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Male Victims of Domestic Violence - The Hidden Story
Video: How the DV Establishment Misrepresents DV
April 13th, 2012 by Robert Franklin, Esq.
And while we’re on the subject of domestic violence, take a look at this excellent video.
It’s just seven minutes long, but it covers several of the important points about DV that (a) people generally should know and (b) the domestic violence industry is at pains to keep the public from knowing.
As with so much about DV, there are, on one hand, the facts and on the other, the facts as they’re reported by the DV establishment. So, for example, the Liz Claiborne Institute did a study of teen dating violence that found, to no one’s great surprise, that girls victimized boys as much as boys victimized girls. But did the LCI report that? It did not. It only reported the figures about boys violence against girls.
And it’s that sort of frank misrepresentation of the facts that the domestic violence industry can’t seem to keep from doing. Put simply, they have the facts but refuse to make public any but those that fit their narrative of “men bad, women good.”
So, given the fact that the DV industry continues to misrepresent the truth, there are plenty of people who continue to confront it with its mendacity. That’s what the video is doing and to excellent effect.
At the end of the piece, the narrator asks you to send a link to the video to your congressperson. Let me urge you to do so as well. VAWA is up for reauthorization and most of our elected officials in Washington are getting their “information” from only one source - the DV industry that depends on funding from those very congresspeople.
So by all means, forward a link to the video to your congressperson in Washington and your state capital.
Thanks for your assistance.Male Victims of Domestic Violence - The Hidden Story... more
Earlier this month, football star Steve McNair was shot dead by his girlfriend in an apparent murder-suicide. In a recent article for The Baltimore Sun, co-author Ned Holstein points out that many news sources failed to mention that this was a tragic case of domestic violence, in which the male was the victim. Holstein talks about his article, "The Violence We Ignore," and why cases of men victimized by their wives and girlfriends are often overlooked.Earlier this month, football star Steve McNair was shot dead by his girlfriend in an... more
My then-17 year old daughter was out of control. Sneaking out her bedroom window not once, but twice in the same night, with two different guys, more than once. Our neighbor finally told us what was going on; her bedroom is upstairs so I had no idea she could do this undetected.
She had no sense of responsibility whatsoever, did no chores, and her language was as vulgar as it gets.
When I tried to discipline her, she would threaten to call the police and “make an injury” on herself to blame on me. And one day, she made good on that promise.
I came home from shopping one Sunday to find three police cruisers in my driveway and my daughter standing amongst them with a big red welt-like mark on her neck. She’d told them I’d tried to strangle her. I later found out she’d taken her purse strap to make the “injury.” Incidentally, the reason she did this was because I removed a large bottle of rum from her bedroom and poured it out. I remember her saying, “Your ass is going to jail, just watch.”
I was in such shock that I could say little except, “This can’t be happening” and trying in vain to explain the situation to the cops. Then one said, “turn around” and I did and was promptly handcuffed and taken to jail.
I have NEVER laid a finger on any of our children, nor has my husband. He wasn’t at home at the time, and I cannot tell you how it felt to be in the back of a squad car going downtown for doing absolutely nothing wrong (save for raising a spoiled child.)
It was her word against mine, and for some reason, I lost. I received a simple assault charge and was given a year’s probation. When I returned home that night, she had this awful “told you so” smirk that made me wish I was back in the jail, for that’s what my home had become since she began her rule.
I haven’t the words to describe how this made me feel. All the way to the station, the cops driving me wondered aloud how I “could’ve done that to that sweet girl.” It was the stuff of nightmares.My then-17 year old daughter was out of control. Sneaking out her bedroom window not... more
Ouch! That shoe hurts when it’s crammed onto the other foot.
It seems that men aren’t the only ones complaining about their lives as non-custodial parents; women are too. And guess what? Their complaints about the family court system are largely the same as men’s.
It’s true that non-custodial mothers have one additional complaint that their male counterparts don’t. Public perceptions of mothers without custody are predictably negative. Since women are assumed by popular culture to be natural parents who place the highest value on childrearing, mothers without custody can feel stigmatized.
But when it comes to visitation and child support, non-custodial mothers are singing close harmony with dads. According to this site, it seems the concept that it’s the noncustodial parent who takes the bigger hit financially is true after all and not something MRAs made up. And this site calls custodial parents “narcissistic” and says that children have a right to both parents. Both parents? It’s good to hear women singing that tune.
And now that I’ve mentioned child support among the litany of their complaints, take a look at this Census Bureau report of 2005 statistics. Apparently paying to support their children is something non-custodial mothers aren’t very good at. They do a poorer job of it than do NC fathers, even though their child support burden is less onerous than men’s.Ouch! That shoe hurts when it’s crammed onto the other foot.
It seems that... more
“[A] father is just as much a parent as a mother. Except when we decide he’s not, as did Ms. Suleman and her medical enablers. According to media reports, the male friend who provided the sperm for all of Suleman’s 14 children had begged her to stop after the first six — to no avail.”“[A] father is just as much a parent as a mother. Except when we decide... more
"The article speaks of the spiral of death in domestic violence, yet statistics provided in the article note that there were 8,000 DV events reported to police last year and only 8 DV related deaths. That's .1%."
Michael Freeny, MSW, wrote me with an interesting commentary about the recent Orlando Sentinel article Questionnaire helps Orlando police break spiral of domestic abuse (2/11/09). The article says "Orlando cops will soon carry a new weapon when they respond to domestic-violence calls: a questionnaire designed to predict whether a victim could eventually be killed by an abuser." Michael writes:"The article speaks of the spiral of death in domestic violence, yet statistics... more