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If you were going to stalk someone, wouldn't you pick a less obvious way of doing it than from a plane? A guy in California tried to get over a restraining order, by using a low flying plane and dropping insulting leaflets over his girlfriend's house.
Neighbours saw leaflets falling from the sky as a plane skirted the area eight times. "The leaflets referenced a specific person and contained defamatory language and racial slurs. As the investigation has progressed, it appears that the motivation behind this situation is a failed domestic relationship" said the police.If you were going to stalk someone, wouldn't you pick a less obvious way of doing... more
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A reader wrote in asking me why most men are "fascinated" with redheads. In this instance, I think "fascinated" is a nice way of saying "obsessed." She admitted to being a redhead, and, therefore, the object of such ardor.
She's asked these men why they are so drawn to the crimson-haired, and the best she ever got out of them was "Redheads iz just hawt, yo!" This is true, but it is not the whole truth.
I wouldn't say most men love redheads. A sizable majority, sure. And those men who love redheads likely focus on them because of their genetic rarity. The universe makes only so many redheads, and so it makes an impression when a man is beauty-napalmed by one.
I have had a lifelong attraction to redheads: their alabaster skin, constellations of freckles, and combustible temperaments. This is an aberrant preoccupation.
Hair color is neither a dealmaker nor dealbreaker. I've probably dated 50 percent brunettes, 50 percent blonds. I love both, and I've never encountered the usual stereotypes affixed to their hair tones.
The blonds I've dated have never been stupid or vapid. In fact, many have been bookish and wickedly funny. Likewise, my brunette girlfriends have defied the standard definitions.
In my experience, blonds don't have any more fun than brunettes. The women who have the most fun are those women who give themselves permission to have fun.
So, how do I explain a personal craving for flame brains? I could blame biology, how it makes a certain evolutionary logic that Man would pursue those women who, by virtue of a few mutated chromosomes, stand out from the crowd.
I could be projecting my own prejudices and desires onto these women, as they are no feistier than any other person. I could be unforgivably superficial in this instance, drooling over a certain type of woman because she looks like a human red hot.
But the real answer has more to do with my experience. I've never been able to date one. And I am John DeVore, Thunder Love God of Suspiciously Disingenuous Emo Dude Prose.
Every single she-ruby I've ever attempted to date has failed to acknowledge my existence, taken a flamethrower to my heart, or disappeared in the morning like a cinnamon mist.
Maybe this is poetic justice, the price one pays for chasing someone based on a single physical attribute. There was the redhead in high school who used to make out with me after school in the woods. She tasted like bubblegum, glowed in the sun, and dated every boy except for me.
I was utterly in love with a little redhead in college who seemed to shoot sparks out of her mouth every time she talked about her passions, from art to politics to music.
I finally got a chance to kiss her after years of mooning over her, sending her poems, talking late into the night about her favorite topics, which included the occult, Northern Irish politics, and "Why All The Boys Who Aren't You Be Crazy?"
We were at an Irish pub where laddies from "back home" were pounding pints. She and I were a little drunk, and I kissed her at the bar, and the seven-foot-tall leprechaun with a hook instead of a left hand took offense to my putting my mitts on such a bonny lass. I deceive you not: bro had a hook. A hook! I'm happy that I managed to get her into a cab, and get me far away, before the local IRA chapter took a shillelagh to my Texas noggin.
I spent an entire weekend with a redhead whose milky back was a riot of freckles. We did things that still make me sweat. Of course, there was no third day of hot jungle love, nor any subsequent day thereafter, because she informed me with the emotional detachment of a Vulcan that she was "just exploring" her options.
I won't judge a whole group of people by three examples. Clearly, my minor fetish somehow sabotaged any success I might have had with them. I accept responsibility.
m pretty sure a taste for the gingers is solely a guy thing. I've not known many women who are mad, mad, mad for dudes with licorice red locks.A reader wrote in asking me why most men are "fascinated" with redheads. In... more
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Tonight On Max and Jason: Still Up
Freaky sex tips from the pros featuring:
Fetish and Fantasy Ball
Johnny Bell travels to Vegas for the annual Fetish and Fantasy Ball where mild-manered men masquerade as way out there wild guys (and gals.)
http://current.com/items/88843202_fetish-and-fantasy-ball.htm
College Bondage Club
Kinky U is a student group at the University of Minnesota that meets each week to discuss BDSM topics such as bondage, discipline, sadomasochism, and domination and submission. The group is about promoting safety in these sexual situations.In this pod, vc2 producer Joanna Day checks in with the groups controversial student founder and explores the lives and interests of the groups members.
http://current.com/items/90111341_college-bondage-club.htm
Catch the whole show. Tune in every weeknight at midnight/11 central for Max and Jason: Still Up.
http://current.com/max-and-jason-still-up/
Original air date: 09/16/09Tonight On Max and Jason: Still Up
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It starts with pink and blue birthday cards. Toy trucks for him and Barbie dolls for her. Prepackaged ideals judging children based on gender. And it doesn't stop there.
This article shows how, well into adulthood, ads force gender roles on us. Everything from ear plugs to chocolate to swiss army knives: soft & pink for women, tough & intense for men. Are people really this simplistic and predictable? http://www.stilettorevolt.com/?p=1916It starts with pink and blue birthday cards. Toy trucks for him and Barbie dolls for... more
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Is Stripping The New Prostitution?
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HBO is considering a show based on "Savage Love," the sex advice column syndicated in alternative weeklies.
In his blog in his home alt-weekly, The Stranger in Seattle, Wash., columnist Dan Savage said he has been working on "a non-airing presentation pilot for HBO" that would be called "Savage Love."
Quoting from a draft press release for the show, Savage said the possible show "will focus on current events and cultural trends with sex as the filter."
Added Savage: "I'm hoping to bring a new kind of conversation to TV about sex -- an honest conversation, one that's informed without being (too) wonky, funny without being (too) cruel, sexy without being (too) cheesy. Basically, my sex-advice column -- but on the teevee!"
The first taping is scheduled for this Thursday, he said.HBO is considering a show based on "Savage Love," the sex advice column... more
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A sex toy recycling program aims to remain kinky, but green.
Dreamscapes has made recycling a little sexier, in a way that was long overdue. How? Dreamscapes is greening up the sex toy industry one toy at a time, not in a moldy or gangrene kind of way. Dreamscapes created a sex toy-recycling program.
This kinky recycling sex toy program, a non-profit program, established by David Kowalsky and Jean Kozlowski, of Dreamscapes, LLC, "in order to reduce the carbon footprint of the adult novelty industry" launched in December 2008. It was then certified by the Institute For Green Business in January of 2009. They really mean business. They even take it a step further and donate any money they receive "from the purchased recycled materials to local and national environmental causes".
To recycle your sex toys drop them in the mail and ship them to Dreamscapes. Please clean them first. Yes, they can be used sex toys. They can also be unused. They can even be broken sex toys. When the toys arrive at the Dreamscapes Recycling location the toys are cleaned and disassemble into parts. The parts are then sent to select recycling facilities. Every part of each sex toy is recycled and/or disposed of responsibly: the batteries, the hard (no pun intended) plastics, the rubber, the silicone, the metal, the motor and any the e-waste.
Dreamscapes rewards everyone for recycling their sex toys too. "For every package of toys* you send in to be recycled, you will receive a $10 gift card (please allow 7 to 10 business days to receive) to use at one of our affiliate partners as well as some other goodies (when applicable) on your next order." Please note that each package must be filled to capacity to receive your gift card.
So...if you are interested, whatever sex toys you may have (vibrators, dildos, plugs, etc), lying around in a drawer somewhere, that no longer excite you or excited you so much they broke, gather them all up and mail them off to be recycled. The Dreamscapes recycling program address and recycling information can me found here. Don't forget to tell your friends and their friends to do the same.A sex toy recycling program aims to remain kinky, but green.
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At UC Santa Barbara, sex as a matter of course
Sociology professors John and Janice Baldwin, married for 41 years, are trusted voices on love and lovemaking for thousands of students at the beach-side campus.
Reporting from Santa Barbara - As large screens display New Yorker magazine cartoons about love alongside scientific charts about birth control, the pair speak without notes, often alternating sentence by sentence.
Occasionally, they converge at center stage for role play. In a class about the life cycles of romance, they impersonate a young couple in an awkward first meeting.
"Hey, aren't you in my history class?" John says, using a trite pickup line that resonates with his audience.
As the discussion turns to keeping love alive after infatuation fades, the professors demonstrate exercises in compliments. Janice tells John how kind and caring he is, and the class lets out a collective "Aaawww." They also act out the kind of bickering they urge couples to avoid, with Janice telling John she is "so sick" of him wearing the same jeans.
Students say they watch for signs of actual discord. If the Baldwins cut each other off, there are worried whispers about a possible tiff.At UC Santa Barbara, sex as a matter of course
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Theodore B. Olson's office is a testament to his iconic status in the conservative legal movement. A framed photograph of Ronald Reagan, the first of two Republican presidents Mr. Olson served, is warmly inscribed with "heartfelt thanks." Fifty-five white quills commemorate each of his appearances before the Supreme Court, where he most famously argued the 2000 election case that put George W. Bush in the White House. On the bookshelf sits a Defense Department medal honoring his legal defense of Mr. Bush's counterterrorism policies after Sept. 11.
But in a war room down the hall, where Mr. Olson is preparing for what he believes could be the most important case of his career, the binders stuffed with briefs, case law and notes offer a different take on a man many liberals love to hate. They are filled with arguments Mr. Olson hopes will lead to a Supreme Court decision with the potential to reshape the legal and social landscape along the lines of cases like Brown v. Board of Education and Roe v. Wade: the legalization of same-sex marriage nationwide.Theodore B. Olson's office is a testament to his iconic status in the... more
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Attention ladies and gentlemen, I have a public service announcement. As much as we pretend like the physical side of our relationship is less important than the mental and emotional aspects when it comes to long-term stability, I have news for you … that may not be the truth.Attention ladies and gentlemen, I have a public service announcement. As much as we... more
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An Afghan bill allowing a husband to starve his wife if she refuses to have sex has been published in the official gazette and become law.
The original bill caused outrage earlier this year, forcing Afghan President Hamid Karzai to withdraw it.
But critics say the amended version of the law remains highly repressive.
They accuse Mr Karzai of selling out Afghan women for the sake of conservative Shia support at next week's presidential election.
The law governs family life for Afghanistan's Shia minority.
Sexual demands
The original version obliged Shia women to have sex with their husbands every four days at a minimum, and it effectively condoned rape by removing the need for consent to sex within marriage.
The original bill caused outrage within Afghanistan and around the world
Western leaders and Afghan women's groups were united in condemning an apparent reversal of key freedoms won by women after the fall of the Taliban.
Now an amended version of the same bill has passed quietly into law with the apparent approval of President Karzai.
Just ahead of this Thursday's Afghan presidential election, human rights groups suggest the timing is no accident.
"There was a review process - Karzai came under huge pressure from all over the world to amend this law, but many of the most oppressive laws remain," Rachel Reid, the Human Rights Watch representative in Kabul, told the BBC.
"What matters more to Karzai is the support of fundamentalists and hardliners here in Afghanistan whose support he thinks he needs in the elections."
Women's groups say its new wording still violates the principle of equality that is enshrined in their constitution.
It allows a man to withhold food from his wife if she refuses his sexual demands; a woman must get her husband's permission to work; and fathers and grandfathers are given exclusive custody of children.An Afghan bill allowing a husband to starve his wife if she refuses to have sex has... more
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I typically have my finger on the pulse of all things related to love and relationships, but apparently I’ve dropped the ball in this instance. On several occasions, I’ve had women tell me, “Fly Guy, The Notebook is the best love movie ever made. You have to watch it.” And up until this point, I just brushed off their requests for me to watch it—that is until today.I typically have my finger on the pulse of all things related to love and... more
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My brother sent me this video clip of a guy in church who took the whole “God loves a cheerful giver” expression to a whole new level. I wonder if Nas is this happy when he’s writing those $55,000 checks to Kelis. (Ok, that was a low blow.)My brother sent me this video clip of a guy in church who took the whole “God... more
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Hey there Fly Guy,I know I should know the answer to this question, but my new guy friend said that I was a sweet woman with substance. What the hell does that mean from a man’s point of view?Hey there Fly Guy,I know I should know the answer to this question, but my new guy... more
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It’s Friday, and let’s be honest … you’re really not doing any work right now. So I figured the best way to help you melt the rest of your day away was for me to share one of my favorite relationships movies.It’s Friday, and let’s be honest … you’re really not doing... more
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The (Not So) Fly Scenario:
Things were going so well. Or so I thought. But if that were really the case, then I wouldn’t have this sharp, agonizing pain in my chest right now, would I? She dropped by my place tonight, and what was initially supposed to be a romantic evening, turned really bad—really fast.The (Not So) Fly Scenario:
Things were going so well. Or so I thought. But if that... more
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Spotted on Twitter: “Blackberries, iPhones and Twitter killed the dating world. R.I.P.” This statement coming from The Fly Guy himself, made me think, “How do we even manage to hook up in person anymore?!” I know a lot of us are way into technology and social networking, but is it becoming harder for you to strike a balance with old school dating?Spotted on Twitter: “Blackberries, iPhones and Twitter killed the dating world.... more
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Women who drink one or two glasses of wine a day have better sex than those who don't drink at all, according to a new Italian study.Women who drink one or two glasses of wine a day have better sex than those who... more
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Every man has heard the “hell hath no fury” warning upon entering the adult dating world. But I don’t think any of us imagined that “fury” being manifested in the ways experienced by Wisconsin man, Donessa T. Davis. In case you missed the story, here’s an excerpt from the Associated Press, and a video from ABC News.Every man has heard the “hell hath no fury” warning upon entering the... more
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When I saw this piece on domestic abuse, I knew it had to be shared with our Fly community. Now I know that we’ve covered this subject before, but I honestly feel like we have to keep coming back to it. Let’s face it; it’s an issue that’s not going away.When I saw this piece on domestic abuse, I knew it had to be shared with our Fly... more
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