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24 year old: "We're married, we just don't have sex"
As an asexual couple, Paul Cox and his wife aren't physically attracted to each other or other people yet enjoy a fulfilling partnership.
In this article, he gives a first person account of how it felt to grow up without the usual teenage lust, life without sex and how his friends and family took to the news of his asexuality. As an asexual couple, Paul Cox and his wife aren't physically attracted to each other or other people yet enjoy a fulfilling part... more -
http://Hey,i'm asexual
detoutmoncoeur
Ok. I'm really new. I've had a live journal forever, but I rarely use it. I only decided to get on here again because I saw this group.
Recently, I have been questioning myself. I know I'm different, but I don't know if I am truly asexual. I do not want to offend anyone here by claiming I am asexual if I really am not, but I would appreciate if anyone can help me.
I have always been attracted to the opposite sex (males, for me), but whenever I have a "crush" I just have this overwhelming desire for them to care about me emotionally. It seems like the whole world revolves around finding a sexual partner. However, I find the idea of sex truly uninteresting, and I'm even disgusted by it sometimes. I have tried to talk to my friends about it, but none of them understand and most of them treat me like a child because I am not interested in sex. I'm in college, and I have never had a sexual experience. My friends all say that once I do, I'll think differently about it, but I can't even see myself getting anywhere near a sexual situation.
I never go looking for any type of sex, because I have no desire to. The only time I even came close to a physical relationship, was when I made out with my first boyfriend. I never told anyone, but it just didn't feel right. I kept telling myself I wanted to kiss him, but when I actually did, I didn't like it. Afterward, I tried to pretend it was just because it was my first time kissing, but I've never forgotten that feeling. This may sound strange or melodramatic, but it was like I had betrayed myself.
After a while, I toyed with the idea that maybe I was bisexual, and that was what was causing this. However, I quickly realized I'm not at all attracted to girls. Lately, I've been wondering if there is just something psychologically wrong with me, like if I am afraid of intimacy or that it really is just because I've never tried it. But I've been like this as long as I can remember, even when I was a little girl.
Recently, I heard about asexuality and thought that maybe I have my answer. But I have my doubts. I sometimes fantasize about semi-sexual experiences and I have been aroused. But when I actually seriously consider it, I know I do not want to have any form of sex.
Like I said, I don't want to offend anyone. I am just very confused and wonder if anyone has any input.
Thanks. detoutmoncoeur ... more -
Keeping up with The Smiths
Sometimes it’s better to be a cult legend than a stadium-filling anthem band. That’s certainly the case for The Smiths, paragons of jangly guitar rock and nonsense lyrics that dominated the indie side of the radio for much of the ’80s. Morrissey and company might just be the most perfect band of their time.
Notice that I didn’t say the best band of the Eighties. That title would belong to R.E.M., who share many things in common with the Smiths (a sexually ambiguous front man, a gifted guitarist, and a great rhythm section that often goes unnoticed). But the Smiths knew when to quit; they closed down in 1987, torn asunder by the classic “irreconcilable differences” that have ground many a career to a halt. Given 20 years have gone by since the world last twirled around with gladiolas in their back pocket and wondered if they really were miserable now their girlfriend was in a coma — why should anyone give a damn about the Smiths?
Because their fan base is still fervent and growing, that’s why. When I say I’m a Smiths fan, that doesn’t mean I bought all of their records when they came out. I was in grade school, incubated by whatever was big on the radio at the time (Huey Lewis seems to have been the soundtrack of my youth), and I didn’t know Morrissey from Morris the Cat. Not until I got to college, which was some 10 years after Morrissey and Smiths guitarist Johnny Marr last shared a stage.
My first roommate in college was a Phish fan, a pothead, and a late sleeper. I had morning classes and a penchant for stealing the newspapers my frat neighbors had delivered to their dorm room because I was passive-aggressive about getting back at them for their loud, drunken parties. When I moved out the following semester, my second roommate was a fan of everything ’80s, and the music of Manchester, England, in particular. Thanks to his influence, I picked up a used copy of “The Queen is Dead,” and it also served as a gateway drug to the other great bands that came out of England during the decade best known for narrow ties and Eddie Murphy movies.
But that’s not the whole story. Morrissey is still making music, and good music too (from what I’ve heard). Recently, he played a show in Atlanta to a packed audience, including many kids who were way too young to even know The Smiths back in the day. Hell, Morrissey (the celibate vegan who flaunts his asexuality like no other) is huge with Latino gang members in Los Angeles, according to SPIN magazine.
That’s saying something for a band that’s been off the radar since the Reagan administration. And their influence is most apparent on Belle and Sebastian (who share a penchant for weird album covers and copious singles with the indie legends). Last year, Marr became a member of Modest Mouse. How soon before a reunion, you ask? Probably never, considering the vicious battle over royalties that put the band back in the spotlight in 2001. But as long as there are misunderstood kids looking for music that speaks to them, The Smiths will never go out of fashion Sometimes it’s better to be a cult legend than a stadium-filling anthem band. That’s certainly the case for The Smiths, paragons of ja... more -
No Sex,Thanx!
In a world where sex sells everything from food and clothing to tropical holidays and real estate, sexual desire is considered a common currency.
But ever tried buying a soda pop in Mexico with Japanese Yen, or a lap dance in Las Vegas with pounds or pesos? In a world where sex sells everything from food and clothing to tropical holidays and real estate, sexual desire is considered a commo... more -
Burcu Sufi Demirturk, Turkish Asexual Beauty...
She is Founder of Turkish Asexuals. Others, such as Demirturk, take a different approach. She is beautiful and she lives in a muslim country.
For the asexual people who have not visited Turkey before, the first step should be getting familiar with the asexual culture. The asexual culture of Turkey is fairly different than the asexual culture of the western countries, as is the case with the general Turkish culture. Turkey, being situated at the intersection of Europe and Asia geographically, was effected both by the western and oriental cultures. Example,Turkey is the only Muslim country where homosexuality is not illegal. This difference might be good or bad depending on your expectations for turkish asexuals, but one thing is for sure: It is very vivacious and interesting. So being Burcu Sufi Demirturk cannot be easy in Turkey. She is Founder of Turkish Asexuals. Others, such as Demirturk, take a different approach. She is beautiful and she lives in a muslim c... more -
Asexual and Proud
short video related to asexuality, starring: david jay, founder of aven (asexual visibility and education network).
for more videos related to asexuality visit: http://pl.youtube.com/group/aventube (youtube group related to asexuality)
my youtube profile: http://pl.youtube.com/fonfeluch
for more information about asexuality visit: http://www.asexuality.org/ (growing aven community in different countries) short video related to asexuality, starring: david jay, founder of aven (asexual visibility and education network). ... more -
Asexuality, short and essential (from montel show)
short video about asexuality, asexuals, asexual couples, rlationships, asexual love...
great overview on issue of asexuality, showing that sex and love are two different things.
for more videos related to asexuality visit: http://pl.youtube.com/group/aventube (youtube group related to asexuality)
my youtube profile: http://pl.youtube.com/fonfeluch
for more information about asexuality visit: http://www.asexuality.org/ short video about asexuality, asexuals, asexual couples, rlationships, asexual love... ... more -
Asexual Love (take 2)
short video about asexual love and joy, related to asexuality and aseuxal relationships,
this video shows that love and sex are two different things, it does not contain any explicit scenes.
for more videos related to asexuality visit: http://pl.youtube.com/group/aventube (youtube group related to asexuality)
my youtube profile: http://pl.youtube.com/fonfeluch
for more information about asexuality visit: http://www.asexuality.org/ short video about asexual love and joy, related to asexuality and aseuxal relationships, ... more
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