My dude is totally into internet porn

This is a serious addiction than drugs.This person would view any women sexually.

Having a secret addiction can definitely be bad for a relationship.

That doesn't mean porn is bad.

Watching porn with your girlfriend is awesome.

That doesn't mean porn is good.

Porn is a broad term with many MANY different tastes being held under one title. It is, in many ways an unfair term.

Sneaking off to masturbate to a softcore porn clip may not be harmful but downloading two girls one cup three times a week may be a real red flag.

But maybe not.

It depends on the individual and what purpose porn serves in their lives.

If it isn't right for you, fine. Don't watch. If you like it. Good for you. Don't be ashamed and don't hide it from your special someone.

In relationships I have found it is always best to be disarmingly open and honest.

There is no clear-cut answer for everyone. I will say that secrets or addictions of any kind can be consuming and ultimately detrimental to a relationship.

Internet porn is all right, as long as the participants are consenting adults. What's really scary is when you can't control what you see. For instance, I was once summoned by a friend to watch a video that involved a horse. This was years ago and I think I'm still scarred. If it's a secret in a relationship, then it's really a problem.

If These so called girlfriends were on there jobs, this probably wouldnt be an issue. And they be sneek looking themselves. Some girls are the real pervs.

Eh, I don't see anything wrong with porn. Porn wouldn't be such a big deal if society as a whole wasn't still stuck on their puritanical soap boxes.

I dunno, but I think horror movies are worse

Oh, btw, i don't think I've ever watched porn with my shirt off. . .

Yeah, I don't know if it's ok or not. On one hand it might desensatize you sexually. On the other hand, it's two people making love, so whats wrong with it. Iono. Maybe couples porn is ok, and midget/horse/gangbangs aren't. Eww. . . two girls and one cup.

Is internet porn OK? Depends on what you mean by 'OK.'

Depends on the type of porn. Pics and Vids of consenting naked adults is fine, I don't really see how anyone can say it's not 'OK'. However, porn that degrades or is violent towards women is dangerous and in my opinion should be regulated.

As far as being 'OK' to watch porn if you are in a relationship: First of all, to think that your mate is only going to be sexually attracted to only you forever is both narcissistic and unrealistic. Somewhere down the line, your mate is going to be sexually attracted to someone else, a co-worker, a classmate, a billboard. This means that your mate is going to be having little sexual fantasies about someone other than you. I'm sure girls in relationships do this all the time as well. This is normal behavior. So what's the difference between imagining a naked woman, and looking at one on the internet?

I'm pretty sure no relationship has ever benefited from porn

Personally, I don't mind porn at all. I watch it sometimes. I would be upset if my guy left me to go watch porn. By the way, most porn has TERRIBLE stories and acting! XD

I think its ok all them women look like my ex's.

i guess it depends on the individuals. depending on your thoughts of cheating and your definition of infidelity. Some people are happy to share such an experience while others feel a betrayal.We should be able to do what we want as long as we are truthful, open and considerate of the other person.Morality.

but personally, there is nothing that can turn me OFF more than porn. its just not sexual to me. its gross. all i need is an image in my head and my imagination runs buck WILD!

i read an article through Current a while ago - i can't find it.

but it went through how porn is ruining the social competences of males and females alike. how they are unfamiliar with each other on how to act and what to expect

and that closing the porn window on your computer may be a good idea

not just for its moral reasons, but the damage it does to your thinking, socializing and reasoning.

it was a very compelling article i wish I could find!

Until Pornography shows as many women slapping, spanking and choking men as it does the other way around, it remains a male dominated virtual S&M sex toy. No gender balance to speak of and not at all realistic. With this in mind, it continues to breed a false impression of how men should treat women.

Porn is a small term for a big industry. It encompasses a large gradient of 'sex'. Is there porn in cosmo or FHM? This depends on your comfort level. I can't say porn is good because a great many of the participants are under some form of duress but it does allow a viewer(s) to safely explore the possibilities. As a tool it may help a stale love life. It is not necessary but could be a tool. As a replacement for true affection, not even close. And if you pay attention, after while it's different people doing the same thing, booooring. In short, it could help a stalled love life; just don't try to make your whole meal from what is supposed to be a spice. A big olde mound of salt is not a meal no matter how much of it you eat.

Wondering eye or not?

Some think it keeps someone from cheating. Others think it could encourage.

Which would it be?

It really depends on how it is treated in the home. I mean, I'm a woman and I don't mind erotic art like Lost Girls by Melinda Gebbie and Alan Moore simply because I like the beauty and style. Its problem if its an addiction or if its a secret. Also, there is a money issue since porn is often not cheap.

The problem is that it's a secret, if you allow your mates to indulge in it freely, then it would eliminate the sneaking! Me and my husband watch porn all the time, but then again we have a Jerry Springer marriage!

I think people are over-reacting... Porn is fine. People are born naked, believe it or not.

It's fun to watch porn with your significant other and have a good time.

If you need to restrict yourself from it, you have problems... That isn't a problem for me. It's just fun occasionally. Too much, like anything else, is boring.

My husband and I installed an accountability porn watching program that notifies chosen friends if we visit porn sites, that keeps us away.

While fun, the reality is people are creating a false sense of sexual freedom, and most women and men are abusing themselves to get approval and attention.

Porn, like gambling, can become such an addiction it ruins lives. Some people can handle it, but if you need it to get off...well, isn't that one of the first signs of an addiction?

I think it's created the mentality that sex with anyone is a highlight of life.