americans who harbor grudges have up to a two times greater risk of heart problems as those who forgive freely, according to new Luther College research that could have implications for Iowans and other people who are viewed as thin-skinned.
The link appears to be stress, which drives up blood pressure and wears down the heart, said Loren Toussaint, a psychology professor at the Decorah school.
"When you don't forgive, you endure that chronic load, the burden of that wrongdoing and the ensuing stress," Toussaint said. "They wear on you similar to running your car without oil."
The transgressions do not have to be big to take a toll, either.
Adults can distance themselves from a messy divorce or past abuse, for example.
"But an unpleasant co-worker who's always got a diminutive remark, you have to deal with that on a daily basis," Toussaint said. "That can be very corrosive on your physiological makeup."
Forgiveness, a traditionally embraced by theologians, entered the scientific mainstream in recent years as religion became a recognized division in the study of psychology.
Toussaint and his Harvard University partner, Alyssa Cheadle, published two studies this year in "Religion and Psychology," a book of scholarly work from public and private universities worldwide. The pair also are weaving forgiveness into treatment plans for fibromyalgia patients and therapy for civil war refugees from Sierra Leone in West Africa.
Next month, Toussaint will begin seminars at Luther for students who strive to be more forgiving.
The heart study's findings were based on a National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism survey of 43,000 American adults from all 50 states. Toussaint's questions were added to the survey at no charge.
Toussaint and Cheadle grouped participants by their responses to questions about heart trouble and their ability to forgive. Twenty-one percent reported at least one obstacle to forgiveness.
The researchers then used statistical analysis to link what they call "unforgiveness" and heart problems and controlled for age, race, income and other variables. They found people who held grudges had up to a 1.7 times greater risk of suffering some type of heart problem.
Risk of heart attack and hardening of the arteries was greater for those who reported problems forgiving many people. A higher risk of chest pain, high blood pressure, rapid heartbeat and other conditions was linked to all types of obstacles to forgiveness.
Toussaint said he worries more about people who are easily offended than those who find it hard to get past one transgression.
"The chronic nature of those offenses, coupled with your inability to deal with them very effectively and to harbor that resentment - that spells disaster as time goes by," he said.
The findings could have implications for people of different religious and geographic backgrounds, Toussaint said.
Some religions teach to forgive freely while others have conditions, he said.
And "nice" Midwesterners are offended more easily than their East Coast counterparts, who have a reputation for being more upfront with their feelings.'
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The caption under the picture reads:
"The words highlighted above are the perfect summation of how I feel about my father. However, we are bound like a book, and I believe our words, like a novel, are already written. Read this post which is so dear to my heart and let me know your thoughts. I think anyone with a father can relate somehow to this piece. Maybe Ethers, you can give me SOME hope? If we keep using the book analogy...and the picture above....the page is not fully printed. Maybe there's time to add more text to it."
This is a blog that is so touching, so well-written and anyone with a parent can relate to. This is a must-read. Really. Unbelievable. The best post I've read in forever. I cried.The caption under the picture reads:
"The words highlighted above are the... more
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May I suggest to the seeker of truth do the following NINE STEPS for purification of the mind:
Clean their mind, their heart and their soul real good.
Clear away all the prejudices and biases.
Read a good translation of the meaning of the Holy Quran in a language that they can understand best.
Take some time.
Read and reflect.
Think and pray.
And keep on asking the One who created you in the first place, to guide you to the truth.
Keep this up for a few months. And be regular in it.
Above all, do not let others who are poisoned in their thinking influence you while your are in this state of "rebirth of the soul."
The rest is between you and the Almighty Lord of the Universe. If you truly love Him, then He already knows it and He will deal with each of us according to our hearts.
Peace to you and Guidance from Allah the One Almighty God, Creator and Sustainer of all that exists.
thank you
Abdullah Baspren********** Priests Embracing Islam **********
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"And among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may live in tranquility with them; and He has brought between you love and mercy. Truly, in this are signs for those who reflect." (Qur'an 30:21)
Marriage is based on mutual love and respect. The Islamic marriage is a sacred contract between a willing woman and willing man. There can be no coercion, and each party is free to include its own terms. The bride keeps her family name and her marriage gift from the groom. A Muslim marriage is completed with public festivities reflecting culture and customs.
Husbands and wives are protectors of each other. They are equal partners and best friends, remaining faithful to one another.
The husband provides, maintains, protects and is responsible for the family. He fulfills his duties with consultation and kindness. While the wife is not required to share her wealth and earnings, she may help her husband. Both spouses work together in the home - cooking and cleaning - and in raising good children.
If couples are unable to live with one another peacefully, amicable divorce is permitted as a last resort. Mothers are given priority in the custody of children.
Prophet Muhammad (may peace and blessings of God be upon him) said: "Treat women well and be kind to them; they are your partners and committed helpers."
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Islam means "Peace" - achieved when a person focuses on God, giving her entire mind, heart and soul to none other than the Creator. This liberates her from human subjection; replacing fear with self-respect; weakness with strength, and conflict with tranquility. God says in the Qur'an: "�do not fear human beings, but be in awe of Me." (Qur'an 5:44)
Islam strongly prohibits oppression or cruelty to any individual, group or living thing in the universe. God enjoins good conduct toward women from birth to death. Verbal, psychological, emotional, sexual, and physical violence are forbidden, as are false allegations against women's chastity and honor. Men are further reminded: "Do not annoy women as to make their lives miserable." (Qur'an 65:6).
Prophet Muhammad said: "Only an honorable man treat women with honor and integrity. And only a mean, deceitful and dishonest man humiliates and insults women." Referring to physical abuse, he added: "Never hit your wives, they are your partners and sincere helpers." He exemplified this by never, ever, hitting a women or child. The Prophet guaranteed protection of the life, honor, and property of women.
"And why should you not fight in the cause of God and on behalf of those, who being weak, are ill-treated and oppressed, men, women and children whose cry is, 'Our Lord! Rescue us from these oppressors, and raise for us, from You, one who will protect and help.'" (Qur'an 4:75)
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Stories we tell ourselves about who and what we are are simply calcified emotional vibrations from a particular observation.Stories we tell ourselves about who and what we are are simply calcified emotional... more
A great tribute to Mother Theresa for advocating peace, compassion, caring, and welfare of the world.A great tribute to Mother Theresa for advocating peace, compassion, caring, and... more
The 12-year-old boy paralyzed by a robber's stray bullet as he was taking a piano lesson in Oakland last year had a message for the gunman Tuesday:
"I forgive you."
Christopher Rodriguez delivered his words after rolling in his wheelchair to the front of the Oakland courtroom where Jared Adams, 26, had just been sentenced to 70 years to life in prison. Then he shook the convicted man's hand.
"I don't know where that came from," Christopher's mother, Jennifer Rodriguez, said later. "We didn't talk about it or plan it. It came from within himself."
Judge Larry Goodman was in a less charitable mood, handing Adams the stiff sentence for wounding Christopher and committing other crimes 18 months ago that left him with a dozen felony convictions. The crime binge included the carjacking at gunpoint of then-state Senate leader and current Oakland mayoral candidate Don Perata.The 12-year-old boy paralyzed by a robber's stray bullet as he was taking a piano... more
From the article...>The Colorado House of Representatives has voted by the narrowest of margins to abolish the death penalty, using the savings to fund cold case investigations.
The measure must still pass the state Senate, The Denver Post reported Wednesday. Gov. Bill Ritter, a Democrat and former prosecutor, has not said he would sign it.
Rep. Edward Vigil, a Democrat, cast the vote Tuesday that put the bill over the top 33-32. He delayed almost a minute before deciding to approve the measure.
"Hopefully this will make us a better society in Colorado by not having a death penalty, though I have my reservations," Vigil said, explaining his vote.
Since the U.S. Supreme Court upheld the death penalty in 1976 while throwing out all existing laws, the majority of states have passed new legislation. Only one, New Jersey, has repealed its capital punishment law.
House Majority Leader Paul Weissmann, a Democrat, argued that Colorado has executed only one person under its modern death penalty law while spending millions of dollars on appeals. Opponents of repeal argued that some crimes are so heinous that death is the only option.
Saturday's edition of my three times a week talk show.Watch the show here on CURRENT TV on Tues, Thurs & Sats.
In today's show :
Someone has been very naughty.
Toilets.
More pigeon news.
Sunglasses.
Forgiveness.
Panels.
A cloudy summer.
How can I show my face in public.
You think they don't know.
You don't want to get the red paper.
Chicago.
I don't like waste.
Not enough ticks.
The karaoke night.
Mother's day.
Welcome Tom.
Wrong coloured pens.
Anyone want a lift home ?
Plastic flowers.
What bad things did you do at school ?
2 years of no smoking in clubs.
Lunch at Asda.
What punishments did you get ?
One long soap opera.
Mini daffs.
Hiding in the cloakroom.
Returning to your home town.
Wobbling cane.
I don't recognise anyone.
Talking at the back.
My church.
Hold on to your wallet.
A plume of smoke.
chris@unitedkingdomtalk.co.uk
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If you have to demand it, is it really worth receiving? Forced apologies are kind of like nice plastic. Shiny, maybe even useful, but ultimately, just trash.
How to Apologize:
1. Say it with your body.
2. Take full responsibility.
3. Express your remorse.
4. Empathize.
5. Invite their response.
6. Commit to preventing it in the future.
7. Expect nothing in return.
True apologies are freely given with no expectations of a return.""I demand an apology!
If you have to demand it, is it really worth receiving?... more
INTRODUCTION ?..........................................................................2
PART 1 - EVE'S FAULT..................................................................5
PART 2 - EVE'S LEGACY...............................................................7
PART 3 - SHAMEFUL DAUGHTERS......................................11
PART 4 - FEMALE EDUCATION.............................................13
PART 5 - UNCLEAN IMPURE WOMEN................................15
PART 6 - BEARING WITNESS ?..............................................16
PART 7 - ADULTERY ?................................................................18
PART 8 - VOWS ?..........................................................................20
PART 9 - WIFE'S PROPERTY ?............................................22
PART 10 - DIVORCE ?..................................................................25
PART 11 - MOTHERS ?................................................................32
PART 12 - FEMALE INHERITANCE ?...................................35
PART 13 - PLIGHT OF WIDOWS ?.........................................37
PART 14 - POLYGAMY ?.............................................................39
PART 15 - THE VEIL ?..................................................................46
PART 16 – EPILOGUE.................................................................51
FOOTNOTES....................................................................................56
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"Nearly half a century ago, in a very different America, Elwin Wilson and John Lewis met under a veil of violence and race-inspired hate.
Lawmaker comes face to face with a KKK member he met violently 50 years ago.
Wilson, a young, white, Southern man, attacked Lewis, a freedom rider for Martin Luther King, in the "white" waiting room of a South Carolina bus station.
The men had not seen each other again until Tuesday when, with "Good Morning America's" help, Wilson approached Lewis again -- this time offering an apology and a chance to relieve a burden he'd carried for more than four decades.
"I'm so sorry about what happened back then," Wilson said breathlessly.
"It's OK. I forgive you," Lewis responded before a long-awaited hug.
"I never thought this would happen," he told "GMA." "It says something about the power of love, of grace, the power of the people being able to say, 'I'm sorry,' and move on. And I deeply appreciate it. It's very meaningful for me.""Nearly half a century ago, in a very different America, Elwin Wilson and John... more
Personal responsibility is still a pillar of Conservatism, believe it or not. So, they forgive the mortgage companies, AIG, all the Big Banks, hedge funds, Ford, GMC, and Chevy, but not the college girl with her daddy's AMEX. That make perfect nonsense.Personal responsibility is still a pillar of Conservatism, believe it or not. So, they... more
It would be easy to label David Best as an emancipator. His beautiful Temple of Forgiveness, which is on display for the last time at Burning Man, offers visitors a place to leave past memories behind. Participants are invited to leave a token of a burdensome memory behind. At the end of the festival the Temple is burned to ashes with the sentimental pieces provided by all who wish to participate.
Find out why this Temple has had such a profound impact on its disciples and why this will be the last year David Best continues this tradition.It would be easy to label David Best as an emancipator. His beautiful Temple of... more
A care worker who paid a neighbour £3,000 to hire a hitman to kill her husband was jailed yesterday for seven years.
The Old Bailey was told that Zoe Kenealy, who was convicted in April of soliciting murder, had been forgiven by her husband, Timothy, and that he was standing by her. A care worker who paid a neighbour £3,000 to hire a hitman to kill her husband... more
