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Salma Single Again!
Her ex is the CEO of the company that owns Gucci, among others. Any takers out there?
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Obama & McCain Condoms: Protection You Can Count On
Who would you rather have protection your crotch? Obama or McCain?
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The Nice Diary: Date Night, IFC: Rooftop Films
Live in the NYC area and trying to find "grown up" things to do instead of getting sloppy drunk every weekend?
Read our new date night column on The Gritty and the Pretty
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Men’s Guide To Avoiding Chick Flicks!
Great Tips on getting out of having to see those horribly cheesy chick flicks with your girlfriend.
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Housework equals sex ?!?*
Hilarious. Apparently, when men participate in domestic tasks like sweeping the floor, women feel much more sexy and find the man much more attractive! This is according to an article on CNN.com! Hilarious. Apparently, when men participate in domestic tasks like sweeping the floor, women feel much more sexy and find the man muc... more
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Sex and Shopping Consume Our Minds
Men think about sex every seven seconds. Women on the other hand think about about shopping every minute. So funny, yet so true.
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sex and relationships
always an interesting topic, I would like to stay and keep posted.
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Her Monthly Friend: PMS
"The most telling sign of oncoming PMS are when the skin colored nipple high Grandma Panties and old college sweat pants are brought out and considered acceptable couture."
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How To Be An Alpha Male
What does it take to be an alpha male? Find out from Ronnie, professional soccer player and top alpha male.
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Dancing In Anger
Self-help books can get a pretty bad rap. Even Harriet Lerner, psychologist and author of the classic female life manual The Dance of Anger, bristles at "feverishly inspirational books that make large and silly promises." Which may be why she writes them so well.
The Dance of Anger analyzes the impact and importance of anger in intimate relationships, identifying common patterns while productively redirecting anger's path. Lerner states: "Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention." Where we often go awry is in its expression. And wow do we.
Many women (Lerner's book is specifically directed toward women, though is insightful for any reader) tend toward two distinct patterns: a) suppressing anger in the interest of propriety until it bubbles forth at a truly inappropriate time, ultimately diminishing our credibility despite our anger's rational origin, or b) expressing ourselves immediately, but in heated terms that can yield wildly unproductive labels like "crazy" and "bitch."
Good times, right? And that's just the angry iceberg tip. Lerner also delves into the balance of "I" versus "We" in relationships, and the dance between over-functioning and under-functioning partners. Generally, the more emotional responsibility one person carries, the less is required of their partner, and so goes the imbalance cycle.
So, excellent! Patterns exposed, true source of anger explored; Lerner's work is done, right? Well, if this were the brand of self-help book she derides, perhaps. But changing the pattern of our intimate relationships is more difficult and complicated than can generally be summarized, let alone accomplished, in ten easy steps.
What begins as an exploration of common patterns quickly expands to anticipate the effects of our changes on others. Resistance to change is a basic human truth, and when one person chooses to step boldly into personal growth, adjustment, and exploration, it generally follows that the surrounding people scream "Change Back!" as quickly and loudly as possible. By forcing change too soon, and creating a jarring, deeply uncomfortable dynamic, you may be first in line, begging yourself to return to pre-established patterns. Fortunately, Lerner is a step ahead of you, preaching patience and self-love as she guides us through our anger's evolution, identifying the possible responses among loved ones, and arming us with an informed perseverance.
So, is her process easy? Well, no. But sincere pattern-changing requires an exploration of perhaps decades-long emotional habits. Lerner isn't offering the psychological equivalent of a rapid weight loss diet so you can fit into that great new dress next week. She's teaching skills and awareness for lasting change. I'll dance to that.
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Texting Your Way to Love // Comment Picked for TV
Check out what hynese had to say after watching the Supernews "Texting Your Way to Love." In short, "Life would be so much easier if people just picked up the phone..." Thanks for the upload! http://current.com/items/88906818_texting_your_way_to_l... Check out what hynese had to say after watching the Supernews "Texting Your Way to Love." In short, "Life would be so much easier if ... more
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Mr. Big vibrator: you too can have sex with Carrie Bradshaw's on/off boy toy
Sex And The City fans can now enjoy all the pleasures that Mr. Big has to offer. To celebrate the 10-year anniversary of the Rabbit's cameo appearance on the show, Love Honey, the Manolo Blahnik of sex toys, are offering a limited edition version of the vibrator that turned Charlotte into a recluse.
Tall, dark and handsome, the new vibrator is fashioned after Carrie Bradshaw's on/off boyfriend Mr. Big. What's so special about Mr. Big you may ask. Well the manufacturers tell us that he has "has extra-long rabbit ears, dozens of gyrating pearls and easy push-button controls." Though the new Sex And The City film doesn't promise that Carrie and her man will live happily ever after, like the gentleman he is, Mr. Big always delivers a happy ending.
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Porn Business Branches Out To Christian Dating
Any good financial adviser will inform you that diversifying one's portfolio is the best way to gain alpha on your investments. Penthouse takes that advice to new levels and now owns AdultFriendFinder.com (one of the most trafficked sites on the internet worldwide with 18 million members) along with Bondage.com, LikeMyNudePhoto.com, and BigChurch.com.
BigChurch, with its bible-verse search library and innocent Christian-seeking-Christian testimonials, seems oddly out of place in the bunch. Any good financial adviser will inform you that diversifying one's portfolio is the best way to gain alpha on your investments. Pentho... more -
Would your husband use your last name?
A Los Angeles man has won the right to use his wife's last name following a lawsuit against the State California that lasted two and a half years.
After he married, 31-year old Michael Bijon wanted to use his wife's last name, but found that though it was a relatively simple process for a married woman to adopt her husband's last name, with the roles reversed, he would be subject to an entirely different process involving a $350 fee, a court appearance, a public announcement, and a whole pile of paperwork.
After getting stuck in a mountain of red tape, Michael and his wife Diana Bijon called on the California chapter of the American Civil Liberties Union for a little help with their problem. Following their successful lawsuit, California changed its laws, making it possible for married couples and domestic partners to put their preferred name on marriage and DMV paperwork, irrespective of sex.
This is certainly a change that's long overdue. To quote the ACLU's SoCal legal director, Mark Rosenbaum, "This disposes of the rule in California that the male surname is the marital name to the same trash bin where dowries were once tossed out."
As a writer, I'd used a pen name for almost a decade, so changing my name after marriage just didn't make sense. Being a feminist, it also rankled that it was the woman who was asked to sacrifice part of her identity, unnecessarily, and by default.
I've been married now for the better part of a decade, and find the seemingly old-fashioned attitudes and expectations of people and institutions with regards to surname choice quite bemusing. Much of my family still insists on calling me Mrs. X on correspondence. They know full well that I never changed my name, in part to make a point. I also use Ms. rather Mrs., since I think that the change in courtesy title according to marital status, which is another women only thing, is also anachronistic. I figure that those who persistently call me Mrs. X are making a point of their own about the traditional values to which I refuse to subscribe.
Personally, I've always liked the double-barreled option, which literally brings both sides together with a new family name. Michael and Diana Bijan could have gone this route without a change in the law, but in their case, Michael felt far closer to his wife's father, which is why he wanted to use her last name only. For me, the double-barreled choice didn’t make sense, since my name was also my trade mark (and our names joined with a hyphen sounded a little convoluted).
The current humorous Hollywood fashion for combining names (as in TomKat and Brangelina) actually seems rather sensible to me. If John Mayer marries Jennifer Aniston, they could go by the name Mayerston or Anistayer. Similarly, if George Clooney ever decides to get hitched to Sarah Larson, they have an option of adopting Larsooney or Cloonson as their new mutual family name. At least it'd make for a plethora of interesting new hybrid names (though probably some unfortunate ones too, what if Helen Hunt marries Cameron Crowe?).
Then again, I like that other Hollywood tradition of getting married and keeping the name people actually know you by. That option certainly made the most sense to me. What do you think? A Los Angeles man has won the right to use his wife's last name following a lawsuit against the State California that lasted two and a... more -
The Perils of Social Networking Sites: Poke, Wanna Be Our Friend?
We may want to consider re-writing the old adage “you can never have too many friends,” especially when in comes to social networking websites. This short video clip from British comedy group Idiots of Ants highlights the many perils of online friendships on services such as MySpace and Facebook.
Enjoy!
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Dating Secrets By Sign: Is Your Partner Telling You The Truth?
Going on a first date is daunting enough, but then you have to worry if your potential partner's for real and sharing the truth about their being, or on their best behavior and masking less attractive qualities. Sure we all want to make a first good impression, but knowing your date's sun sign may help you navigate the dating minefield and figure out how genuine your date is being. Water sign dates may spill their emotions, whereas fire signs may hide behind little white lies, and dramatize their life because they want you to know how fantastic the world feels about them.
In order to gain a bit of insight, click on the link above for a list of how truths may be told by zodiac sign.... Going on a first date is daunting enough, but then you have to worry if your potential partner's for real and sharing the truth about ... more -
Fitting never-ending orgasms into your schedule: who has time for tantric sex?
Tantra teacher and practitioner Scott Catamas claims that "by combining our sexuality with our spirituality" we can make our "relationships more profound." He also tantalizes with the prospect of never-ending orgasms, which he says make women "very, very happy."
We're sure there's a lot to be said about the benefits of tantric sex. Its focus on eye contact and intimacy is very appealing, but while endless orgasms may sound like a lot of fun, in practice we know that busy schedules (and limited energy levels) rarely allow for never-ending fun (of any kind).
So before we stress out about barely attainable goals and orgasms lasting longer than an MTV Real World marathon, we thought we'd bring some balance into the equation by drawing attention to a recent US study which aims "to dispel unrealistic beliefs among couples that good sex should go on for a long time."
The survey, which was published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, found that a modest 13 minutes was considered the most "desirable" amount of time for penetrative sex to last by those interviewed. Intercourse lasting between 3 and 7 minutes was considered "adequate,” less than three minutes was "too short," but over 13 minutes was "too long."
So, while it might be fun to give tantra a whirl, if both partners have the time, energy and inclination, the thrill, timeliness and therapeutic benefits of a 3-minute quickie should not be underestimated. All good things do come to an end, quality can be more important than quantity, and a highly "desirable" 13 minutes should not be under-appreciated by those who may just have unrealistic (KY-sponsored) expectations. Tantra teacher and practitioner Scott Catamas claims that "by combining our sexuality with our spirituality" we can make our "relation... more -
Bad habits by sign
Whether it's the 'me first' attitude of an Aries or the workaholic nature of a Capricorn, we all have annoying little habits that can drive our partner or friends crazy. If we know what we are getting in to in advance it's a lot easier to play nice and not allow someone's usual behavior to drive us away. So before you throw in the towel on your relationship or jump into a new one, read more about your partner's sign sun to know first hand what annoying little habits come with the package.
Hit the link above for a by sign analysis, and find out if your relationship is destined to be enduring, annoying habits and all! Whether it's the 'me first' attitude of an Aries or the workaholic nature of a Capricorn, we all have annoying little habits that can ... more -
Clever Women More Likely To Have Trouble Climaxing
New research suggests that clever women are more likely to experience problems climaxing.
A survey, conducted by a German lifestyle website, found that 62% of women who had "completed their education" reported that they often had trouble reaching orgasm. That compared with just 38% of their less qualified colleagues. Over 2,000 women between the ages of 18 and 49 participated in the study.
Experts concluded that intelligent women are "too busy thinking" in bed. Seems like these smarter women may need to clear their minds with a meditation Rx.
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Texting Your Way To Love
Times have changed. The eloquently written love notes of yesteryear probably won't get you very far these days when it comes to serenading that special someone. Want to learn how to be a text messaging Cassanova? Watch this Super News pod and you too can be Texting Your Way To Love in no time. Times have changed. The eloquently written love notes of yesteryear probably won't get you very far these days when it comes to serena... more
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